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Taking food from a hotel breakfast buffet- cheeky??

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Nannyogg134 · 15/08/2024 19:56

Was chatting with Brother and SIL about their upcoming holiday. They've got a long drive with 2 young DCs, so they've booked a chain hotel with free buffet breakfast part way along (to break up the drive.) DM said "Oh good, don't forget to make sandwiches for the drive later.".
This led to a whole family breakdown of what it is/isn't cheeky to do at a breakfast buffet 😂...

  • DM would happily take tupperware with her and fill up because 'it's been paid for' (I don't think she does take tupperware, I think it was a figure of speech!)
  • DH said he's too embarrassed to take anything more than a banana for later.
  • DSIL confessed that she can't resist taking pots of jam

I just wondered what everyone thought- Is it unreasonable to take from the buffet breakfast for 'later'?

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GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 05/11/2024 13:09

I’ve stayed at a hotel where it must have been rife - there was actually a (pictorial) notice forbidding it.

Jenasaurus · 20/08/2024 14:14

A few years ago I went on an HF holiday, and we were actively encouraged to take fruit, pastries and Kendal cake etc away with us from the breakfast buffet to keep us going during the day, it was a walking holiday so we needed to keep our intake regular, but we only paid for half board and basically were offered free lunch. Another nice memory was we would all be invited for a free pre dinner drink at the bar - it was in the Isle of Wight so not abroad.

llamajohn · 20/08/2024 13:10

parkrun500club · 19/08/2024 15:30

This all reminds me of the RTO versus WFH argument a bit.

I can do my work either in the office, or at home (or anywhere with a laptop, internet connection and some privacy). But for some reason, some bosses want to decide that I must do my work with my bottom placed on a certain chair at a certain desk in a certain location.

And when it comes to hotel breakfasts, I've paid to eat breakfast and can eat as much as I like. But according to people on this thread, I have to have my bottom on a certain chair at a certain table in a certain location when I eat it!

(I know it's a bit of a silly comparison. But I thought I'd share it anyway)

Grin

The problem is really, people eating a breakfast at the buffet, and then taking more food for later.

CoffeenWalnut · 20/08/2024 13:05

I've been to a few hotels abroad where this is actually forbidden with clear notices on all the tables that anything taken out of the breakfast room will have to be paid for (of course they've got to catch you in the act, but I imagine it does stop the worst of the CFery.
However, when DH was put up in a hotel in Munich for a month for work he said the waiting staff actively encourage him and his colleagues to make their packed lunches!

PunishmentSnart · 20/08/2024 12:58

I went to the Carvery at Christmas and a family on the next table were filling buckets, FUCKING actual buckets, with food. I love a good bubble and squeak but imagine all congealed leftovers in buckets 🤢

AnneElliott · 19/08/2024 18:57

I wouldn't take Tupperware! But I often take muffins and a pastry for DS on holiday as he never manages to get up in time for breakfast. He then eats them when he's ready.

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · 19/08/2024 17:09

Goodtogossip · 19/08/2024 13:46

We've done it before when we've booked all inclusive & have known we'll not be back for lunch. We've taken fruit & pastries to have later. We've paid for meals & if we're not going to be there for one of the then, then in my opinion it's ok to take something for the missed meal as it's been paid for. I'd draw the line at taking a tupperware box though. 😲

To be fair I think an all inclusive is different from somewhere where you’ve only paid for breakfast.
the all inclusive would probably give you a packed lunch if you asked for it

Justforoncecansomethinggoright · 19/08/2024 16:53

Lifestooshort71 · 19/08/2024 16:20

You call it snobbery and I call it having respect. I'm leaving it here as we're never going to agree!

Life's too short to worry about taking a crusty roll from a multimillion pound business if you have paid to have an eat as much you like breakfast.

You need to unclench.

Lifestooshort71 · 19/08/2024 16:20

Nadeed · 19/08/2024 13:23

Yeah so what. So much snobbery.

You call it snobbery and I call it having respect. I'm leaving it here as we're never going to agree!

parkrun500club · 19/08/2024 15:33

TorroFerney · 19/08/2024 12:39

We were at a Hilton in London this year, they had an executive lounge where you got drinks and snacks for an hour and a half in the evening if you had an executive room. A chap was in there each evening, had quite a few glasses of wine - full glasses as you poured yourself so more than you'd get in a bar and then when it got to the end of the 90 minutes he would take 2 takeaway coffee containers, fill them to the brim with red wine and take them off I assume to his room. We could not take our eyes off him.

Wow!

Still, so many companies take the mick out of customers, I can't get too upset about CFers the other way.

parkrun500club · 19/08/2024 15:30

This all reminds me of the RTO versus WFH argument a bit.

I can do my work either in the office, or at home (or anywhere with a laptop, internet connection and some privacy). But for some reason, some bosses want to decide that I must do my work with my bottom placed on a certain chair at a certain desk in a certain location.

And when it comes to hotel breakfasts, I've paid to eat breakfast and can eat as much as I like. But according to people on this thread, I have to have my bottom on a certain chair at a certain table in a certain location when I eat it!

(I know it's a bit of a silly comparison. But I thought I'd share it anyway)

Grin
Goodtogossip · 19/08/2024 13:46

We've done it before when we've booked all inclusive & have known we'll not be back for lunch. We've taken fruit & pastries to have later. We've paid for meals & if we're not going to be there for one of the then, then in my opinion it's ok to take something for the missed meal as it's been paid for. I'd draw the line at taking a tupperware box though. 😲

Thryty · 19/08/2024 13:25

My mum does this on holiday. But then it's an all inclusive so she has paid I guess? But the snacks around the pool were a bit shit so she would make ham butties at breakfast and jam butties for the kids.

