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Taking kids out of school for a term

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Whenthechipshitthefan · 13/08/2024 16:37

Possibly the wrong place to post- if so sorry!
Has anyone had any success in taking their kids (legally!) out of school for a term or even a half term. I want to take 2 x DDs (Yr 4, Reception) to my mums country for a long stay. They don't know the culture and I'm aware that we are all losing that connection. The flights are expensive, and it takes at least 24hrs to get there. Its a big country so that if we go over I want them to see a lot, experience a lot and see everyone.

Has anyone applied and been successful? Is it just headteacher opinion that matters? What can I promise to keep their place and not get taken to court. Happy to pay a fine!

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Moll2020 · 14/08/2024 20:49

The rules applied in the LEA I work for are: if attendance is less than 92% and you take 5 or more school days, school can request an FPN be issued, if more than 10 days are taken an FPN will automatically be issued. If more than 20 days are taken then the pupil will lose their school place. You can reapply for a place at the school on return, it’s worth checking how many places are available in your child’s year group. No term time absences are authorised in our LEA. The HT cannot authorise any term time holidays for any reason.

Runningoutoftime99 · 14/08/2024 19:47

@Whenthechipshitthefan we took our son out for 4 months when he was 6 to travel Australia . We made sure school knew it was educational, and we had to write to the council , head teacher needing convincing so we promised a blog !!!! And he saved our space and all was well .

Modompodom · 14/08/2024 19:45

I am thinking somewhere really remote in the Southern Hemisphere if the weather is bad enough to be cut off during our summer months. I would go if it is your only opportunity. Maybe the school could set them some work. My grandson's school gave him a project to do when I took him to Australia, and I also arranged for him to visit a local school for a day. They wanted him to stay longer!

Buffs · 14/08/2024 19:39

Yes I took my two children, aged 11 and 9 years at the time, out of school for 2 terms. They were at a private school so presumably we weren’t reported. We took them traveling around Asia, the best thing we ever did.

Zwellers · 14/08/2024 19:36

Do your children even want to go. Can't understand why you would disrupt thier education and lives in such a way for something they will barely remember and in your own words will never happen again. What's the point.

Mynewnameis · 14/08/2024 19:04

I hope you can do it.
Could you afford private school fees for the remainder if primary in worst case scenario?

KateRose · 14/08/2024 19:00

I know two families who have had authorised absences agreed with their primary schools - one to the far east as they were planning to relocate there (they changed their minds) so school place was kept for them for agreed amount of time another to do a trip of a lifetime and they had to do a lots of agreed educational work. Hope this helps.

Amabitnewhere · 14/08/2024 18:28

Amabitnewhere · 14/08/2024 18:26

I’ve done it for a term. The school head thought it was a great idea. My children were primarily school age. I had to pay their school fees as if they were here (some schools where I live are partly state funded partly fee paying) then their place was kept. Of course it meant paying 2 schools - and two rents- for those three months, but the cultural experience, the bilingualism and the being close to their cousins for months are worth every penny.

Just to add all the school head required was independent proof that my children were registered in a school abroad, ie this wasn’t an extended holiday. An email from the school abroad sufficed. Do it. You will never regret it.

Amabitnewhere · 14/08/2024 18:26

I’ve done it for a term. The school head thought it was a great idea. My children were primarily school age. I had to pay their school fees as if they were here (some schools where I live are partly state funded partly fee paying) then their place was kept. Of course it meant paying 2 schools - and two rents- for those three months, but the cultural experience, the bilingualism and the being close to their cousins for months are worth every penny.

Kilofoxtrot99 · 14/08/2024 18:20

I took my children out of school for 3 months, and enrolled them in a school in my home country on other side of the world. They were 7&9 at that time. I had to sort out elderly parents and it wasn’t going to be possible without having them in school for that time. I took work from their school here and they had to do a diary every day etc, I didn’t get a fine when we returned, and had a letter from the school near my parents stating they had been in school for the last 12 weeks etc. they managed to return to the school here when we came back and didn’t suffer educationally because of the long time away. They still talk really fondly of that time in school when we were away and made lots of friends when they were there, and got to spend lots of time with family still and immerse themselves in a different culture. I would go for it.

Mickey33 · 14/08/2024 17:59

They are very young still- if it’s important for you to go for a long time (1 term ) I would deregister them due to travel home ed and re registered them when you get back. They will be out of school for a long time this will probably be the best option.

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Frieda2024 · 14/08/2024 16:58

DandyClocks · 14/08/2024 09:06

I’m English and worked in HE for many years. We moved abroad when our son was 5 mainly because we don’t rate the English education system very highly compared to some other (EU) countries. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Fair enough. I don’t know enough about the global situation to make that assessment. I do know that we are working as hard as we can to teach to as high a standard as possible and feel pretty proud of that. 😊

Frieda2024 · 14/08/2024 16:53

Personally, I think it would be a brilliant experience for your DC and you sound in a good position to teach them. I wish schools could give their blessing to these kind of trips which have a myriad of cultural and educational benefits in the wider sense of education.

But as PPs have said, the educational zeitgeist is concerned with absence rates and they cannot legally support an absence like this. You risk losing your DC’s place but from your posts, it sounds like it may be worth the risk of that to you. 🤷🏻‍♀️ How oversubscribed is your DC’s school? Is there a local independents school that may have an exodus of pupils who come to your DC’s school if the new government’s VAT rate is applied?

