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Why do so many posters hate mothers/children

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Sundayschool · 14/08/2024 19:30

Inspired a bit by the current thread on SMP!

Why does Mumsnet, predominately/historically a forum for parents, attract so many posters who seem to hate children and mothers? It surprises me how fast posters are to tear down any women who want better conditions for themselves or their children or indeed anything to make life a bit easier (parent/child spaces, better SMP).

Why do such people choose to post on this site in particular? Surely if you really feel so strongly this is the last place you would think to come and post?

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Myfavouriteflowers · 14/08/2024 22:23

SerafinasGoose · 14/08/2024 22:16

Except on the dog threads ...

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Oh that's interesting. Are you talking here about The Doghouse topic because I never look at that?

SerafinasGoose · 14/08/2024 22:16

Myfavouriteflowers · 14/08/2024 19:40

I actually don't know what you are talking about.
I might disagree with quite a few posts on MN but one thing that is totally almost totally consistent is it's pro children stance.

Except on the dog threads ...

Butteredtoast55 · 14/08/2024 20:07

It's possible to support women and want to see children thrive without putting them on a pedestal and giving them everything they think they may be entitled to.

fitzwilliamdarcy · 14/08/2024 20:06

Not thinking mothers are the most important people in society ≠ hating them.

I’ve seen so many posters trying to make the argument that everyone on MN hates mothers but they never provide any evidence of actual hatred. Just people saying NORMAL things like, “I’m not in favour of taxes going up to fund child benefit/subsidised childcare/mat leave”, or “I’d prefer it if we prioritised helping out disabled people and carers”.

Sirzy · 14/08/2024 20:04

Just because someone is a woman doesn’t mean other women need to agree with Her. Sometimes women are wrong! Sometimes they disagree. That’s life.

disagreeing on something doesn’t mean you hate all women. Or even the woman you’re disagreeing with.

ShelfService · 14/08/2024 20:03

On that thread, I did see a few childfree posters saying they do not want to pay more tax to fund maternity leave. I can kind of understand their point and don’t think it means they hate mothers and children.

Aquamarine1029 · 14/08/2024 20:02

Not a clue what you're going on about. Women are allowed to disagree with other women, and that doesn't imply hatred.

vodkaredbullgirl · 14/08/2024 20:01

Does it?

Shawdee · 14/08/2024 20:00

Can you show us a post where someone hates women and children? Disagreeing with someone's opinion absolutely does not equal hating mothers and children by the way.

Myfavouriteflowers · 14/08/2024 19:40

I actually don't know what you are talking about.
I might disagree with quite a few posts on MN but one thing that is totally almost totally consistent is it's pro children stance.

MeowCatPleaseMeowBack · 14/08/2024 19:39

Today I learned if you don't think parent and child spaces are sacred, you hate mothers and children. Who knew!

Harvestfestivalknickers · 14/08/2024 19:39

I don't see 'hate for mothers and children'. I haven't read that ONE thread but I've have loads of good advice here over the years. Do you have specific examples other than that thread?

Hateam · 14/08/2024 19:33

Hating and disagreeing are two different things.