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To think having an indoor cat is cruel?

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Catnope · 16/08/2024 14:31

I was looking after my mother’s cat last week - feeding him while she was on holiday and changing the litter tray - and I felt so incredibly sorry for the cat. It’s not the first time I’ve looked after him for her, and not the first time I’ve thought that.

What a shit life for the cat.

Of course I don’t like the idea of cats killing wildlife out there, but to be a prisoner indoors 100% of the time your whole life?!

It’s cruel. Right?! Just me?

Of course I was nothing but lovely to my mother and took good care of the cat. My mother doesn’t let him out because she fears he’ll get stolen or run over. She lives on a quiet and safe street, so I don’t think anyone will want to steal him. At this point, I also think he wouldn’t have a clue how to kill a bird.

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BanksysSprayCan · 18/08/2024 09:51

Most cats will just accept whatever they are used to.

I had rescues that were indoor cats, and they were initially very frightened outside, but I gradually got them used to pottering around the garden. They were never truly comfortable though.

I have also had rescues that are outdoor cats, including one feral cat. It would have been cruel to keep them indoors exclusively as they were used to being free to roam outside.

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 18/08/2024 09:46

I don’t believe any pets should be bred anymore, too many neglected animals out there 🫤

Bloody hell - something we agree on. All of mine have been strays, other people's 'accidental litters' or rescues.

Dreamskies · 18/08/2024 09:33

Saracen · 18/08/2024 09:31

We have two ferrets, and devote several hours a day to following them round the garden holding the other end of the lead. Ferrets are such escape artists that we could never let them roam the garden unattended, not even if we spent thousands on fencing and trying to stop them tunnelling out. They are outstanding diggers!

When we first got them, I was inclined to keep them indoors. But they absolutely come alive when they are out following scent trails and digging. This is what they were born to do. (Well, that and murdering rabbits, but they have no opportunity to hunt anything bigger than a worm.) They are very nose-orientated. Now, I feel there's no way I could keep them always indoors in good conscience, no matter how much space they might have and no matter how many toys we might buy them.

Luckily, ferrets sleep nearly all day long, so this arrangement seems adequate for them. All the same, I have been questioning the morality of pet ownership. They would clearly prefer to be off the lead and to come and go whenever they want, not just the few hours when we're prepared to walk them.

You’re providing a safe and enriched environment for them, whilst not leaving them unsupervised or able to cause problems to anyone.

I, too, have questioned the morality of pets ownership over several years, I doubt I’d ever buy another pet. I don’t believe any pets should be bred anymore, too many neglected animals out there 🫤

Saracen · 18/08/2024 09:31

We have two ferrets, and devote several hours a day to following them round the garden holding the other end of the lead. Ferrets are such escape artists that we could never let them roam the garden unattended, not even if we spent thousands on fencing and trying to stop them tunnelling out. They are outstanding diggers!

When we first got them, I was inclined to keep them indoors. But they absolutely come alive when they are out following scent trails and digging. This is what they were born to do. (Well, that and murdering rabbits, but they have no opportunity to hunt anything bigger than a worm.) They are very nose-orientated. Now, I feel there's no way I could keep them always indoors in good conscience, no matter how much space they might have and no matter how many toys we might buy them.

Luckily, ferrets sleep nearly all day long, so this arrangement seems adequate for them. All the same, I have been questioning the morality of pet ownership. They would clearly prefer to be off the lead and to come and go whenever they want, not just the few hours when we're prepared to walk them.

sunsetsandboardwalks · 18/08/2024 09:29

Good for you @Dreamskies clearly freely a much better person than me 😂

Dreamskies · 18/08/2024 09:28

Sounreasonable · 18/08/2024 09:27

Yes, I think we have all got that message 🙂

Excellent news 😁

Dreamskies · 18/08/2024 09:28

sunsetsandboardwalks · 18/08/2024 09:27

@Dreamskies morally it's not okay, legally it is.

We clearly have different morals regarding cats so 🤷‍♀️

No, we have different morals regarding the needless killing of animals and causing constant nuisance to neighbours.

Sounreasonable · 18/08/2024 09:27

Dreamskies · 18/08/2024 09:18

I do think it’s quite selfish to choose to cause injury, death and suffering, plus nuisance to your neighbours who are just wanting to enjoy their property in peace. I appreciate you can choose to do those things, but I think it’s important to be called out as well.

Yes, I think we have all got that message 🙂

sunsetsandboardwalks · 18/08/2024 09:27

@Dreamskies morally it's not okay, legally it is.

We clearly have different morals regarding cats so 🤷‍♀️

Dreamskies · 18/08/2024 09:26

sunsetsandboardwalks · 18/08/2024 09:24

Well, as has been said multiple times, if you have an issue with the laws that give cats the right to roam, take it up with the government 🤷‍♀️

You clearly think outdoor cat owners are awful moral failures but the point still stands that it's perfectly legal - your complain is with the wrong people.

It’s legal to smoke in your front room with your baby next to you, is that ok too? 😬

You shouldn’t need a law to police your behaviour.

sunsetsandboardwalks · 18/08/2024 09:25

@Dreamskies maybe not, but in the meantime people are going to do what's best by their pets.

Mine is legally allowed out to roam and for unwell when I kept him inside - to the point that he nearly died twice through stress. He wasn't from a breeder, he didn't cost me anything, but I chose to keep him and unless the law changes, he's going to keep going outside because that's what's best for him and his health.

Dreamskies · 18/08/2024 09:24

sunsetsandboardwalks · 18/08/2024 09:24

Well, as has been said multiple times, if you have an issue with the laws that give cats the right to roam, take it up with the government 🤷‍♀️

You clearly think outdoor cat owners are awful moral failures but the point still stands that it's perfectly legal - your complain is with the wrong people.

