It’s a wedding one…

A text/message would be enough for me. Cards just end up in the recycling bin.

KrisAkabusi

Either. I tend to send the present via the online registry and then send a nice card saying 'Just Married' or 'Mr and Mrs' straight after the wedding telling them how much I enjoyed it all, mentioning a few special highlights of the day, and thanking them for including us in their special day.

Do you mean a card for the wedding/with the present? Or are you suggesting that guests are supposed to write a card when they get home after the wedding as well?

We went to 3 weddings last year and gave cards and gifts, declined an invite to a 4th - it clashed with one of the above- but sent a card and gift and we got married ourselves. We got three sets of thank yous, all within 3 months of the wedding, one couple didn't bother. I've only been to 1 other wedding prior really and they didn't bother either. It is a bit rude not to, in my opinion!

Ours were out within a week, thank yous for gifts, cards, attendance etc. I don't see the point in waiting for photos, so got them printed pre wedding. No honeymoon so we sat down and wrote them asap. I didn't feel comfortable not getting them out fast and we wanted them done before Christmas - winter wedding- and life got in the way!

How lovely to see that good manners are alive and well on MNet.

Of course there were personalised bits and at least I bothered as did DIL quite recently.

Oh how lovely…you wrote the same thing to everyone and just filled in the blanks!!? Hardly personal is it??🙄

I’m more than happy with a verbal “thank you for coming” don’t see the need for a written repeat.

No text message, phone call or face to face thanks have been offered

In that case I agree they're incredibly rude

I wouldn't be over-bothered about a formal written thank you, though I did it myself because it was the norm back then among people with manners, just so long as some sort of thanks were offered ... text, email or whatever

They don't even take up much time because a suitable message can be used for all with just the name and gift changed, but not to bother at all is as you say appalling

Took me a couple of months to write 120ish thank you letters. So some of them may be on the way?

Horrified & abhorrant - simmer doon min. Yes - I did send cards before anyone asks.

I honestly think I've only received thank you cards once or twice in all my years of attending weddings.

Most people just say thank you

I got married in 2008 and then again in 2018 (different person).
I sent thank you cards out after both.

Very basic good manners and etiquette. I don't think I've ever been to a wedding where there wasn't a thank you card.

Very poor manners..I absolutely agree, OP, and would be equally as horrified at such a lack of common decency.

Regardless of who "hosted" and paid for the wedding the presents are for the bride and groom together. It is absolutely for both of them with equal responsibility to send thank yous.

I would be slightly annoyed if someone sent me a thank you card rather than a text - what a waste of paper, for something you will throw away within a week. The planet is dying, people. Weddings (as much as I love them) already produce giant amounts of waste, so why not avoid it where you can.
Also it's a bit unfair to say someone is 'incredibly rude' not to send a card - just because something is your tradition, doesn't mean it's someone else's. It's not fair or right to assume every person you meet or know shares the same customs as you, surely.

Documentation? Data? Footnotes? Or are "most people" you and your best friends? Beware Global Generalization!
I am definitely fashing myself, lassie.

That's an interesting point. It should be mutual, but the invitation is traditionally from the Bride's parents and they are the hosts, so I think it falls upon the child of the host to send the thanks.

Funnily enough we paid half but didn't expect the invitations to say: Mr and Mrs DIL's name and Mr and Mrs Hellebores request the pleasure of your company 😉

There was no quibble about the cost of a stamp but I was very impressed that DS and DIL donated £5 a head to MIND instead of spending money on favors.

Don't bother with the pictures, just send a personalised thank you for the gifts

@Montasaurus

No text message, phone call or face to face thanks have been offered. The abroad wedding was the end of May. They had their first look photographs within a week of being married (plastered over socials).

Did they not thank people during speeches at the wedding?

Cards are massively outdated, a faff, and most people throw them straight in the bin. Waste of paper. A sincere verbal thank you at the wedding and a good party are enough.

We sent out thank you postcards. Not personalised as we were both working 70 hour / 7 days a week at that point (thanks Millennium Bug!!!) just a thank you for spending the day with us type message which we had wrote while on our week long honeymoon and posted when home.

I have never given a gift with any expectation of a thank you. If I'm worried something hasn't arrived I'll text and ask.

I think a thank you card is only needed where you sent a gift but didn’t attend. At a wedding I went to recently the guests were thanked profusely in the speeches, and bride and groom thanked everyone they spoke to after the ceremony. That’s enough.

We got married a few years ago now and never sent thank you cards.
I either thanked them in person or over the phone. Seems so wasteful to send out cards.

Not at £1.35 a stamp no.

I think it's a bit old fashioned, I would expect a text though yes. It's the equivalent, you're taking time to say thank you in a message.

I sent thank you cards after our wedding but it was a month or so after. We went on our honeymoon and then I was straight back to work (teacher) so getting them printed and then writing them all did take time. We married mid August and I’d say cards were sent end of September!

I had notepaper printed with a little decoration as part of my invitation order.

So, wedding, honeymoon, pack up and move continents and a wrist under repair. I had all mine hand written and done within a month.

Sometimes, doing things properly matters, whether it’s appreciated or not.