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To think having an indoor cat is cruel?

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Catnope · 16/08/2024 14:31

I was looking after my mother’s cat last week - feeding him while she was on holiday and changing the litter tray - and I felt so incredibly sorry for the cat. It’s not the first time I’ve looked after him for her, and not the first time I’ve thought that.

What a shit life for the cat.

Of course I don’t like the idea of cats killing wildlife out there, but to be a prisoner indoors 100% of the time your whole life?!

It’s cruel. Right?! Just me?

Of course I was nothing but lovely to my mother and took good care of the cat. My mother doesn’t let him out because she fears he’ll get stolen or run over. She lives on a quiet and safe street, so I don’t think anyone will want to steal him. At this point, I also think he wouldn’t have a clue how to kill a bird.

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Sounreasonable · 19/08/2024 10:33

Dreamskies · 19/08/2024 10:13

@Sounreasonable the things I’ve said NEED saying. And the actions need to be called out. Of course there’s going to be people like you and the others who don’t want to hear it, but that’s tough I’m afraid. The excuses for needless suffering are genuinely insane.

@Grumpyoldpersonwithcats I haven’t tried to weasel out of anything, I’m not going to repeat it as clearly the queens of MN don’t like it and that’s up to them. I’ve not harmed a cat, ever. So please do get a grip. All the cats that have been killed on this thread have been killed by the actions of their owners, but you think that’s ok 😂

Its people I dislike, not cats. And this thread goes a long way to express why!

Of course there’s going to be people like you and the others who don’t want to hear it, but that’s tough I’m afraid. The excuses for needless suffering are genuinely insane.

Im fine with hearing your opinion- I just think you are wrong.

I haven’t made any excuses about anything- from my literal first post I’ve said clearly that I care more about cats than wildlife. I care about wildlife up to a point, but the scales drop on the side of the cat. I really can’t make it any clearer.

. I’ve not harmed a cat, ever.

By your own logic you have.

you say we are responsible by proxy for all harm caused by roaming cats because we agree with or partake in the practice of owning outdoor cats.

So in the same vein, if you have been on a plane, in a car, used an internet server, used a coal/oil based fuel etc you have agreed with and partaken in a practice that harms ALL animals and you are responsible for that harm.

Dreamskies · 19/08/2024 10:13

@Sounreasonable the things I’ve said NEED saying. And the actions need to be called out. Of course there’s going to be people like you and the others who don’t want to hear it, but that’s tough I’m afraid. The excuses for needless suffering are genuinely insane.

@Grumpyoldpersonwithcats I haven’t tried to weasel out of anything, I’m not going to repeat it as clearly the queens of MN don’t like it and that’s up to them. I’ve not harmed a cat, ever. So please do get a grip. All the cats that have been killed on this thread have been killed by the actions of their owners, but you think that’s ok 😂

Its people I dislike, not cats. And this thread goes a long way to express why!

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 19/08/2024 10:05

@Dreamskies
You lost all of your imaginary moral high ground early on in this thread in a now deleted post when you said, and I quote exactly.
I hope someone’s escaped dog comes into your property and kills your cat
You've tried to weasel out of those words but how about just owning it?
You are a cat hater who wishes death on other people's pets. It's pointless pretending you are a lovely ethical moral person who has been wronged, when you stated your real views so transparently.

Sounreasonable · 19/08/2024 10:02

Dreamskies · 19/08/2024 09:49

I’m not sure why you’re arguing so vehemently for people to be able to kill wildlife and other creatures when supposedly your cats have never killed anything and never left your property 🤔

The not caring thing has consistently been about actual IMPACT. I.e. the deaths caused by pets, the misery caused to neighbours etc. not whether you inherently care about pigeons, bluetits etc.

If you don’t care about something and are not negatively impacting it either - cool, great, fine, whatever.

If, as many are, you’re actively causing suffering in various ways, you’re made aware of this, and you don’t care about the suffering you’re causing because it suits you to continue to do it, that is the selfish attitude I’m speaking of.

