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To think these domestic things make sense and I’m not being lazy?

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dellay · 13/08/2024 19:04

There are various things that I do at home that just make sense to me and I can’t understand on a domestic level why anyone would put themselves out further? This has come up in a conversation with friends who found it hilarious and ridiculous that I do this. I can see the funny side (sort of!) but surely others do this too?

Carrots… I just snap the ends off by hand and put them in the pan rather than chopping with a knife. Why use a knife when you can snap it off?! Same for other veg where it works.

The dishwasher… why empty and put in cupboards? With the exception of mugs, I never ever empty the dishwasher as I just take what is needed then when it’s dirty put it back ready for the next wash?

Clothes… hang them on the two clothes airers and never put them away. I don’t have loads of clothes so that probably helps but literally why put them away?! They are in the spare room perfectly accessible once dry.

There’s other things but this is the general idea. I just don’t get why you would make more work for yourself? Surely others do the same?!

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FOJN · 13/08/2024 21:04

I'm all for working smart not harder but you sound like you have quite a slapdash approach to life, as if nothing is worth a little bit of effort.

I couldn't live like that and I wouldn't usually judge but you are asking.

countrysidelife2024 · 13/08/2024 21:04

im with you on everything except dishwasher... wont lie, thats gross thats like keeping toothbrushes next to a toilet bowl

Starlingexpress · 13/08/2024 21:01

Sgtmajormummy · 13/08/2024 20:42

I think the root of the matter is that the OP is the only adult in the house with nobody to share OR judge the housekeeping.
TBF if I’m alone for a few days I enjoy dropping standards, ignoring the mounting pile of dry clothes and doing the minimum meal prep.
But when the fam comes back it’s better for everyone if the house is running in a logical manner.

Problem is though that a 3 year old grows into a teen or young adult who has to live alongside other people who may not appreciate having dirty dishes flung on top of ‘clean’ ones. Carrots and clothes I wouldn’t get excited about but imagine a student or young professional house share with somebody who didn’t know how to empty a dishwasher and just chucked their dirty stuff back in? 😬

goodkidsmaadhouse · 13/08/2024 21:01

You must waste so much of the carrot if you break the end off?! With a knife I can cut just the very tip. If I snap it there’s a good few cm coming off.

The dishwasher thing feels a bit disgusting to me. Clothes make sense.

Grammarnut · 13/08/2024 21:01

Singleandproud · 13/08/2024 19:16

Don't your carrots take ages to cook, do you not slice them at all? And don't you lose several cm of carrot by snapping?

I do use kitchen scissors to cut a lot of things which is (for me) quicker than a knife. I also cut frozen pizzas up before I cook them.

Edited

The frozen pizza thing is a good idea!

Killingoffmyflowersonebyone · 13/08/2024 20:56

Greenbananasoup · 13/08/2024 20:44

Isn’t using the dishwasher every day pretty normal?

There’s four people in my house and it goes on every other day/ every three days.

Dishes/pans etc are scraped off and dunked in water and then put in. Once it’s full, it goes on. Once it’s dry, it’s emptied

Allfur · 13/08/2024 20:56

Double dishwasher drawers are a good idea

fliptopbin · 13/08/2024 20:55

How in hell do you snap the top off a carrot? Either you use really old bendy ones or you have the hand strength of an olympian (in carrot snapping).

Jhun · 13/08/2024 20:54

In an ideal world people like us would have 2 dishwashers one for cleans the other for dirties!

GalileoHumpkins · 13/08/2024 20:52

I'm about to make a stir fry, I really can't be bothered to get a knife out so I'm just going to rip everything apart with my bare hands. Should be ok, right?!

Dreamskies · 13/08/2024 20:51

Greenbananasoup · 13/08/2024 20:44

Isn’t using the dishwasher every day pretty normal?

For big households maybe, for two of us definitely not.

GoogleWhacking · 13/08/2024 20:51

dellay · 13/08/2024 19:20

I’m so surprised other people don’t do these things 🤦🏼‍♀️

Most people aren't this minging!!

Ohiwish12 · 13/08/2024 20:51

I sort of do the dishwasher thing in the morning especially when rushing around, in that rather than get a clean mug/bowl out the cupboard I'll get it from dishwasher. But I wouldn't mix dirty with clean. The dirty stuff goes to the side. Then at some point, i will empty rest of dishwasher and reload it with dirty and when it's full goes on. If your always adding dirty to clean and putting it on every night you may be wasting energy bills as dishwasher might not be full and need putting on if you emptied the clean stuff?

