Dealing with cold shoulder from new colleagues...

Have you had a chance to observe whether they treat everyone the same way? Maybe they just aren't sociable friendly people? If that's the case, there's nothing you can do, but at least you'll know they don't dislike you, and that might help how you feel.

I'd probably bake some biscuits/ cake and go and offer it round with a cup of tea, and try to start up a breezy conversation (obviously trying to find a non busy time). Or even just "hey, I baked some biscuits, they're in the staff room if you want some!"

Thats an awful lot of trouble to go to for people who are playing silly buggers.

I'm on team be polite and be seen doing it. Happy good morning, cheery good evening, have a great weekend etc

If you retaliate by ignoring them, if it comes to complaints you'll all be seen as co-instigators. If you have a consistent pattern of being nice and friendly and people have seen that, then no one can say anything bad about you.

some people are just arseholes, there's nothing you can do about it. I'd just be absolutely delightful to everyone so eventually they look ridiculous for having been so mean to you.

I'd probably bake some biscuits/ cake and go and offer it round with a cup of tea, and try to start up a breezy conversation (obviously trying to find a non busy time). Or even just "hey, I baked some biscuits, they're in the staff room if you want some!"

It's a miserable workplace where you can't pass the time of day with your colleagues.

I work in a similar set up, we all have our own offices, but we will go and pop our heads round to ask a question and then end up having a chat, or we'll see each other coming and going and say hi.

I can't imagine how awkward it would be to not have that with people who sit in the room next to you all day.

The truth is, if you're nice enough to people then they tend to come round and the ones that don't just end up looking silly.

Be nice to everyone and make effort to grab people for a chat (noticing when they seem free and less busy), ask questions about them and their lives etc, try to notice where you might be able to be of help to others, and most people will start to like you.

I know how disheartening this can be.

make a note of the date it happened and any instances going forward. Then kill them with kindness! Greet them every morning with a bright smile and after a very enthusiastic interaction, asking how they are, how was their evening, did they get upto anything exciting last night, remind them to have a good day and go on your merry way.
every time you meet them in passing give them another glorious smile and ask how their day is going.

it is exhausting, but nothing unites people
more then a common enemy. One of them feels slighted and has bad mouthed you to the rest. In my last role I was hired to replace someone who had been there for 30 years and retired. She was beloved and revered and a shoulder to cry on for all. I am not that type of person, I just wanted to be trained and get in with my work, not sit around and chat. It did rub people up the wrong way, but I kept my head down and smiled my way through it. They warmed up to me eventually but I was promoted after 3 months so who’s laughing now 😃😃

Ignore them.

They may just be like this with everyone. If not I would continue with a cheerful “Hello, lovely day” and “Cheerio, have a lovely evening “. If you do ignore them or ask if there is an issue and they are being mean they will likely use that as evidence of “She is unpleasant to us”. If they are like it with everyone they are unlikely to change, if it is just you they will soon move on to be unfriendly to someone else and maybe even make you flavour of the month. I would not want to be in their gang!

Agree with this entirely. Blank them. It will turn the tables on them and later on as you gather allies, they’ll be on the outer. I’ve done it before when in a similar situation and it works.

I'd go for a breezy 'good morning' then retreat to your room with your kit and get on with your work.

Sometimes you meet small minded nasty people and you just have to navigate around them. They really aren't worth bothering with. I'm sure there are others in the company you can make friends with.

I think some people are just like this. I have problems with one specific person at work, he will speak to me but also make comments about me and my work. When I started his friend was off all the time and I ended up doing her job, I was new to the company but done a very similar job before. I was good at the job so they left me on it. Since then he makes comments that I don't work and talk all the time. He has reported me to management with no outcome. I am just very organised and experienced and it doesn't take me as long as others.

Politics and they have probably been there a while. Just do your job and blank\ ignore them. It is a bit like hot desking, some desks are hotter than others. When you are new they are all available but with time you can see some are favourites.

I ended up sitting amongst a project team one day and they treated me like I didn't exist. I started earlier than them so they were not in when I had to choose a spot.

It’s probably politics - maybe you came in at a level that they think could block someones promotion

so… don’t worry about it

keep saying hi and bye but not much else and just be yourself - and smiley and warm. Sometimes even asking them a question about how things work can break a barrier as you will come across as humble.

and if they continue to be downright unpleasant - you can either just ignore them or get rid of the elephant in the room by saying what @DeathByResponsibilities says - ie I hope I didn’t do anything to get off on your wrong food, thanks for your help, see you later.

There is no way I’d put up with this shit-it can easily escalate into full on bullying tactics.

Tackle it head on ‘Can I ask if I’ve done something to upset you? I understand there was a mix up over laptops on my first day but bow that I understand the system I hope that’s been resolved?’

Watch them squirm and switch on the ‘nice’ face. If more of this kind if twattish behaviour was called out, workplaces wouldn’t be so bloody toxic.

Be yourself, be polite, continue to greet your colleagues as you would anyother human being , do a good job and don't give them the satisfaction of taking up any time in your brain. They aren't important enough to you if they can't be civil and kind.

Two stories.

1. My new place, I'm bank. Two mean women. I say hello, they dont even change their facial expressions. Now I am polite, but dont engage. I'm nobody's doormat.

1. My partners place of work. Small company premises closed, they move to big company premises, the CEO owns both companies. Three women in big company, one in small. The three women.....wont let the new woman use their toilets as 'we all have our own cubicle.' I mean can you seriously imagine it!!!

The moral is, sometimes people are shocking. Dont be shocking yourself and dont be a pushover. Good morning to those who are nice, nothing to those who are not.

Maybe one of them (or somebody they know) applied for your job, and they resent you for it.

Fuck 'em.

Crack on with your day and don't give it a second thought!

You're going to have to learn to deal with difficult people as you'll meet them throughout your working life. As always, just be polite and professional.

I like the maxim: What others think of me is none of my business.

Just stop trying. You really don’t need to give them the headspace.

How unpleasant of your colleagues. I suspect it is nothing that you have done. I would suspect something like they recommended a friend for your job or they feel threatened by having a new person (you) especially if you are well turned out and are more highly qualified than them.

They may improve once they have seen you are ok. If it becomes worse, report it to your management.

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TBF to op I had a colleague who started by refusing to speak to (obviously, as in saying hello to everyone by name and not to me) and proceeded to full bullying.
When eventually I challenged management treated it as a personalily clash which it most definitely wasn't.

I think @DeathByResponsibilities bit about getting off in the wrong foot is the way I’d go. I’m uncomfortable with an undercurrent of bad feeling even if the people aren’t really of much importance in the scheme of things.