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To be petrified of DS starting school?

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BranstonPickleAndNikNaks · 15/08/2024 09:31

DS starts school in September. Winter baby, so amongst the older children in his year. I think he's ready for it, academically - he's bright and curious, can read simple words, and loves to learn.

But I feel like I'm throwing him to the wolves. It seems like every other day there's a news article / MN thread / anecdote from a friend about how terrible schools are at the moment.

He's my PFB and I'm prepared (hoping?) to be told I'm overreacting and to get over myself, but it's terrifying to read about children assaulting their teachers and each other, primary-aged kids viewing porn, classes being "taught" all year by an assortment of cover teachers who can't really be arsed and have no relationship with the kids, teachers on the front line on their knees, completely unsupported and unable to manage their classed...

We're in a medium-sized town and he'll be in a smallish two-form entry primary. But I feel like I'm sending my happy, innocent, curious little boy into this chaotic, violent free-for-all that just churns out depressed, traumatised automatons who hate learning.
Please tell me it's not as shit as it seems 🙏 Or if it is, please help me prepare him without letting on how scared I am 😭

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Enigma52 · 15/08/2024 09:38

What does PFB mean?

Stressfordays · 15/08/2024 09:37

I think you're being quite dramatic tbh. You picked the school so you should know the type on environment you're sending him to. I've got 3 in school, no instances of bullying or any issues with any of them. You might get some bumps along the way but it's all part and parcel of growing up. If you go in with that attitude, your child will feed off your anxiety and you will get more issues then necessary.

TurkishDartboard · 15/08/2024 09:36

DS is now 12 and we are no longer living in the UK, but he spent Reception to Year 3 in a village C of E school in England with lovely, committed teachers, a nice atmosphere, excellent teaching, and lots of fun and outdoor time/creativity. His Reception teachers in particular I will forever remember with great affection.

SilenceInside · 15/08/2024 09:33

YABU. Presumably you have visited the school, met the teachers, had taster days or sessions, seen the classroom and so on?

What do you feel about your specific school and the specific teacher and ta your child will be with?

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