You say you don’t go out snapping pigeons necks. It’s interesting that. I wonder if outdoor cat owners would go out and grab baby birds from their nests, cut a couple of their limbs off, then leave them to die? I’m going to assume not, as that’s pretty sick. Yet that is exactly what they are doing yet don’t want to have to accept it. Bizarre.

If you don’t care about something and are not negatively impacting it either - cool, great, fine, whatever.
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If, as many are, you’re actively causing suffering in various ways, you’re made aware of this, and you don’t care about the suffering you’re causing because it suits you to continue to do it, that is the selfish attitude I’m speaking of.

Ok, so you do think we are all responsible for the harm caused by anything we are tangentially linked to.

Yet that is exactly what they are doing yet don’t want to have to accept it. Bizarre.

So, you with your smartphone/lap top/tablet/internet connection are pushing small children into cobalt mines to be poisoned or crushed to death.

You seem to think the very obvious fact that each and every one of us does ‘selfish’ things because it suits us to do them is some sort of gotcha moment, when in fact it’s just the usual way of things that everyone already knows.

Dreamskies · 19/08/2024 09:49

Sounreasonable · 19/08/2024 09:43

Of course we have hierarchies of things we care about,

Right, so as I said, your repeated claims about me only caring about myself are erroneous- I have things I do and don’t care about just like you.

but most of us don’t kill things we don’t care about

Clearly I don’t go out snapping pigeons necks for fun so I suppose you mean that because I think it’s ok for other people’s cats to roam, I’m responsible by proxy for any birds those cats kill? That’s how I “kill things I don’t care about”?

That is a very weird road to go down- what other issues do you apply that logic to in your life? Are people who support car ownership responsible for all the people killed by other drivers?

You didn’t mention which poster you were “referring to” and the person you were replying to was talking about “people who think we shouldn’t keep pets”, and I haven’t seen anyone say that, other than my comment about my view changing regarding pet keeping

Yep, you inserted yourself into something that wasn’t about you.

I’m not sure why you’re arguing so vehemently for people to be able to kill wildlife and other creatures when supposedly your cats have never killed anything and never left your property 🤔

The not caring thing has consistently been about actual IMPACT. I.e. the deaths caused by pets, the misery caused to neighbours etc. not whether you inherently care about pigeons, bluetits etc.

If you don’t care about something and are not negatively impacting it either - cool, great, fine, whatever.

If, as many are, you’re actively causing suffering in various ways, you’re made aware of this, and you don’t care about the suffering you’re causing because it suits you to continue to do it, that is the selfish attitude I’m speaking of.

You say you don’t go out snapping pigeons necks. It’s interesting that. I wonder if outdoor cat owners would go out and grab baby birds from their nests, cut a couple of their limbs off, then leave them to die? I’m going to assume not, as that’s pretty sick. Yet that is exactly what they are doing yet don’t want to have to accept it. Bizarre.

Sounreasonable · 19/08/2024 09:43

Dreamskies · 19/08/2024 09:19

Of course we have hierarchies of things we care about, but most of us don’t kill things we don’t care about - that’s a step too far. That’s having an actual harmful impact, and is different to simply not caring about something.

You didn’t mention which poster you were “referring to” and the person you were replying to was talking about “people who think we shouldn’t keep pets”, and I haven’t seen anyone say that, other than my comment about my view changing regarding pet keeping. Either way, it still shows your double standards no matter who it was aimed at.

Of course we have hierarchies of things we care about,

Right, so as I said, your repeated claims about me only caring about myself are erroneous- I have things I do and don’t care about just like you.

but most of us don’t kill things we don’t care about

Clearly I don’t go out snapping pigeons necks for fun so I suppose you mean that because I think it’s ok for other people’s cats to roam, I’m responsible by proxy for any birds those cats kill? That’s how I “kill things I don’t care about”?

That is a very weird road to go down- what other issues do you apply that logic to in your life? Are people who support car ownership responsible for all the people killed by other drivers?

You didn’t mention which poster you were “referring to” and the person you were replying to was talking about “people who think we shouldn’t keep pets”, and I haven’t seen anyone say that, other than my comment about my view changing regarding pet keeping

Yep, you inserted yourself into something that wasn’t about you.

