Stop saying my baby is small!

Yes as per PP this would be rude! If it’s friends doing it you can tell them it is upsetting for you - they should understand even if they think you might be being over sensitive. But don’t be rude yourself!

You would be the rude one in that scenario though.

One of my best friends has twins and when people kept asking stupid stuff like "oh, are they twins?" she used to say "no, they're triplets, I left the ugly one at home"

It's noticeable that a lot of people who think it's ok to comment on how small a baby is are justifying it with how baby was also healthy/meeting milestones/thriving.

However, it's a bad move to point out how small baby is if there are worries about baby not thriving. And, for a stranger's baby, you won't know about any issues before making a comment.

I try to find a different small talk comment if at all possible.

Same here. Exactly the same both extremes.

It's just small talk. People like to chat. They're not really aware of how many times you've heard it or that you might have insecurities.

I always think the best thing to show the DC is that we respond positively to friendly attempts at starting communication and don't take things to heart. People just want to strike up conversation.

My eldest weighed 7lb 6 oz at birth but soon began to gain weight. He has never been chubby but as an adult is 6ft 7 tall! He was also too big for some age appropriate toys, was always the tallest in class photos and people used to frown when he behaved in an age appropriate way but looked much older! He started school wearing age 8 to 9 clothes! When he joined the army aged 25, he had to have a special extra long bed which followed him out to tours abroad - the army medics insisted so that he was not injured by having to sleep cramped up!

I had three, all of them on the small side. One particularly so. Agree with pp; it's just a talking point. Try not to take it personally.

People would always comment that my baby was so small and tiny
Well it was true she was.
It wasn't offensive
She was thriving and tiny!

Surely it's just making conversation? DS2 was a dinky dot (2nd centile IIRC) and had a full head of hair. People always commented on it. He was also a early walker and had very advanced speech. Which always confused people.

There's always something. Otherwise it would be how big they are. Or their hair etc.

It really is just baby drivel and fairly meaningless. My ds was teeny tiny until about 5months. People constantly commented on it, then when he grew chunkier they commented on that and also on his complete lack of hair.
Life's too short to get offended. Until babies start to actually do something their appearance is all people have to comment on.

this did make me laugh.

This.

They are probably just making conversation OP. I had a very big baby and I also had lots of comments, some were actually very rude.
I just used to remember that I have said stupid things without thinking many a time myself.

I had one small and people always mentioned it and then the next big and people always mentioned it. I think people generally just feel compelled to have something (anything) to say and it’s a bit safer than mentioning the fact that a baby looks like a potato or an angry old man.

People do tend to comment on babies. Small, big, chunky. . No hair a lot of hair. If your baby is healthy try not to dwell on folks comments I don't think they mean any harm.

People like to engage with babies. It's fu king irritating. You could have a small baby, big baby, prem, c section, ivf, surrogate, born to a Martian, the list goes on.

I had twins and the amount of people that asked if they were 'natural' really got on my tits.

Mine were small, stayed small but went through puberty later, dd1 is my height (5'6) and dd2 is 3 inches smaller but is super successful in an unlikely job. Try not to worry nor take notice

My little one is below the first percentile … i find it harder when kids her own age make a big deal of it because she sometimes finds it upsetting - now she says that her body is small but her mind is BIG which is adorable.

I also found it makes other parents a bit weird - she is advanced for her age anyway but looking so tiny makes her look really advanced and it freaks people out- like when she was the size of a two month old and was crawling about baby groups 😂 like no, I don’t have a freakishly advanced two month old, calm down everyone . Now she’s really into her climbing and I feel I need to tape her age to her T-shirt before people think I’m negligently letting a two year old scale rock faces.

My daughter always gets the "oh she's so small" comments, and it's most definitely not because all babies are small. It's intended in a "she's much smaller than others her age" kind of way. I'm happy she's smaller than average, but the comments do still sometimes annoy me!

I totallyyyyyyy understand this OP. Both my DC were small babies and people frequently remark how small they were/are. My first was on the 6th percentile and 5.13lb at birth and gradually reached the 50th when he turned 1. The most annoying thing people would do is comment just how HUGE their baby was in comparison more of an attempted humble brag at their child / veiled dig at my child.

My second weighed more at birth at 7.7lb and has stayed on the 50th percentile but she was shorter than my son, so she still at 9 months gets comments on how small she is by literally everyone i meet. But she's too big for 6-9 month clothes, is still on the 50th percentile, so make it make sense!!?

Many posters on here assume it's just people generally remarking on a cute tiny baby but when you are a mother of a 'small' baby you know exactly what they are getting at. And yes I too find it rude, unhelpful and accusatory.

I have the opposite problem! Even the doctor on the day my LO was born said "wow, that's a big baby!" People are always saying how big he is and I find it really annoying. Especially as they treat him as though he's much older than he is. I don't think people mean anything by it but I feel your pain, even if it's for the opposite reason!

My dd is tiny. She’s 8 but in 6-7 clothes and some 5-6. I love it. She loves it. She’s the smallest in her class. Little dot. It doesn’t really matter their size. It’ll all even out in the end

Someone called my daughter big the other day and I laughed at them. She's an absolute dot and I love how dinky she is. My son on the other hand is an absolute giant for his age! They all grow their own way - try not to take it to heart ❤️ most people equate small with cute so it may be a clumsy attempt at a compliment