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Taking kids out of school for a term

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Whenthechipshitthefan · 13/08/2024 16:37

Possibly the wrong place to post- if so sorry!
Has anyone had any success in taking their kids (legally!) out of school for a term or even a half term. I want to take 2 x DDs (Yr 4, Reception) to my mums country for a long stay. They don't know the culture and I'm aware that we are all losing that connection. The flights are expensive, and it takes at least 24hrs to get there. Its a big country so that if we go over I want them to see a lot, experience a lot and see everyone.

Has anyone applied and been successful? Is it just headteacher opinion that matters? What can I promise to keep their place and not get taken to court. Happy to pay a fine!

OP posts:
Whenthechipshitthefan · 13/08/2024 21:03

There's been some really sensible suggestions and advice so thank you. Just finished the work/summercare/bed run so only just catching up.

Sorry I can't reply to each. But to answer some questions:
Eldest DD was in Reception for covid so I basically taught her Reception year. I'm not worried about younger DD falling behind.

I'm also not concerned about elder DD failing behind as she's well ahead of her peers and I am confident I can teach the maths and English required. My worry is not getting back into school with her friends.

I wouldn't put them in a school as the language barrier would stop any reasonable learning- and it probably would have very little to do with UK learning. But I'm very prepared to do home schooling and I think the language immersion alone would be invaluable.

My family couldn't come here- as people have suggested - it would be many years savings to move this way. Also there are a LOT of them and only 4 of us!

It is interesting to hear the different views and opinions and the differing thoughts on what is allowed. Sadly we're in England not Scotland.

It does sound like I need to start with reading all the guidance, defining why we want to do it, working out what we are prepared to sacrifice and then organise the conversation with the Head. They won't agree but at least I can find out what is legally sound.

Finally- one (or more!) people have exactly guessed our situation. Irritating as it will no doubt be- I'm not going to say who! 🙂

OP posts:
VickyEadieofThigh · 13/08/2024 20:41

PonyPatter44 · 13/08/2024 18:54

I was actually hoping that OP and her family are penguins and were avoiding going home during the antarctic winter (our summer).

If they're Emperor penguins, our summer/their winter is precisely when they lay and incubate their eggs.

PorridgeEater · 13/08/2024 20:40

AngelusBell · 13/08/2024 20:13

How will it impact on other pupils?

If the teacher has to spend more time trying to help the children who are behind that will detract from other pupils.
They do have the whole class to consider.

I remember a school being asked by the local priest to take some traveller children - the school really did not want to because it would disrupt everybody else. This was many years ago - it would be even more difficult now because schools are under greater pressure.

Don't know whether OP has realised that as mentioned earlier state schools are now more likely to be oversubscribed due to influx from private schools (don't think this is what OP wants to hear).

Sherrystrull · 13/08/2024 20:40

@AngelusBell

In my experience as a teacher, when a child has had a few weeks off and missed significant chunks of learning, they are then confused, behind and lost when they see where the other children have progressed to. They often require 1:1 support in lessons to help them catch up key learning, meaning other children don't get support.

PizzaFecker · 13/08/2024 20:37

Nothing you can do will stop
Them de registering you

Shame you haven't thought to take them
In 8 years.

pinkfleece · 13/08/2024 20:33

DandyClocks · 13/08/2024 18:31

What a load of codswallop. What about all the Traveller children who move around and dip in and out of education.

They have absolutely awful educational outcomes, the women often marry young and have no opportunities in life and child protection would be involved more if they didn't move on so often.

pinkfleece · 13/08/2024 20:32

CountessWindyBottom · 13/08/2024 18:57

Awww, it really sounds like you need to spend time in your home country and it's so important for your little ones to see their grandparents and know their heritage etc.

I'd be completely up front with the school and ask them if it's something that can be done? Perhaps they could commit to doing some curriculum work while away so they don't fall too far behind.

oh they'll love that. cause disruption, threaten their funding, AND give the teacher extra work to do!

liveforsummer · 13/08/2024 20:30

Would it be the end of the world if you came back and didn't get back on to the same school? I work in a school with a lot of EAL children and it's relatively common for a child or 2 each year group to disappear for an extended time. Being Scotland it's al lot more tolerated and although they eventually drop off the school roll if there is no contact it's mostly accepted. Be aware of you have a girl and it's a county that practices FGM then it might trigger an investigation! With you being in England would you be liable for fines? It might be better in your case just to de register!

TaylorSwish · 13/08/2024 20:28

DandyClocks · 13/08/2024 18:31

What a load of codswallop. What about all the Traveller children who move around and dip in and out of education.

