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Would you expect adult stepson to help with household chores if he worked and you didn't?

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orangejuice11 · 15/08/2024 10:42

I am currently a sahp to mine and dh children and his adult son also lives here.
I do the housework and all the childcare but SS is home 3 days a week as he works compressed hours.
He doesn't feel he should do any chores as he works and I don't.
Dh works away a lot and I don't want to burden him with this but curious to see if others would expect an adult child to help out around the house in this situation?

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orangejuice11 · 15/08/2024 10:51

He's 23 and he pays a contribution which covers his costs for food and bills but he's not financially supporting me so his income only benefits himself.

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Eviebeans · 15/08/2024 10:47

How old is he? I see you refer to him as an adult child…

Dollyparton3 · 15/08/2024 10:47

But you do have a job, you're a SAHP and it's a lot more hours than he works.

Myusernamemustbeatleastthreecharacters · 15/08/2024 10:47

He'd have house work to do if he lived alone.

How old is he? You said your DH is away a lot, how often is it just you and adult step son? Can he move out any time soon?

And is he paying a decent amount to live with you if he is working full time?

TheShellBeach · 15/08/2024 10:45

Of course he should do housework. I assume his father does?

Why is it that men believe that only women are obliged to clean, cook, wash clothes etc? It makes me so mad.

Turophilic · 15/08/2024 10:45

Everyone helps out. It’s part of being a family.

AntoinetteCurtain · 15/08/2024 10:44

Of course he should help out.

Does he generally consider himself to be superior to you?

scoobysnaxx · 15/08/2024 10:44

Of course.

Why would it be your job and not his?

Blake77 · 15/08/2024 10:43

Yes