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Rage at friends friendship!

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Billyandharry · 14/08/2024 09:29

My oldest school friend of 40 yrs and my oldest uni friend of 25 years are bezzy mates.
I rarely see either of them now - they both have loads of money and I only ever see them on posh holidays on social media. This has gone on for 20 years but it still drives me nuts/feels so hurtful/makes me cry.
I feel like I'm too old for this but i can't help how much it hurts.I honestly don't know how to get over this/myself. Just feel so left out year after year. Horrible.

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Myfavouriteflowers · 14/08/2024 09:40

Surely the best way to get over it is by stopping following them on social media?
In fact if I were you I would cut them out my life altogether if their friendship is having such a negative effect on your life.

Just because you've known them a long time doesn't mean they have to stay in your life forever if you have nothing in common any more.

Concentrate on your own life and the newer friends you have made who actually enhance your life. Who fit in with your life style..

Emmanuelll · 14/08/2024 09:39

Did they meet because of you? I'm assuming you've been 'Wendied' and yes that would be very hurtful I'm sure.

keylimedog · 14/08/2024 09:36

Are you truly friends with people you don't see often and from the tone of your OP don't particularly like / they upset you?

Perhaps put your energy into friendships with other people and don't spend your time thinking about them 😊 it doesn't sound like they're doing anything wrong, just being friends with each other - could you stop looking at their social media to help?