Dreamskies · 19/08/2024 09:19

Sounreasonable · 19/08/2024 08:58

At least you’re finally admitting that you couldn’t give two hoots about anything but yourself. Which was my point.

It’s very strange that you would read a post about how I care about some things more than others, and draw the conclusion that I don’t care about anything.

If I have a hierarchy of things I care about, then by definition there have to be things I care about- They just aren’t the things you think I should care about (namely birds and your opinion)

You don’t care about the things I think are important either- that’s how it goes in the world.

You made out that I wanted cats killing because I only prioritise the “right type” of non-domestic animal

That was a post tagging and quoting a specific poster (not you), referring to another poster (who was also not you)- you have decided to intercept my dialogue with someone else and make it about you.

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Of course we have hierarchies of things we care about, but most of us don’t kill things we don’t care about - that’s a step too far. That’s having an actual harmful impact, and is different to simply not caring about something.

You didn’t mention which poster you were “referring to” and the person you were replying to was talking about “people who think we shouldn’t keep pets”, and I haven’t seen anyone say that, other than my comment about my view changing regarding pet keeping. Either way, it still shows your double standards no matter who it was aimed at.

Sounreasonable · 19/08/2024 08:58

Dreamskies · 19/08/2024 07:32

There’s double standard all the way through. You made out that I wanted cats killing because I only prioritise the “right type” of non-domestic animal (which took a while to decipher given cats are NEVER a non-domestic animal), yet you’re doing that exact thing and prioritising one animal over thousands of others.

At least you’re finally admitting that you couldn’t give two hoots about anything but yourself. Which was my point.

At least you’re finally admitting that you couldn’t give two hoots about anything but yourself. Which was my point.

It’s very strange that you would read a post about how I care about some things more than others, and draw the conclusion that I don’t care about anything.

If I have a hierarchy of things I care about, then by definition there have to be things I care about- They just aren’t the things you think I should care about (namely birds and your opinion)

You don’t care about the things I think are important either- that’s how it goes in the world.

You made out that I wanted cats killing because I only prioritise the “right type” of non-domestic animal

That was a post tagging and quoting a specific poster (not you), referring to another poster (who was also not you)- you have decided to intercept my dialogue with someone else and make it about you.

BionicBadger · 19/08/2024 08:29

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 18/08/2024 20:22

So from this thread I discover

  1. @Dreamskies is perfectly reasonable and anyone who lets their cat out is a 'selfish bastard' or 'an outdoor cat nutter'
  2. @grapesstrawberriesplease Knows more about cats than anyone else in the whole world, including my vet (who actually has some real qualifications) and many cat charities. Presumably this is because she has a certificate and therefore I am not worthy of an opinion
  3. I have discovered that I am an utterly selfish bastard who knows nothing about cats, presumably because I have the temerity to disagree with these two fonts of wisdom, oh, and also I would be the worst neighbour in the world

Well since you two have both been insulting to me throughout this thread I asked one of my cats what she thought about randos on the Internet telling her to stay inside.
She responded
'fuck that idea you stupid twats'
Please note - she is outside 🙀. She hasn't caught fire, been run over by a number 22 bus, been fed poison by an arsehole, she also hasn't been swept away by a passing golden eagle or used as fox cub food by a cunning little vixen. She hasn't even wiped out any bird species yet this evening or murdered anyone's house pet.

Thought it was time to lighten the thread
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Fab post and your gorgeous cat’s considered response is bang on the nail!

alwayscrashinginthesamecar1 · 19/08/2024 08:12

ElaineMBenes · 16/08/2024 15:47

I have a ragdoll cat.
She wouldn't last two mins outside.
Some breeds aren't suited to being outside.

I also have a ragdoll and until a month ago I would have agreed with you. Mine escaped from the catio one night during a storm (the fence fell over). He was missing for ten days and we were heart broken. He turned up a few streets away where he had been eating another cats food and also using its toilet, as he is obviously far too fancy to poop alfresco! Anyway, he was so happy we found him he ran into the cat carrier. So, while he did survive, I don't think he enjoyed it much, and I think the catio will be excitement enough for him from now on.