I’ve already answered this several times over 👍🏻

sunsetsandboardwalks · 18/08/2024 09:24

Well, as has been said multiple times, if you have an issue with the laws that give cats the right to roam, take it up with the government 🤷‍♀️

You clearly think outdoor cat owners are awful moral failures but the point still stands that it's perfectly legal - your complain is with the wrong people.

namechangeforthisi · 18/08/2024 09:23

I feel so guilty reading this that my cats can't go outside

Dreamskies · 18/08/2024 09:22

sunsetsandboardwalks · 18/08/2024 09:21

Cat proofing gardens is a great idea, and solves the roaming cat issues. Most can’t be bothered to do this though.

We did "bother" to cat proof but it still made one my cats so stressed he was sick (urinary blockages). Being a prisoner in a garden is still being a prisoner.

Back to my point of cats not being a suitable pet for the 21st century 🙂

Dreamskies · 18/08/2024 09:21

sunsetsandboardwalks · 18/08/2024 09:18

There are lots of invasive species living in the UK - do you have issues with all of them or is it just cats?

Who owns all the grey squirrels? Who is it that bred and bought them, then let them out?

No one, they’re not pets. There’s also already rules on invasives around not being able to release them into the wild, e.g. if you find an injured grey squirrel, you can’t then let it back out into the wild.

The problem with cats is they’re owned - and people are purposely buying them and then sending them outside in their millions.

sunsetsandboardwalks · 18/08/2024 09:21

Cat proofing gardens is a great idea, and solves the roaming cat issues. Most can’t be bothered to do this though.

We did "bother" to cat proof but it still made one my cats so stressed he was sick (urinary blockages). Being a prisoner in a garden is still being a prisoner.

Dreamskies · 18/08/2024 09:19

Saracen · 18/08/2024 09:15

Haven't RTFT but here is an interesting idea. My sister's elderly indoor cats were overweight and diabetic. The vet suggested letting them out. Sis was cautious, fearing they would run off and get lost or knocked over by a car.

But she tried it and in their case, probably because of their age, it worked great. They had no inclination to roam, but instead just pottered around the garden for a few hours a day. It had a chest-high fence, so they could have got out if they wanted, but they didn't bother! It perked them right up. They lost weight and seemed MUCH healthier and happier.

Cat proofing gardens is a great idea, and solves the roaming cat issues. Most can’t be bothered to do this though.

Werweisswohin · 18/08/2024 09:19

namechangeforthisi · 18/08/2024 08:19

I don't know why people care about wild birds being killed by cats but will eat chickens raised and killed for food. It's nature

The chickens are bred for eating.
The wild birds are not, and may actually be species with low numbers. This applies to some small rodents too.

sunsetsandboardwalks · 18/08/2024 09:18

There are lots of invasive species living in the UK - do you have issues with all of them or is it just cats?

Dreamskies · 18/08/2024 09:18

Sounreasonable · 18/08/2024 09:15

You can think I’m weird for having a cat, I can think you’re weird for being so angry about birds- the variety of opinions and preferences in the world is one of the nicer things about it I think.

I do think it’s quite selfish to choose to cause injury, death and suffering, plus nuisance to your neighbours who are just wanting to enjoy their property in peace. I appreciate you can choose to do those things, but I think it’s important to be called out as well.

Dreamskies · 18/08/2024 09:16

sunsetsandboardwalks · 18/08/2024 09:14

WILDLIFE IS NATURE - CATS ARE NOT!

What's your definition of wildlife? Because cats have been around for thousands of years, both domesticated and feral.

There may be more cats around nowadays due to the number of people who keep them as pets, but let's not pretend they're a brand new introduction to our ecosystem - they've been around in Europe for at least 3,000 years and in Asia/Africa for four times that amount 🤷‍♀️

Pet cats are a domestic species. They’re not native in this country, nor in any other, as they’re not a wild animal. Even if they were a wild species, adding more of them is still not going to be ok, and would still throw the natural balance. But they aren’t, they’re invasive.

this has been covered by a few posters earlier on if you’re actually interested in finding out.

Sounreasonable · 18/08/2024 09:15

Dreamskies · 18/08/2024 09:04

@Sounreasonable @Grumpyoldpersonwithcats

we’ve already covered legislation. Something being legal doesn’t make it right. Killing things, putting your pet at risk and causing nuisance to others because the law allows it? Weird.

You can think I’m weird for having a cat, I can think you’re weird for being so angry about birds- the variety of opinions and preferences in the world is one of the nicer things about it I think.

Saracen · 18/08/2024 09:15

Haven't RTFT but here is an interesting idea. My sister's elderly indoor cats were overweight and diabetic. The vet suggested letting them out. Sis was cautious, fearing they would run off and get lost or knocked over by a car.

But she tried it and in their case, probably because of their age, it worked great. They had no inclination to roam, but instead just pottered around the garden for a few hours a day. It had a chest-high fence, so they could have got out if they wanted, but they didn't bother! It perked them right up. They lost weight and seemed MUCH healthier and happier.

Dreamskies · 18/08/2024 09:15

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 18/08/2024 09:11

We'll just have to agree to disagree on this one. Were cats not allowed to free roaming in the UK I wouldn't keep them as I believe their quality of life would be (in many cases) significantly reduced by this restriction.
There are laws I might think are daft - however in a democracy I choose to live by them.

I get that, and many people seem to ease their conscience in this way. All I ask is that you consider the many negative impacts your (and other people’s) cats have on your neighbours and on the ecosystem, plus the constant risk you’re putting your pet at each day. Maybe a different pet would be more appropriate next time 🙂