My DH lives out the piles of clean clothes. Drives me mad but it works for him. I like to put mine away so I can find stuff easily. What's annoying is when you run out of washing baskets because they are still full of clean clothes that haven't been put away!

AuCo44 · 13/08/2024 20:50

Ugh, weird, lazy and really quite mucky, not in a good way.

Dreamskies · 13/08/2024 20:50

It’s definitely not always possible to snap the end off a carrot (I.e thick ones) and you’d waste far more of the carrot than necessary. I don’t see this as time saving over using a knife to chop the ends off…. And what about peeling them?! I don’t like domestic chores, but I peel my carrots and it’s a bit grim not to imo.

Surely if you’re wanting to be THAT lazy about it you’d just do nothing, cook the carrots whole and then just avoid eating the ends once served up?! That’s even easier.

I’m not a huge fan of emptying the dishwasher, but when I do it it literally takes five mins. I wouldn’t want dirty dishes dripping all over the clean ones, and how the hell do you chuckle dirty cutlery back in without affecting the clean stuff? Most dishwashers have a basket for cutlery….

I hate having my clothes out, but I do often fail to get them away in a timely manner. So yes, I suppose I do that, but I don’t like that I do it. It makes me feel lazy and inadequate.

DiscoBeat · 13/08/2024 20:49

Also how do you just snap off the sprouting end of the carrot? They must want to snap in the middle,surely.
I do this with asparagus though!

MilkyCappuchino · 13/08/2024 20:48

well. as long you are clean to your own standard and wear clean underwear and eat clean food ( do you peel the carrots at all?) and have good health from the way you clean your dishes, you are fine

DiscoBeat · 13/08/2024 20:48

I wouldn't get on with the dishwasher method. we put dirty cups in as soon as they're finished with so if it had some clean things in then you'd have to leave it on the side (I don't like that!) Also how do other members of the family know if it's clean or dirty?
The airers thing would be fine for me in the laundry room but again I wouldn't like to see them up in a bedroom longer than necessary.

HÆLTHEPAIN · 13/08/2024 20:48

Allfur · 13/08/2024 20:45

No!

It is in this house.

GoTigers · 13/08/2024 20:47

Allfur · 13/08/2024 20:45

No!

Yes!

Allfur · 13/08/2024 20:45

Greenbananasoup · 13/08/2024 20:44

Isn’t using the dishwasher every day pretty normal?

No!

Greenbananasoup · 13/08/2024 20:44

Killingoffmyflowersonebyone · 13/08/2024 19:39

Tbh it just makes you sound a bit like a lazy slob who's trying to justify their laziness.

Also, using the dishwasher every day? So unnecessary. You wouldn't have to use it every day if you were less lazy...

Isn’t using the dishwasher every day pretty normal?

Allfur · 13/08/2024 20:43

How can a household of two fill a dishwasher every night

LondonFox · 13/08/2024 20:42

Fiorentina9 · 13/08/2024 20:05

I wouldn't like say a cup that had beaten egg in it even in the dw with clean plates, even if not touching

I think that's just a bit silly. I'm pretty sure salmonella isn't airborne.

I do think in the West our obsession with cleanliness and aesthetics has gone too far, so I personally find people like you refreshing, OP.

It is really not obsession with cleanliness if you don't mix dirty and clean dishes.
Dirty dishes are just yuck and do spread bacteria.

And putting away clean clothes is not "aestethetics". It is a reasonable way not to have crowded house with family amount of washing thrown over seven dryers. It is stopping your clothes smell like a mixture of whatever you are cooking in the last several days as most families do not have extra two rooms to use as separate bizarre dryer/wardrobe combo.

And in the end, it is just nice to know that you deserve better. That your family is worth more.
That extra second to chop off vege nicelly and aprechiate food you have..
That five minutes to empty a dishwasher and be happy you live in a place where water and electricity are so easily available.
That ten minutes it takes you to fold away clothes that keeps you warm and makes you look good.
Life is too short to rush through it.

Sparkletastic · 13/08/2024 20:42

Lazy, unhygienic and inefficient. But each to their own.