To think he should pay this?

It wouldn't though. It would be going on his half of the nursery fees/food/clothes/housing costs/trips/toys/books etc leaving you with a bit more of your own earnings to spend on yourself each month. And you might choose to spend that on a cleaner.

Don't say cleaner.

Ask for more towards nursery or just general costs of raising a child.

You can ask, but legally he doesn't have to give you more than the CM calculation. I wouldn't say it was for a cleaner because why would he want to pay for a cleaner for you? His responsibilities are with his child. Say you need it for the child but don't be surprised if he says no.

I don't think it's unreasonable to ask him to pay more seeing as what he gives you doesn't even cover childcare. But framing it as paying for a cleaner isn't likely to go down well.
I would ask if he could give more to cover clothes/food/toys etc until she's out of nursery

Do you not get funding for nursery or at least 20% gov tax free

Just wanted to add - I was divorced and occasionally when things got too much I gave my XH a basket of our children's school uniforms on a Friday night and asked them to be returned, washed and ironed, on a Sunday night. I wish I'd done that every week, but I found out his girlfriend, the OW, was doing them and I didn't want anything to do with her.

Have you had a look to see if you’re eligible for any universal credit to help with nursery costs? It might not be much but every little helps. I think a salary up to about 35k will allow for a little help towards your fees!

I would ask him to pay the full nursery costs so that you have time to work full time and house, clothe, clean and cook for your baby. Don't mention getting a cleaner. So many men I've heard of on here seem to think that if a woman gets her nails done that's come out of his £5 per week that he's paying in childcare. Don't give this guy the chance to be like that.

Tell him when your child is in school you can renegotiate.

I wouldn’t ask him to pay for a cleaner. It’s a fair and reasonable thing to want from him, but it doesn’t seem like the most sensible way to ask for an extra £150. Presumably he’s aware that his contribution, even though it is significant, is only a percentage of childcare costs and isn’t enough to contribute to the home his child lives in. Tell him bills have gone up and you’d appreciate support with them or something, and make it clear that you only need the extra as long as you’re using childcare.

Ask him but don't say it's for a cleaner. He should be ashamed of himself. Only paying a little more than half nursery costs so that YOU can keep a roof over her head and sees her 6 hours a week.

I wouldn’t ask him to pay for a cleaner, no. That’s to benefit you not the child (is how he may see it). You could ask him to contribute more to cover nursery expenses then the money you save put towards a cleaner. Although as long as he is paying what CMS have calculated he isn’t expected to pay any more

I wouldnt word it that it's for a cleaner no. I'd just ask him if he could contribute £150 more as he currently only contributes £75 a month to her life outside of nursery fees.

Nah don’t say it’s for. Cleaner . It’s for nursery and you pay the cleaner, he doesn’t need to know what you spend your money on.

In about two minutes you'll have loads of posters saying how lucky you are, that £825 is a huge amount and that legally he doesn't have to pay you anything more than CMS. They will bat the numbers back and forth and argue about how much a child can possibly cost.

However, the basic truth if your post is the bit about you doing everything. Juggling work and childcare, having no autonomy to just decide to stop on the way home for a coffee or gym or browse in the shops; having to be in charge of every aspect of parenting, remembering and organising and planning and actually being there. Reading, playing, listening when all you want to do is have 5 minutes to yourself that you're not clock watching for when they end. Its not really about the numbers, it's about what "co-parenting" should be and if he's not prepared to do 50/50 then absolutely it would not be unreasonable to ask him to contribute so that you can have a little more time. But I'm afraid legally, as I'm sure you know, he can't be forced into any more than CMS.

I wouldn’t expect him to pay for a cleaner no. You can ask him if he’d be willing to pay a bit extra on top of CMS, only you know if he’d be open to that though

I don't think he would say yes to a cleaner. You might have more luck if you say you are struggling to pay for nursery costs plus all her other expenses (perhaps list them) and 825 just doesn't cover his half.

Wrong thread.