Friends with camper vans needing lifts...

I've had similar with motorbike owners. Yes, they have transport but there's nowhere to store the helmet, it's not worth getting all the gear on and off and on and off again to go 15 minutes, might get stolen, can't wear nice clothes etc etc. much easier (for them) for me to give them a lift

If she does come back to you op just say you're very sorry but you're not able to waste money on petrol to drive other people around.

This!

Incidentally, how would she react if you demanded to borrow their motorhome every time you wanted to go away, as "We don't want to waste money on hotels or holiday lets"?!

As PP said, it's only wasting money on taxis if you're getting one rather than bothering to walk for 5 minutes (if able-bodied) or forgetting to get your own car MoT'd in time etc. If you need a car for a trip and you don't have a car of your own, how is it a waste to hire one (with a driver)?

When I saw the thread title, I thought it was going to be about the kind of people who buy motorhomes for simplicity of travelling on holiday, but then expect the caravanners and campers to give them a lift into town or to the supermarket every day, as it's an enormous faff having to pack everything down and drive there in the moho.

It's just pure stupidity to swap an everyday runabout car for something that can't fulfil the same purpose, and then be surprised that you can't get around as easily or flexibly anymore.

YANBU they are CF. Loving the comment about you noticing!

Camper vans are great, but need a lot of research first. Buying a 22-year old van is daft.

Not necessarily, as long as you check it out very thoroughly before buying. Some camper vans twice that age still go for a lot of money - largely because they're often only used for two or three weeks a year, so they have a very low mileage and minimal wear.

You don't need to do anything else op, just leave her twisting in the wind and carry on enjoying your Tai chi 😎

Fifteen minutes by car, depending on the type of road, could be as little as a half an hour by bicycle. She'd get a nice warm-up enroute.

She doesn't want to waste money on taxi but OK to waste your time every week

We’re down to one car temporarily. In the meantime, if DH has the car and I need it too, the person going the shortest distance orders an Uber. I don’t CF rides off of people. 🙄

Only read the op, but well done!! If they want a taxi, they can pay for it (and why can’t Mrs motorhome husband give her lifts!)

I'll do anything to help anyone until it becomes expected, and then it really irritates me.
When DD was born I had a friend I met at a baby group, her work was walking distance so she didn't have a car. I offered a few timed to pick her up and I genuinely didn't mind until she started to be closer to other people in the group. This was fine, but she'd still message me, use me for a lift, then disappear off.
Sometimes it was on my way. More often it was not.
It came to a natural end as we all filtered back to work but I'm annoyed with myself even now, years later, that I was used, especially as we lost touch not long after, so I seemed to mean very little to her anyway!

YANBU. I don't drive and we only have one car, so if I need to be somewhere not accessible by public transport, I organise it with my husband to make sure he's free and can take me, or I don't go. If someone offers me a lift I'm very grateful for that but I don't organise my social life expecting others to facilitate me getting there.

Total CF's!!! Love your responses op!

Tell her … if she can get herself to yours, happy to give her a lift.
she only need to pay taxi halfway.
Not likely going to happen, I think.

I have a 28 yr old Bongo. I use it for everything. Your response is reasonable.

I think I would be inclined to say that if CF NEEDS a lift then it will come at a cost to her financially. Why should you pick up the cost? Tell her the lift is putting you out and that you can't afford the cost so if she needs a lift on the odd occasion it will be £10 to cover your time, fuel and extra wear and tear of your vehicle.

I can’t believe someone would have the cheek to ask someone to drive out of their way for an exercise class friend regularly. Just be clear on your boundaries, no need to comment on their choices. Ie sorry it’s a massive bind I don’t have time.

moho belongs in the bin with spag bol and platty jubes

NBU - I'm surprised that it's taken you this long to mention something.
Why can't she get herself an eBike if the motor home isn't working out for her to go and do local trips?

Could you do the trip from her house to the venue in a taxi (just do it the once) so that you know how much to charge her for the trip if you decide to offer her a lift? Is there any reason she can't make her way to your home first and you just leave from there instead (again, only relevant if you want to offer her a lift in the first place).

I'd have to say "Look, Mildred, I am not a taxi. If I give you a lift it adds x time to my busy day and I just can't keep doing that. If you want to do tai chi you'll have to find your own way to the venue as I can't be expected to bring you. I'm sorry that you're finding having a motor home and no car difficult but that seems more like a you issue to fix and not a me issue to fix for you. Hope you'll be able to make the next term but I'll understand if you can't."

CF is Moho Mofo

I think that poster was being tongue in cheek, as in that's what your cheeky friend's thought process probably is

I would reply ‘happy to give lifts but tight on time that evening so if you can meet at my place we can go from there x x ‘

The friend with the rickety Romahome is a bit different — doesn't have much dosh to play with — so I try to be more gentle with her

Unfortunately, this has been an expensive and unwise investment. It's kind of you to be gentle but unless you strongly drove her decision to do this, it's not your responsibility to rescue her from the consequences of that decision.

"I noticed" 😁👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Bravo OP, bravo!