Bf has a hobby cricket, trains 2 nights a week and plays all of Saturday and some Sundays all day too.
I told him earlier that I felt I wasn’t seeing him very much and that it made me sad. I asked if he had to play as many Sundays as he did. And, if when we are older and have kids etc, does he have to play Sundays?
He said the following:
- i am coercing him into giving up his only hobby, something he loves (I didn’t say this)
- He wants to make a choice about how much he plays, and not be told this, and will balance his time himself
- He doesn’t play every Sunday (true) to spend time with me
- He has “already made sacrifices” as in doesn’t stay late drinking every Saturday, and doesn’t play every game If i don’t see these sacrifices then something is wrong
- A sarcastic comment about “I’ll just not work then”
- he said I am his priority and that I get him all the time for the whole winter months
- He then went to sleep because he’s frustrated and concerned and riled up
- He said he would’ve had a nice conversation / discussion if I’d have said I didn’t feel I was seeing him enough, but because I made it about cricket, it became an attempt to control him and stop him playing
- i see him two or three evenings after work (he gets home at 7pm)
Honestly am I being controlling or unfair?