Bushmillsbabe · 14/08/2024 16:36

Ultimately only you can decide if the trip is worth potentially loosing your children's school places for. You know the value of the trip vs the value of their current school. Even if head says they will keep the place, if they get an application whilst you are away, the council may insist they take that child and remove 1 or both of yours from the roll, so it's up to you whether that risk is worth taking.
I strongly believe in the value of travel and of seeing extended family, and have taken our girls out for a few days to facilitate this. But their primary is fabulous and I would never in a million years risk their places to travel. You have to make the choice which is right for your family.

CheshireDing · 14/08/2024 12:23

We did it this year with our 3. We took 6 weeks out of school, our school is an oversubscribed one too.

It was fab and I would honestly do it again !

Whenthechipshitthefan · 14/08/2024 12:19

We're lucky. Our eldest is ahead of expected standards and loves learning. Youngest is very keen to learn to read but I haven't pushed it as I think its fun to learn alongside friends. But I do believe that if I home schooled them they would be further along than their peers rather than behind. For me, school is brilliant because of the community aspect and learning to work alongside others. Academically primary I truly believe I could teach my kids (not that I could be a primary school teacher.. I bow down to them for the work they do!)
So perhaps it will be disruptive because they'd be ahead if anything.
I definitely think (knowing a fair amount about traveller communities through studying) that it's not comparable at all because of what is culturally valued. I value education (formal and informal) whereas traveller communities (traditionally) value their community education methods- not necessarily the mainstream education agenda.

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whereisthelifethatirecognize · 14/08/2024 11:19

pinkfleece · 13/08/2024 20:33

They have absolutely awful educational outcomes, the women often marry young and have no opportunities in life and child protection would be involved more if they didn't move on so often.

This. Which is why there are priority rules in place to try to keep them in schools as much as possible.

HideTheCroissants · 14/08/2024 10:52

AngelusBell · 13/08/2024 23:37

That’s generally because of institutionalised racism and bullying - as a result, their parents are reluctant to send them to school. I know of Traveller parents who have sent their children to private school to avoid them being bullied in state schools. This should not be happening in 2024.

In my last school we had a couple of (settled) traveller families (all related), they were lovely kids, Mums were lovely but illiterate and Dads didn’t really get involved except for end of year performances and sports day. The kids did miss a lot of school but the main reason they don’t have good educational outcomes is that not a single one of them carried on formal education after year 6. They are all “home educated” once they get to secondary age. This means the boys go to work with the male family members and the girls help the female family with the younger children. It’s the way of life for them. Genuinely lovely people but they simply don’t value formal education.
None of the children were bullied and none of the children were bullies - in fact they were better behaved than some of our other families!

GivingitToGod · 14/08/2024 10:29

wafflesmgee · 14/08/2024 07:12

It impacts other pupils because if the children of poster come back significantly behind where they should be, it then becomes their teacher's responsibility to help them to catch up. Depending on the cohort of their class, the teacher having to do this takes them away from helping other children. Obviously.

Spot on

GivingitToGod · 14/08/2024 10:27

AngelusBell · 13/08/2024 20:13

How will it impact on other pupils?

Because of the additional input required by teaching staff to bring absent children up to date with curriculum on their return

Iwasafool · 14/08/2024 10:20

wafflesmgee · 14/08/2024 07:12

It impacts other pupils because if the children of poster come back significantly behind where they should be, it then becomes their teacher's responsibility to help them to catch up. Depending on the cohort of their class, the teacher having to do this takes them away from helping other children. Obviously.

Children in the class are unlikely to all be at exactly the same stage in all subjects. I think one of the children is in reception, well some kids in reception are still in nappies and don't know how to sit still and listen to the teacher, others are reading chapter books and doing KS2 maths. Teachers cope.

DandyClocks · 14/08/2024 09:06

Frieda2024 · 14/08/2024 08:04

I know what you mean and definitely think social media SPaG from the majority of users makes the country’s educational standards seem shockingly bad 😱but as a secondary school English teacher of more than 20 years and a bit of a stickler for SPaG, please do not think we are not trying to instil high standards. 🙏 My students write well but seem to revert to poor SPaG on social media (we have discussed this) - it’s called code switching!! 😜

I’m English and worked in HE for many years. We moved abroad when our son was 5 mainly because we don’t rate the English education system very highly compared to some other (EU) countries. 🤷🏻‍♀️

UtterlyOtterly · 14/08/2024 08:31

While I understand all the issues about schools and their attendance rules, I find it rather sad.

In the late 1960s my brother and I were taken out of school for six weeks to do a similar trip. My mother went to speak to the headmistress of our primary school. Her view was that we would learn far more than the school could teach us. We went with her blessing. We kept scrapbooks and wrote in them every day.

I remember so much about that trip, all the places we went and all the experiences we had. In contrast, I barely remember anything about much of school.

OP, while I think there are valid arguments for not going, I think it is very important to remember that school is not the only important thing in childhood.

Frieda2024 · 14/08/2024 08:04

DandyClocks · 13/08/2024 19:22

It’s obviously a cultural thing as it appears that English schools and parents are fixated on attendance and other pointless petty rules and have little appreciation for the value of cultural enrichment.

I think the idea that they’re missing vital learning is laughable to be honest, especially when you consider the poor standard of written English on social media.

I know what you mean and definitely think social media SPaG from the majority of users makes the country’s educational standards seem shockingly bad 😱but as a secondary school English teacher of more than 20 years and a bit of a stickler for SPaG, please do not think we are not trying to instil high standards. 🙏 My students write well but seem to revert to poor SPaG on social media (we have discussed this) - it’s called code switching!! 😜

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