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Taking food from a hotel breakfast buffet- cheeky??

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Nannyogg134 · 15/08/2024 19:56

Was chatting with Brother and SIL about their upcoming holiday. They've got a long drive with 2 young DCs, so they've booked a chain hotel with free buffet breakfast part way along (to break up the drive.) DM said "Oh good, don't forget to make sandwiches for the drive later.".
This led to a whole family breakdown of what it is/isn't cheeky to do at a breakfast buffet 😂...

  • DM would happily take tupperware with her and fill up because 'it's been paid for' (I don't think she does take tupperware, I think it was a figure of speech!)
  • DH said he's too embarrassed to take anything more than a banana for later.
  • DSIL confessed that she can't resist taking pots of jam

I just wondered what everyone thought- Is it unreasonable to take from the buffet breakfast for 'later'?

OP posts:
supersop60 · 17/08/2024 08:03

xxSideshowAuntSallyxx · 17/08/2024 07:47

But it's also in the budget for my breakfast just because I choose not to be a greedy pig at 8am doesn't mean I should miss out. It's not like I'm taking a whole meal, a muffin and a piece of fruit is hardly a lot.

People go back for seconds, people eat a cooked breakfast plus cake, toast and croissants. Why is me taking a muffin out of the restaurant any different?

You said above that you were taking a couple of slices of cake, a banana and an apple.
Eating a hearty breakfast is not being a greedy pig.

xxSideshowAuntSallyxx · 17/08/2024 07:47

supersop60 · 17/08/2024 07:39

But toast and cereal at breakfast is a normal breakfast. You are taking fruit, muffins, cake, jam - all of which are in the hotel's budget for other people's breakfast.
Go and buy your own lunch - youve already eaten the breakfast you paid for.

But it's also in the budget for my breakfast just because I choose not to be a greedy pig at 8am doesn't mean I should miss out. It's not like I'm taking a whole meal, a muffin and a piece of fruit is hardly a lot.

People go back for seconds, people eat a cooked breakfast plus cake, toast and croissants. Why is me taking a muffin out of the restaurant any different?

Mil3nnial · 17/08/2024 07:45

I sometimes bring a mini jam or Nutella sachet for my DC or I make a muffin for later

I wouldn't take a lunch

supersop60 · 17/08/2024 07:39

xxSideshowAuntSallyxx · 17/08/2024 06:57

I'll take fruit, and muffins/cakes to have later. Occasionally I've taken a little pot of jam or honey (if it's those little jars).

I can't eat much at breakfast other than toast and cereal so whilst others are stuffing their faces with everything at breakfast time, I don't see a problem with me taking a couple of slices of cake to have at 11am and a banana and an a apple to have at lunch.

But toast and cereal at breakfast is a normal breakfast. You are taking fruit, muffins, cake, jam - all of which are in the hotel's budget for other people's breakfast.
Go and buy your own lunch - youve already eaten the breakfast you paid for.

xxSideshowAuntSallyxx · 17/08/2024 06:57

I'll take fruit, and muffins/cakes to have later. Occasionally I've taken a little pot of jam or honey (if it's those little jars).

I can't eat much at breakfast other than toast and cereal so whilst others are stuffing their faces with everything at breakfast time, I don't see a problem with me taking a couple of slices of cake to have at 11am and a banana and an a apple to have at lunch.

supersop60 · 17/08/2024 06:35

I think it's rude and cf. You have paid for one meal - breakfast. To take any extra for other meals is stealing.
(If you are in a place as pp have said where they encourage you to take more, that's different.)
I work at a school where teachers' lunch is free, and there are clear signs saying to take one item for dessert. I see so many staff taking biscuits or fruit 'for later'. Just icky.

Neurodiversitydoctor · 17/08/2024 05:28

helpfulperson · 15/08/2024 20:39

I think it is one of those things where what is culturally acceptable varies from country to country. As mentioned some places put out paper bags but now on the continent I think you are seeing more notices saying 'please do not remove items from the breakfast buffet - packed lunches can be provided' or similar. I've also seen places where you can pay a small amount, 5 euros or so, to take lunch from the breakfast buffet.

That's a good idea

YellowAsteroid · 17/08/2024 05:18

Very embarrassing to stock up: are you so poor that you have to double up from the hotel buffet?

KateM91 · 17/08/2024 05:10

We are at a hotel now, I take an apple most days for my son to have later. We are in India and I dont trust fruit outside the hotel 🙈 we have taken some pastries a few days too, but we ask and they provide a box for this. We haven’t taken anything more and wouldn’t want to 🙈 they are very accommodating here but I wouldn’t want to take more anyway.

RufustheFactualReindeer · 16/08/2024 22:34

viques · 16/08/2024 21:48

“She probably means serviette”, that’s reassuring. I have never done AI , and don’t think I ever will if they don’t have proper napkins.