Dreamskies · 19/08/2024 07:53

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 19/08/2024 07:40

You're a fine one to talk about empathy after your comment to the poster who lost her cat. Any decent person would have stopped at 'I'm sorry about your cat' but not you, you had to make a dig and you're still using it to make a point.

I have total empathy - for the cat, the victim. The poster didn’t just say she’d lost her cat, she made a very clear point that despite losing the cat she would do the exact same to any other cat and put it at risk 🤯

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 19/08/2024 07:47

grapesstrawberriesplease · 19/08/2024 01:06

Thanks! I mean I realised a while ago this thread is full of closed minded “my reality is the only reality” people, so I checked out a while ago 😂 but it’s good to see there are still sane cat owners around!

Are you really too blinkered to recognise that you are the prime example of that behaviour on this thread?
But you're right because you have a certificate...

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 19/08/2024 07:40

Dreamskies · 18/08/2024 23:31

Ok, I’ll take your word that your cats don’t roam. That’s fair enough, and I sincerely hope that it’s true. However you clearly still support roaming cats, and show no empathy whatsoever for those who suffer in various ways, just sympathy for someone who has deliberately put their cat in danger, leading to its death at just one year old.

You're a fine one to talk about empathy after your comment to the poster who lost her cat. Any decent person would have stopped at 'I'm sorry about your cat' but not you, you had to make a dig and you're still using it to make a point.

sunsetsandboardwalks · 19/08/2024 07:40

JudyP · 19/08/2024 00:59

Where we are in the USA there are a lot of coyotes so every cat is an indoor cat otherwise it's a dead cat - if it's always been an indoor cat then I don't think it's cruel as that's all they know - just one perspective

I don't agree that it's not cruel because it's all the know, but I do understand why cats are kept indoors in situations like that.

Dreamskies · 19/08/2024 07:34

Canthave2manycats · 19/08/2024 00:05

We have numerous bird stations in our garden, and have a huge variety of birds visit them. Our own cats are indoors but the neighbours' cats target the birds in our garden. I hate it when they kill a blue tit or a goldfinch and I do try to monitor it from my dining room where I WFH. It's nature though and much as I would love to, I can't stop it.

It isn’t nature when an invasive pet, who has been put there by a human, kills a wild bird.

It’s nice to hear that as a cat owner you make sensible choices and actually care about the wildlife, but please don’t continue to excuse the owners poor behaviour by thinking this is “nature”. It isn’t.

Dreamskies · 19/08/2024 07:32

Sounreasonable · 19/08/2024 00:00

Of course- as my first post said, if you are concerned about wildlife more than your cat then you wouldn’t have a roaming cat.

If someone has a roaming cat then you can take it as read that they care more about the cats enjoyment than about dead rats.

There is no double standard or hypocrisy there- one thing matters to the cat owner more than the other.

There’s double standard all the way through. You made out that I wanted cats killing because I only prioritise the “right type” of non-domestic animal (which took a while to decipher given cats are NEVER a non-domestic animal), yet you’re doing that exact thing and prioritising one animal over thousands of others.

At least you’re finally admitting that you couldn’t give two hoots about anything but yourself. Which was my point.

Dreamskies · 19/08/2024 07:28

Canthave2manycats · 19/08/2024 00:02

Don't be daft - you know anything can come in!

It’s abundantly clear that you keep your windows and doors shut because of your choice to store cats in your house (which is absolutely fine!)

that, however, is very different to causing another person to have to have their windows and doors shut because of other people not taking responsibility for their pets actions.

It’s not reasonable to say one person must go to extreme lengths to try to mitigate the impact of a cat, while the owner can just shirk all responsibility. No, sorry.

YankSplaining · 19/08/2024 05:31

Scirocco · 17/08/2024 14:23

He is adorable! So much cuteness!

Thanks. 🙂 I’m really glad my SIL could take him, because my six-year-old daughter saw this cat for fifteen minutes and decided that she loved him and couldn’t bear the thought of never seeing him again. Our vet explicitly told us that our cat (the one who was bitten by a coyote) would not do well with another cat in the house.

