Falling for a much older guy

You'll end up being his carer at the prime of your life in 20 years time. When you're in your 40's, he'll be close to 70 & that's a massive gap in life experience. Ditch him now & find some one who is closer in age to you.

How to resolve issues, i.e he thought it was okay to say anything at all in an argument no matter how awful because “it’s an argument”

Parenting - he was raised being smacked a lot etc.

General thoughts on immigration, racism etc.

Aside from that we got to a stage whereby he just got disinterested in most things because he had “been there done that” - which I think is entirely normal but not ideal if you both aren’t at the same point in life.

Love this 😊 just shows that age is a number and doesn't mean anything

I’m 51 and I wouldn’t date a man who was 61. There’s a lot of ageing in those ten years.

A firm No from me OP.

My DP is 24 years older than me. He is, by far, the most loving and loyal man I’ve ever known. Even now he is in his seventies we have an amazing sex life. He treats me with respect, which is far more than men closer to me in age ever did. He is constantly interested in the world, current affairs, new knowledge, helping people practically, makes me laugh, is warm and affectionate and rarely curmudgeony, is an equal with household chores and cooking.

I’d rather have just one year with him than ten years with someone else.

Life is too short not to grab at the chances of happiness.

Indeed the rarity of it is why such a fuss was made about Madame and Monsieur Macron.

Sure if she just wants to shag him. If she actually wants a relationship he'd be a poor choice.

Think very carefully before you do anything. You could end up as a carer for an old man. Also consider your children. If they are young and he is old, is there going to be an issue if he finds them irritating as his tolerance is lower? Will they grow to resent him? Please put them first. From first hand experience, I'd be walking away from this one.

So whats it got to do with you???
Bet youve had relationships with people around your age and they have broken up.
Theres no guarantee with any relationship no matter what the age.

Come on. A 50 year old cannot have a 20 year old grandchild…

And you know nothing about the power dynamic

My xh is with someone 20 years his junior, he's 53, and I can't for the life of me think what she sees in him! They've been together for 3 or 4 years so it's obviously working but absolutely wouldn't be for me! The 9 year age gap between us was just about OK but his ideals were far from mine (we only lasted 6 years!)

You can always break up

I'm assuming you are closer to 30 than 20. If you are just after a fling, you don't have to worry about it if it makes you happy.

The age gap is a huge consideration, but not a deal breaker, if you are after something more long term. There is every chance you will become his carer for a long time, for example, and he might not have the pep to keep up with an active life style. As a man of that age, I don't think I'd consider anyone under 40.

oh my goodness, that is almost 20 years difference

Elderly’s not the correct description @Devilsmommy , late middle-aged is more accurate. I refuse to be close to elderly. 😂

But the 50’s are a transition decade, imo. I know that I’ll be a very different place in 10 years and about to turn 60.
I wouldn’t want my DD (19) to get involved with someone in their 50’s in a few years-obviously it will be her choice, but I wouldn’t recommend it!

I’m 16 years younger than DH. TBH don’t go there. I’m approaching 60 and I’m living with a lovely but very ill man. All has happened in last ten years. Been married 22.

Wtf? I'm 38 and my DH is 55. He's not even close to being elderly. If anything he's fitter than I am😂 I'll have to let him know that he's close to the reaper and to be careful when he goes to sleep then🤣🤣🤣

Op, don't do it. My MIL is a very fit and healthy woman in her late 60s. FIL is very unwell in mid 80s. They met when she was mid 30s and he early 50s.

She has almost no life outside of caring for him, partially because his care needs are so high and won't accept professional help, and partially because she is quite anxious and doesn't like leaving him alone. This means she doesn't see her grandchild (my DC) anywhere as much as she or we would like.

They are only 15 years apart and while I think she does love him still, she definitely resent the position she finds herself in and has been for about 5 years.

When you are as young as you, that’s a huge gap. Think carefully.

The power dynamic alone would be enough to make most women your age run a mile. Ask yourself why would a 50 year old man want with a woman young enough to be his granddaughter?

Go for it, see what happens, keep it under wraps, don’t shout it from the rooftops, don’t tell your kids, but just see.

Go for the fling OP. Enjoy!

live for the moment. Neither of them might live that long and the ypunger one may die first anyway.

age is just a number. Plenty of people the same age or similar break up dont they?

. He’s not nearly elderly ffs! 🤦🏼‍♀️
OP I would think carefully about generational differences in humour and shared experiences. DH and I laugh about similar things and childhood experiences, they bond you. DH is 52 and still very handsome and fitter than he was in his 20s but we have DDs in their 20s. Apart from youth, you can’t possibly be on the same wavelength.