To be a bit concerned about DD's age gap relationship?

I really wouldn't worry about that age gap. Dh is 3 years older than me and we met when we were quite a bit younger than your dd and her boyfriend. I had assumed he was the same age as me and was a bit surprised to find out he was a bit older and a "proper grown up" who could drive and needed to shave but I soon got over it and we've been together 23 years now.

I had a larger age gap, and we met when I was still a teenager. We are happily married with kids. It worked really well. We were both ready to settle down at about the same point, but still had plenty of fun before doing so, and he had had a good chunk of time in his career before we had kids, so we could afford a family-sized house in a nice area and afford for me to take plenty of time off work when the kids were small.

It's really not an age gap at all. Some men never feel the urge to have kids, they just don't use contraception and are happy enough to go along with it. Some are completely anti, some change their minds as relationships progress.
For now of course she should just enjoy the moment.
She's plenty of time to think about children. She doesn't need to rush into it. Neither of them want that now and they're having a great time. All round sounds positive I'd say.
I can't really see any red flags?

YABU.

Let them be. This is far too much input from a parent providing there are no real red flags.

This isn’t an age gap.

5 years is not an age gap ffs. I’ve got 14 between my husband and me. What the issue? You don’t like him? Or rather what’s the REAL issue?

5 years under or over I would consider my age group. We would have similar references. You are over thinking.

I know, it is a really normal gap. It is quite a good gap.

Anything that is a different generation gap or could be a parent age say over 15 years is a different matter.

tbh I see a lot of threads from women in their 30s suddenly in a rush to find someone to have children with.

24 and 29 isn't an uncomfortable age gap. I'd understand the concern if she was 16 and he was 21 as 21 year olds have lots more life experience and they're an actual adult. 29 isn't young at all to become a parent and neither is 24 to be honest.

Eh???? Thought you were going to say he was 49. Not 29!!!

There is no age gap. That’s just normal. My DH and I are 4 yrs apart and grew up (in different parts of the country) watching the same TV shows, having the same toys, knowing the same songs. I class us as the same age, same generation, as is your DD and her partner.

Eh what? Both adults, both capable of making decisions to suit their relationship. You sound like you are far too invested in this.

I was 22 and at university when I met DH. He was almost 27 and had just bought his first property working full time in a professional job. We managed perfectly well, bought our first property together when I was 24 and him 29.
Then started TTC when I was 26 and he was 31 didn't happen for 5 years but our ages were never a factor in it and all.

Heh? 24 and 29? They're practically twins!!

You're being utterly ridiculous OP

I thought you were going to say she was 24 and he was 50! He is five years older than her. Get a grip @QuirkyLemonBird

Gently OP, the problem here seems to be you. You're catastrophising. Imagining future problems without any indication they will arise.

5 years is nothing. They've only been dating for a few months and you're already worrying about potential problems that might occur in 5 years time!

Instead of worrying about all this imaginary stuff, spend some time thinking about why it's got you so unnecessarily worried to this inappropriate level.

“She can’t see herself wanting children in 5 years when she is 29.”

SO much can change in five years! She doesn’t know now what she’ll want in five years time. Right NOW she doesn’t want ch, but may feel very differently in a couple of years.

Alternatively…

He might not want ch when he’s 34. You’ve just assumed he will. I’m 35 and my male friends are 33-38 and all have girlfriends/fiancés/wives. Some have ch, some don’t. I have a 37 year old male friend who is married and him and his wife have no interest in children.

I honestly wouldn’t worry! If she’s happy that’s all that matters.

Im 35 and my boyfriend/partner is 28. I’ve never for one second worried that our age gap will give us problems, we are both really happy and on the same page and that’s what matters.

5 years is nothing. DH and I have an almost exactly 5 years age gap and its never been an issue. They decide between them when and if they want children the same way every couple will. You could have a 1 year age gap and be on competely different pages baby wise.

“she should just take things as they go and enjoy the honeymoon phase of a new relationship and not worry about things which are a few years down the line” - This isn’t unreasonable (although probably doesn’t actually need to be said).

All of this unnecessary worrying about a completely imagined scenario 5 years from now is unreasonable. Your daughter is an adult woman and can make her own decisions / navigate her own (definitely not an age gap) relationship.

I don’t think there’s anything to worry about - 5 years is nothing, esp when you consider that generally men mature later than women.
If he’d already been married and had some kids then I might agree they could be in separate stages of life … but that doesn’t seem to be the case here

Yep!

There’s 5 years between me and DH, we had out child at 41 and 46. Five years between grown adults is not an age gap.

15 and 20 is something to worry about. 24 and 29 is absolutely not.

This is a complete non-issue

5years would be a big age gap if she’s 14 and he’s 19… but once your in your 20s onwards it’s nothing

i don’t even think it qualifies as an age gap relationship at that age

DD has told me she has fallen head over heels in love with him and doesn't know what the best course of action is?

So the problem is that he might want kids in 5 years and she's not sure if she's ready to have kids in 5 years?

I don’t see this as a problem at all

Are you serious?

My husband is five years older than me 🤷‍♀️