Other people’s Botox habits making me look old

You can do what you like as far as I'm concerned!

@Porcuine20 I was offered botox for my migraines as well and apparently some people respond negatively to it and have essentially a constant migraine until the botox wears off. Given my history of negative reactions to medications I couldn't face taking the chance of being in that minority of people waiting months for the botox to wear off while in constant pain. Also according to my neurologist most of the botox for migraine is done in the back of the neck, head and under the hair line! So I'd mostly have a lovely smooth scalp under my hair where nobody can see it!

I have eczema and my skin cannot handle tret. Do I get my Botox pass now?

I am 47 and don't have any fine lines or wrinkles yet. Been using prescription tretinoin for 28 years now (initially due to acne and just never stopped) and I've used SPF since childhood.

Start on good skincare young then you won't need to worry about getting Botox and filler at least in your 40's!

Im 39 and fine with my lines. Ive smiled a lot and it shows in my face, I'm ok with it. I don't need to look 16, i already did that once.

Im 39 and fine with my lines. Ive smiled a lot and it shows in my face, I'm ok with it. I don't need to look 16, i already did that once.

Look when I was late teens I thought anyone over 23 was ancient... my boss got pregnant at 35 and I remember being really shocked (I hope I didn't say anything tactless to her).
Now I'm 47 I can only laugh at how stupid I was.

I don't have Botox as I can't afford it, I've only just started getting some 11s through stress now my mum has died.

I never tell anyone especially younger ppl except close friends my age. No one else needs to know.

Because it's horrible when either a) they're not surprised or b) they say you don't look THAT old which makes you feel ancient.

Thanks for this, I've just gone through it all, worth a shot eh! Xxxx

It's not just Botox, but also the fact that the vast majority of people on social media use filters too. People, especially young people, have got a really unrealistic view of what a normal face is. It's quite sad.

I used to look young for my age, but two kids and a chronic health condition later and I look every bit my 44 years now if not more. I’d never get Botox though - I had it for medical reasons (migraine) and hated not being able to move the top half of my face. My kids found it pretty disconcerting. You can always tell when someone’s had work done and they don’t look younger, they just have that distinctive smooth-faced/swollen lip look. I saw an older woman on the train the other day who I thought looked fantastic - lots of wrinkles, in her 70s I’d guess, but stylishly dressed and with a wonderful air or confidence and calm. I’m planning on ageing gracefully and not giving a monkeys what anyone else thinks. I think I’d have gently teased the 17 year old for her rudeness - that’s all it was, definitely don’t give a minute’s thought to her opinion.

What’s Tret?

I wish I'd appreciated my beautiful dewy skin when I was 36!

Ageing is inevitable, so I've taken the low maintenance road. My skin is reasonably unwrinkly at 50, but it's still saggy and the texture shows the age.

It's a losing battle, which I'm resigned to. I feel like trying to hold back the tide will just put me into a permanent battle with age that I'll never win.

She will.If she can afford it. But I want to set an example. Even if that sounds holier than thou.. I think there is already enough pressure on young women these days o look perfect, because of social media and Insta, without adding to it.

Presumably when she's in her 20s she'll do what she likes when it comes to her own appearance?

Well said. I'm 77 and don't care if I look it. (Whatever a 77 year old is supposed to look like.) I'm usually taken for being younger - and I've never worn make-up, never coloured my hair (which isn't white but I wouldn''t care if it were) never had any fillers except in my teeth or anything else. People get older. Accept it. It's natural that we do, that we change as we get older. No point in pretending it doesn't happen.

Puffy cheeks and trout pouts = filler.

Not Botox.

For the 100th time.

Great post OP. When ur 17, 40 is ancient as other people have said. 50 I mean, Ur lucky to still be alive! I used to think that. And I'm 51 and feel like a teenager inside😁
At Ur age I really don't think Botox is necessary. At my age it is, but I'm not getting it. I am willing just to have wrinkles and am what I am.
Why no to Botox? Expensive, cud be toxic in the long term and I hate the way some peoples faces have been wrecked.
All these beautiful people on TV with funny eyes now and puffy cheeks and trout pouts. Even tom cruise has spoilt his face with goodness knows what.
Thats my tuppence worth.

No @Lentilweaver we don't run around wondering why people don't get Botox. We're just ok with the fact that we did, and are bored of the attitudes of some on here, who are very smug and sit in judgement, as if caring about your looks is some sort of moral failure.

I'm very much not saying that's you by the way, some others on the thread.

But I didn't mention Baby Jane, or Jocelyn W at all. I cited women who are widely known for their beauty, whom previous pp said look great. So not hyperbole.

I know people find it unbelievable that any 50 something woman is not constantly weeping over her wrinkles, but I am fine the way I am. I also don't want my DD to start Botox or fillers in her twenties, like so many women are, and I don't see how I can advice her against that if I am doing it myself.

But if they don't use hyperbole, how would they ever justify their judginess levels?

I'm amazed that people are this blinkered about it. Genuinely.

So many older women have a bit of botox. It's hilarious that people think they are all a cross between Baby Jane and Jocelyn Wildenstein

I suppose I don't think aging is soul-destroying either. It is what it is, somewhere in the middle.

I'm not a professional model or in the public eye either; 99.9% of women who choose Botox aren't. It's just a preference.

I don't think aging is particularly amazing. I just prefer it to the alternative. That's all.
I am in a profession where my looks don't matter, so I don't need to look like Sandra Bullock or Julia Roberts.

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