MissConductUS · 19/08/2024 02:02

JudyP · 19/08/2024 00:59

Where we are in the USA there are a lot of coyotes so every cat is an indoor cat otherwise it's a dead cat - if it's always been an indoor cat then I don't think it's cruel as that's all they know - just one perspective

Same here. I posted about the coyotes upthread.

grapesstrawberriesplease · 19/08/2024 01:06

Dreamskies · 18/08/2024 18:28

So are most of the owners on here 🤣😂

check out @grapesstrawberriesplease post - she seems like she has genuine knowledge and a factual and balanced view tbh.

Thanks! I mean I realised a while ago this thread is full of closed minded “my reality is the only reality” people, so I checked out a while ago 😂 but it’s good to see there are still sane cat owners around!

JudyP · 19/08/2024 00:59

Where we are in the USA there are a lot of coyotes so every cat is an indoor cat otherwise it's a dead cat - if it's always been an indoor cat then I don't think it's cruel as that's all they know - just one perspective

XenoBitch · 19/08/2024 00:37

Canthave2manycats · 19/08/2024 00:00

How? My three are indoors but I absolutely defend the right of cats to be outdoors if that is what they want!

By all means let them outdoors, but don't have a go at car drivers or dog owners (and by this I mean dogs in their own gardens) if you cat is killed by one of them.

Canthave2manycats · 19/08/2024 00:13

Dreamskies · 18/08/2024 23:41

The problem with that is that no one else’s pet should be on or in my property if I don’t want them to be! If I want to open a window or door to ventilate my home, or while I’m in and out of the house doing jobs, or for any reason whatsoever, of course I should be able to! 🙄

Well clearly you can't prevent it happening, so why don't you ensure your pets are safe? This is on you!

Sounreasonable · 19/08/2024 00:10

Dreamskies · 18/08/2024 23:51

Ok, so it’s fine for you to not like birds and be fine with them being killed. But not ok if someone doesn’t like cats, or doesn’t want cats on their property, killing their pets, or killing the wildlife they care for. Gotcha.

Those double standards again, I mean, I didn’t expect anything less 🙂

But not ok if someone doesn’t like cats, or doesn’t want cats on their property, killing their pets, or killing the wildlife they care for. Gotcha.

It’s absolutely fine for people not to like cats, not to want them on their property and to care about the wildlife- where have I said it isn’t? Loads of people feel that way.

They can give money to wildlife charities, campaign for a law change so cats must be contained, chase cats away if they see them, name and shame people on Facebook, nurse injured crows back to health etc-

What they can’t do is expect cat owners to alter their behaviour to suit them.

You have to accept that people disagree with your opinion, have different values to you and won’t change to suit your agenda.

Canthave2manycats · 19/08/2024 00:05

Sounreasonable · 18/08/2024 23:49

I do support cats roaming- mine don’t. For some reason one doesn’t bother to leave the house and the other isn’t capable of exiting the yard- I don’t know why, she just has poor coordination.

I feel sorry for cats that suffer in various ways outdoors- I don’t agree that because sometimes bad things happen no cats should be allowed to roam. That isn’t a proportionate response to the risk.

Cats in some situations shouldn’t roam because it’s too dangerous for them- the risk outweighs the benefit. In that situation I wouldn’t have a cat because I also feel sorry for them being kept locked in when they want to go out.

My feelings do not extend to birds- I don’t like them.

I wouldn’t keep caged birds because I don’t think any living creature should be locked up- it’s cruel and unnecessary (with caveats for rescues or breeding purposes for endangered whatevers etc),

and I purposely avoid having anything to attract birds onto my property because of the cats,

Beyond that I am completely unconcerned about birds. I don’t feel concern if other people’s cats kill birds, it not my circus.

We have numerous bird stations in our garden, and have a huge variety of birds visit them. Our own cats are indoors but the neighbours' cats target the birds in our garden. I hate it when they kill a blue tit or a goldfinch and I do try to monitor it from my dining room where I WFH. It's nature though and much as I would love to, I can't stop it.

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