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The absolute sheer joy of ageing

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KatParr · 13/08/2024 12:46

And not giving as much as a shit anymore. Specifically about:
How I look to others (especially men)
Not caring as much about what other people think of me
Pleasing myself more in what I do and who I see

Yes, there are other difficulties but every so often, I look back at younger me (I'm 48 now) and feel a great relief at who I am now and who I'll become as I get older still. I know not everyone gets this but it's a slow epiphany.

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Gallowayan · 13/08/2024 13:00

Definitely underrated and undervalued on here.

Madamecholetsbonnet · 13/08/2024 12:58

I’m 58 and genuinely never felt happier.

AreolaGrande · 13/08/2024 12:56

I hate it 🥺

I'm 44. Am bleeding and/or bloated like a tellytubby all the time. Knackered. Anxious. No interest in going out and doing stuff. Feel unattractive and invisible.

I feel unrecognisable from the sociable, fun loving person I was 18 months to a year ago and can only see it getting worse from here tbh.

Screamingabdabz · 13/08/2024 12:56

And to anyone young reading this… you don’t have to wait to have the euphoria of not giving a flying fuck what anyone else thinks of you. Start now!

PashaMinaMio · 13/08/2024 12:55

Retirement rocks.
Get up when I like. Go where I like. Do only what I want or need to do.
Enough income to pay my bills.
Worked hard, saved hard when all my peers were spending every penny they had.
Avoided strife, avoided anyone bringing drama to my life.
Divorced the narcissist philanderer.
Loving every minute of my quiet independent life that I’ve strategically worked hard for.

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KatParr · 13/08/2024 12:54

PocketSand · 13/08/2024 12:51

Then menopause hits. Enjoy it while you can. It's not mindset - it's physical. Sorry to be a downer.

I'm in peri and on HRT. Its not perfect. I also have aches and pains etc. It IS also physical I agree, but the mental liberation makes up for it, for me.

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Thepeopleversuswork · 13/08/2024 12:52

Agree. It’s so liberating. I do still care what I look like but I care for me.

Ageing is so underrated. I see see all these posts on here from women wetting themselves about turning 35 or whatever and “getting old” and I feel like shaking them. Embrace it! It’s one of the best things that will happen to you!

PocketSand · 13/08/2024 12:51

Then menopause hits. Enjoy it while you can. It's not mindset - it's physical. Sorry to be a downer.

CocoapuffPuff · 13/08/2024 12:51

Fabulous, isn't it. I'm 56 and I do not give a shit what other people think of me. I could not care less.

I'm unpalatable to some, and some are unpalatable to me. That's life!

FunIsland · 13/08/2024 12:49

I bloody love it, I have more time, energy, money I care less about stupid shit and am physically and mentally stronger than I used to be.

SauvignonBlonk · 13/08/2024 12:48

Bloody marvellous isn’t it!!!
Wish I’d felt like this years ago.

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