🙂

😀

gotta have those standards…

i haven’t done AI either, i don’t eat meat or breakfast so its a bit wasted on me 😀

Blankfaced · 16/08/2024 22:24

Nothing better than a yummy breakfast lunch on your villa terrace. Saved money on £20 burgers for lunch which none of us wanted. A nice roll and ham/ cheese, some yogurt, cake, and fruit. We provided the crisps. Glass of wine. Joy

I mean dinner on the hotel one night was £200 so I think they can cope with subbing about £5 of food

CandidaAlbicans2 · 16/08/2024 22:05

A Belgian hotel I stayed at this year specifically asked people NOT to take the fruit to eat other than at breakfast. Oddly they didn't also have a notice asking people not to take the bread, cheeses, and meats 🤔I didn't see anyone making sandwiches though.

PreciousMahoney · 16/08/2024 21:57

Well in Belfast a round of sandwiches is two slices with various fillings.

Contrary to a round of bread which is one slice😆

viques · 16/08/2024 21:48

RufustheFactualReindeer · 16/08/2024 21:40

She probably means serviette

i reckon you can stand down with the outrage

“She probably means serviette”, that’s reassuring. I have never done AI , and don’t think I ever will if they don’t have proper napkins.

🙂

xsquared · 16/08/2024 21:42

CarolinaInTheMorning · 16/08/2024 21:38

"A round of sandwiches" is not a feature of American English. Exactly how many would that be? Google itself seems to be confused.

From Googling "a round of sandwhiches".

Taking food from a hotel breakfast buffet- cheeky??
RufustheFactualReindeer · 16/08/2024 21:40

viques · 16/08/2024 21:26

YOU WOULD STEAL A NAPKIN?

Honestly, some people have no shame.

She probably means serviette

i reckon you can stand down with the outrage

Dobest · 16/08/2024 21:38

I'm not in favour of theft.

Are you?

CarolinaInTheMorning · 16/08/2024 21:38

"A round of sandwiches" is not a feature of American English. Exactly how many would that be? Google itself seems to be confused.

PreciousMahoney · 16/08/2024 21:28

amicissimma · 16/08/2024 21:25

There must be an Alan Bennett sketch about this. I can just imagine him agonising about it.

OTOH, I'm very concerned about the underwear in the kettle scenario. Surely boiling would ruin the elastic.

This is exactly where I was going this morning, it all seemed so serious then up pops European Prosecco man.

viques · 16/08/2024 21:26

YellowDaffodilRedTulip · 16/08/2024 20:25

I’d probably wrap a croissant up in a napkin or take an apple.

YOU WOULD STEAL A NAPKIN?

Honestly, some people have no shame.

amicissimma · 16/08/2024 21:25

There must be an Alan Bennett sketch about this. I can just imagine him agonising about it.

OTOH, I'm very concerned about the underwear in the kettle scenario. Surely boiling would ruin the elastic.

YellowDaffodilRedTulip · 16/08/2024 20:27

Hameth · 16/08/2024 17:51

No food should leave breakfast room outside the body. But years ago we robbed Disney Paris hotel and stuffed our rucksack with croissants because the park food was so unhealthy and unbelievably expensive. But in normal circumstances, its wrong and a bit embarrassing if caught

Don’t do it, it’s wrong. Except for when we did it. That one was fine..

Sounds logic.

YellowDaffodilRedTulip · 16/08/2024 20:25

I’d probably wrap a croissant up in a napkin or take an apple.

AugustAlready · 16/08/2024 20:19

Justforoncecansomethinggoright · 16/08/2024 09:33

On come on. If you just ate that you'd look like Vic Beckham🤔

@Justforoncecansomethinggoright

calling me a liar is really fucking awful. But sadly something I'm used to after years of suffering with this fucking awful metabolic disorder I ended up with after another illness.

But the various people I've lived with over the years have all said I deserve to look like xyz skinny celebrity. Those who I've been with at home, on holiday etc who KNOW that's all I've eaten.

it's people like you that contribute to how awful it is.

i hope you're proud of yourself.

Auburngal · 16/08/2024 20:03

A late family friend was very naughty. Stayed in RO or SC accommodation on holiday and visited hotel breakfast buffets a few min walk from his place of stay. Some hotels have the restaurant at the front with doors open to let guests sit at the outdoor tables or at the back, walk through the foyer to the pool area and doors open to the restaurant. No one questioned him. He wasn't one for big breakfasts. Bowl of muesli, some pieces of melon and a coffee. He is sadly no longer with us. Unsure if he stuck to one hotel or if place he was staying had loads of hotels, visited a few.

This is far worse than making a ham and cheese roll in a hotel you have paid to stay in.