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AIBU re DH

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Highnone · 16/08/2024 18:05

having had a really difficult few weeks at work DH and I had a heart to heart and he agreed that he needed to pull his weight a bit more.
was promised a lovely evening tonight, my favourite drink ready and a nice dinner.
he has form for not listening to what I actually want and getting food etc that I don’t really like.
I explained clearly what I wanted (vodka, soda and lime)
home after work, he has bought lime and mint cordial and tonic water. I pointed out that this wasn’t what I wanted.
Big sigh, him pissed off and says I’m ungrateful. Big argument followed with me saying I’m sick of not being listened too
He has decided to go out and watch the kids play sport and left me to it. (This wasn’t the plan)
Amongst my sheer frustration I told him if he goes out I won’t be here when he gets back, said I was sick of it all.
I want to follow through on this but am
mindful I am ranging and full of emotion at the moment.

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Needanewnamebeingwatched · 16/08/2024 18:11

Pack a bag and spend the weekend elsewhere.

If you issue an ultimatum you have to follow through

MounjaroUser · 16/08/2024 18:08

What is it with all these horrible, selfish men at the moment?

Why would anyone get food and drink they know their partner didn't like and then shout and sulk afterwards?

JabbaTheBeachHut · 16/08/2024 18:07

Sounds frustrating.

However, stomping off isn't going to solve anything.

It'll just inconvenience you and probably worry the kids.

Purplecatshopaholic · 16/08/2024 18:07

If you issue ultimatums, you need to be prepared to follow through. Or what’s the point, he will know the next time it’s just words you don’t mean. Depends on what’s actually going on here I think..

Comedycook · 16/08/2024 18:07

I feel like there's a massive backstory