Told to fuck off at bed time as partner watching TV

It's making less and less sense. You only dozed off for 5min in the living room before going to the bedroom. Yet, it was already after midnight and you had been so tired. What were you doing in the many hours before? Why didn't you go to bed when you felt tired? If you had gone to bed by 7/8/9 pm and your partner had come in and switched the TV on they would have been UR. But that's not what happened.

Absolutely spot on. Every post is the same and he's been called out on both the 'gender neutral' thing and his own behaviour.

Very manipulative, which speaks volumes.

This is 100% your own fault for allowing a TV in the bedroom. Bedrooms are for sleeping and the other thing.

Indian think it's about this one isolated incident ... This was just the final straw

Your OP actually answers this question and I hadn't realised, you were asleep on the chair in the front room, so they've gone in the bedroom to watch a film, you then wake up and go in the bedroom to go to bed and demand they either move or switch off the TV.. neither of which they wanted to do at that point.

I suspect it is you that is being a tad unreasonable here, why did you not just go to bed yourself if you were tired, so they could watch what they wanted in the living room without disturbing you?

There is more to it than that though. You'll have to go look for yourself if you want to actually understand their relationship dynamic.

Yep. I agree. I did an AS myself and it is clear as day. I'm guessing he thinks letting people think he is a woman will make people skip over his own awfulness. It's not troll-hunting to point out that people are responding under the wrong assumption and the OP is intentionally not correcting them on it. It's manipulative.

The behaviour is equally appalling, regardless of whether it was a man or woman denying access to a decent sleep in their own bedroom.

I’ve deleted my post because of previous cross post with mine. I’m not sure what to think now.

and you couldnt tell your daughter to move, why?

Every post by the OP deliberately does not state the genders within the relationship (but happily states the genders of the kids)

I believe they deliberately want us to think they are female and that the aggressor(s) in their life are male (the ex is often an issue too) They certainly do not seek to correct Posters who assume its a man they are describing.

The OP is a man, however, and his posting history describes his own foul temper, exploding with rage, blown his top etc. There has also been police involvement with the older daughter citing that the OP owned firearms. The OP says they don't, however there's a post on the Preppers board confirming that they do.

At best, this whole thing is a mess, but a big part of this is the OP being disingenuous.

For clarity, I'm not troll hunting. I did report some inaccuracies etc to MN hours ago.

I HATE tvs in the bedroom.
I hate excessive TV in general it just seems to constantly take over people's lives and it's often a string of annoying noise, not pleasant like music

How old is your daughter?

Has she a TV in her room?

And... he told you to Fuck Off in front of her? Does he always speak like that to you? (and in front of children?)

Bizarre that the solution would be you sleeping in a recliner in the lounge instead of him watching TV in the lounge. Or just make both rooms into bedrooms if he's that fixated on watching TV in bed instead of on the sofa.

Or better still, get rid of him and live in your house where no one tells you to fuck off or acts like a selfish twat. He's not going to change. His ex-wife knew that, now you do too.

Why were they in there though?

As in why were they not watching the film in the living room?

If they have gone in there because it is out of your way to watch a film that you didn't want to see and then you want to go in there to go to sleep half way through it is a bit unreasonable on your part, but if they choose to be in there and it prevents you from going to bed then he is being very unreasonable, so which would it be?

Why the gender-neutral post? People are just going to assume you're some poor abused woman and your partner is an abusive man stopping you from getting into bed.

My guess is you are the man because I can't think of many mothers who would fuck off in the middle of the night to sleep 40 miles away and you want people to be particularly vicious about your partner by letting them think she is a man.

Clearly you are not being unreasonable.

This is cruel behaviour from your partner and show a complete lack of respect for you. If would be bad enough if they didn’t respect your need to sleep if the bedroom TV was the only TV, but there fact that there is another TV that they won’t decamp to is baffling to me.

TV in the bedroom is kind of a deal breaker for me. Me and my husband had one years ago when we lived together in our late teens/early 20s but once we bought our first proper house together we got rid of it and there isn’t a single day that I’ve missed it.

You're being unreasonable - because under no circumstances should you have a TV in a bedroom - it's your own fault for allowing it.

Honestly op. Instead of these petty arguments , in front of your kid, sit down and talk. If the tv in the bedroom is a point of contention then you need to either remove it or come up with a set of rules you both agree to ie it goes off by x time.

of course they were not going to move mid movie, you knew this. Moving through to another tv is a pain, it means stopping the movie, finding it on the next tv and then possibly fast forwarding to where you were, and they were both comfy_ So when they started the movie you should have said please watch this in the living room so I can go to bed at x time , rather than ask them to move in the middle. It’s a small flat. You all knew.

you need to communicate better, compromise and set some rules you both agree to.

OP has not specified that the partner is male

I assume your daughter goes to her own bed later - he’s a selfish twunt isn’t he and it’s not acceptable - you need to decide if you want to remain with him and you need to think about what messages he’s giving your daughter.