Nadeed · 19/08/2024 13:23

Lifestooshort71 · 19/08/2024 11:55

Sometimes the bar is set very low

Yeah so what. So much snobbery.

Lizzie67384 · 19/08/2024 13:08

TorroFerney · 19/08/2024 12:39

We were at a Hilton in London this year, they had an executive lounge where you got drinks and snacks for an hour and a half in the evening if you had an executive room. A chap was in there each evening, had quite a few glasses of wine - full glasses as you poured yourself so more than you'd get in a bar and then when it got to the end of the 90 minutes he would take 2 takeaway coffee containers, fill them to the brim with red wine and take them off I assume to his room. We could not take our eyes off him.

That’s hilarious 🤣🤣 definitely getting his moneys worth!

MammaMiaPizzeria · 19/08/2024 13:00

llamajohn · 19/08/2024 12:39

Crisps was just an example..not suggesting you have it every day.

It seems odd that you use the "excuse" of not being able to get fruit or whatever for lunches, but then go on to say that actually you can and did get lunch food and then just chose to take it from the breakfast buffet anyway.

It's just odd justification to me.

No, we could, and did, buy it ourselves for the first couple of days. After that we got things like fruit from the breakfast buffet because we weren't able to get more from shops.

It's only an odd justification because you've misinterpreted what I said.

TorroFerney · 19/08/2024 12:39

We were at a Hilton in London this year, they had an executive lounge where you got drinks and snacks for an hour and a half in the evening if you had an executive room. A chap was in there each evening, had quite a few glasses of wine - full glasses as you poured yourself so more than you'd get in a bar and then when it got to the end of the 90 minutes he would take 2 takeaway coffee containers, fill them to the brim with red wine and take them off I assume to his room. We could not take our eyes off him.

llamajohn · 19/08/2024 12:39

MammaMiaPizzeria · 19/08/2024 12:19

Yes, we did buy some fruit the first two days. Then we ran out (didn't buy loads as we didn't have a fridge to put them in) so took fruit from the breakfast buffet instead. It was hardly the crime of the century. They also provided fruit in the evenings, so I really don't think they'd mind us taking some extra from the breakfast buffet seeing as they were also giving it away later in the day.

I didn't want my child having crisps with lunch every day. I'm not originally British, crisps isn't a lunch-time thing where I'm from. They don't even sell the small bags of crisps where we were (my home country). If we'd had a fridge we wouldn't even have sent him in with sandwiches, it would have been pasta salads, chicken drumsticks etc.

Crisps was just an example..not suggesting you have it every day.

It seems odd that you use the "excuse" of not being able to get fruit or whatever for lunches, but then go on to say that actually you can and did get lunch food and then just chose to take it from the breakfast buffet anyway.

It's just odd justification to me.

llamajohn · 19/08/2024 12:36

xsquared · 19/08/2024 11:16

Well, I'm only going from what parkrun500club has posted, and there's no mention of seconds.

It's table service rather than a buffet.

The harvester do this, order the food, finish, and feel free to order more
I presume it's the same sort of thing?

Cangar · 19/08/2024 12:33

MeowCatPleaseMeowBack · 19/08/2024 12:10

For some reason I think taking one item (a piece of fruit or a pastry) is fine but taking more is embarrassing. I can't find any logic behind that.

My equally illogical line is that whole “things” are ok (so a pastry or an apple) but that making a sandwich is not. This makes zero actual sense.

I pushed this a bit at Disney by putting a mini roll and some cheese in a a freezer bag and taking them away. For some reason this was ok in my head but combining them at the table into a cheese roll felt verboten. 🤷🏻‍♀️

TorroFerney · 19/08/2024 12:26

peesinapod · 15/08/2024 20:47

Yes, I hate this.

Snap - also people who take loads of food from the buffet so they effectively have a buffet on their table so a plate with loads of bread on it, a plate with fruit, a plate with meat which I assume they are all supposed to share. At home you'd put the surplus away and eat it later but the staff can't do that so it all gets thrown. It makes me so irrationally angry I don't know why.

TorroFerney · 19/08/2024 12:20

Mountainclimber50 · 15/08/2024 20:16

What if you find yourself full but have food left on your plate? Surely taking it and not wasting it is preferable?

Don't take too much, take a little and go back if you want more.

MammaMiaPizzeria · 19/08/2024 12:19

llamajohn · 19/08/2024 09:53

Well, if you could get bread and fillings, surely you could get some crisps and fruit from the same place?

Yes, we did buy some fruit the first two days. Then we ran out (didn't buy loads as we didn't have a fridge to put them in) so took fruit from the breakfast buffet instead. It was hardly the crime of the century. They also provided fruit in the evenings, so I really don't think they'd mind us taking some extra from the breakfast buffet seeing as they were also giving it away later in the day.

I didn't want my child having crisps with lunch every day. I'm not originally British, crisps isn't a lunch-time thing where I'm from. They don't even sell the small bags of crisps where we were (my home country). If we'd had a fridge we wouldn't even have sent him in with sandwiches, it would have been pasta salads, chicken drumsticks etc.

MeowCatPleaseMeowBack · 19/08/2024 12:10

For some reason I think taking one item (a piece of fruit or a pastry) is fine but taking more is embarrassing. I can't find any logic behind that.

Lifestooshort71 · 19/08/2024 12:01

Cangar · 19/08/2024 11:57

It is so not a just the Brits thing though.

No I'm sure it's not but perhaps it's the Brits doing it that I find embarrassing?