Kinda the point I was trying to make @StMarieforme

greglet · 13/08/2024 20:28

lol at those saying "why can't the family just come here to visit?" and questioning why it's a potentially once in a childhood opportunity for OP's children. Based on the (limited) details that OP has provided, I suspect that this is somewhere that costs a LOT of money to travel to/from, and from where it's not a given that a UK visa would be granted to OP's family.

stichguru · 13/08/2024 20:18

Ask the head. It's their discretion as to whether a holiday of longer than 2 weeks, is a holiday or requires de-enrolling. They would also probably tell you whether the year groups your children are in have a waiting list or not. Then you will probably have one of these answers:

  • Yes go, we'll hold your kids' places
  • We'll need to de-enrol your kids', but will most likely re-enrol them when they come back
  • We'll de-enrol your kids and it's most likely that there won't be space for us to take back one or both on your return.
Based on their answer, you can then decide whether:
  • the kids will still have places and all is good
  • the kids will probably still have places, and it's a risk you are willing to take
  • the kids likely will have to move schools, but it's a risk you are willing to take
  • the kids likely will have to move schools, and the upset that will cause outweighs the benefits of the trip so you won't go
AngelusBell · 13/08/2024 20:13

GivingitToGod · 13/08/2024 18:59

I think you are being selfish and irresponsible in taking your children out of school for this, irrespective of how long it's been since they have seen your family or if they have never seen them. The absence will impact on your children, their teachers and other pupils.

How will it impact on other pupils?

Louria · 13/08/2024 19:59

DandyClocks · 13/08/2024 18:31

What a load of codswallop. What about all the Traveller children who move around and dip in and out of education.

Traveller children are included in the Department for Education guidance.

They are expected to attend another school when they arrive at the next destination. I work with children with registration in more than one school. Of course, like anyone else they can deregister to home school.

Taking kids out of school for a term
StMarieforme · 13/08/2024 19:58

TaylorSwish · 13/08/2024 18:08

I wondered something similar about taking my children out from school Our local authority won’t let families do it, however if you are part of the travelling community you can do it

And that's relevant because...?

Arrivapercy · 13/08/2024 19:57

My friend did this with children of similar ages. They were lucky the school wasn't oversubscribed so they got places back but in reality both kids had a hard 6 months when back, and by the end of primary school the younger one could barely remember the trip.

newusername2009 · 13/08/2024 19:49

can you put the case as visiting family and understanding their cultural heritage. You may well lose your places but you can do it if you are willing to risk that

ilovemydogandmrobama2 · 13/08/2024 19:46

I know a family who moved to South America for a couple of terms for the dad's work who was a lecturer.

The head teacher was in support and think they technically were off the register or whatever, but then re joined. I don't have all the details but it wasn't counted as an absence.

Life it too short to not spend with family and it isn't as if they are mid GCSEs.

They are primary school children.

Yes of course attendance is important, but equally spending time with family.

I'd speak with the head and be open about your plans and see what they suggest.

Louria · 13/08/2024 19:46

needtonamechangeforthis1 · 13/08/2024 19:42

So much ridiculous frothing at the mouth from posters on this thread! It's ridiculous!

Go talk to the school and see what they say. I doubt they will be booted off role if your open and honest with them about your intentions and are committed to keeping them learning.

We are so ridiculous in the uk about not recognising the value of traveling and experiencing other cultures. Your kids will learn so much in the time they are away and have lifelong memories of the trip. A good head teacher will understand the value in travel. In other countries travel like this isn't uncommon.

In other circumstances where children are off school for prolonged periods due to illness they are not off roled.

Go talk to the head. And see what they say. They may also have a preferred window for you to go. If you want to go for six weeks perhaps go two weeks before the Christmas or Easter break and return two weeks after? Then they actually only miss 20 days of schooling and they then can't be off rolled anyway

Really poor advice.

Have you read the Department For Education guidance, above?

needtonamechangeforthis1 · 13/08/2024 19:42

So much ridiculous frothing at the mouth from posters on this thread! It's ridiculous!

Go talk to the school and see what they say. I doubt they will be booted off role if your open and honest with them about your intentions and are committed to keeping them learning.

We are so ridiculous in the uk about not recognising the value of traveling and experiencing other cultures. Your kids will learn so much in the time they are away and have lifelong memories of the trip. A good head teacher will understand the value in travel. In other countries travel like this isn't uncommon.

In other circumstances where children are off school for prolonged periods due to illness they are not off roled.

Go talk to the head. And see what they say. They may also have a preferred window for you to go. If you want to go for six weeks perhaps go two weeks before the Christmas or Easter break and return two weeks after? Then they actually only miss 20 days of schooling and they then can't be off rolled anyway

Allie47 · 13/08/2024 19:41

Children don't have to attend reception so you can legally go without permission but you'll probably need to reapply for a year one place when you get back.

Louria · 13/08/2024 19:37

Whenthechipshitthefan · 13/08/2024 17:00

I am grateful for all the inputs.

I think I was asking what would help me support my case/ my application to the Head?

There isn’t a case to put to the head as he or she has to follow Department of Education guidance.

This is the guidance, it may help you understand what headteachers are working to.
This includes dual placements, number of days before being taken off role and the legal duties for headteachers about maintaining the school register.

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/working-together-to-improve-school-attendance

Working together to improve school attendance

Guidance for schools, academy trusts, governing bodies and local authorities on maintaining high levels of school attendance, including roles and responsibilities.

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/working-together-to-improve-school-attendance

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