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Wasteful family member Dniece

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SurpriseOzzy · 12/08/2024 21:44

My DB’s daughter who is 13 is very wasteful. For example if we do a buffet she’ll put 20 prawns on her plate but eat 3. My DB laughs and doesn’t stop her. We had some fruit out, cherries so expensive, she filled her bowl, didn’t eat them all but others missed out. Of course cherries were easy enough to rinse but she will put her eaten stones on top.

I did a sushi buffet she got 6 gyoza and just nibbled the pastry.

DB does spoil her, she has all the latest fashions etc. I have DDs who are 9 and 12 and they do look up to her in a way, but even they are sometimes shocked. If DB and SIL won’t do anything can I say something?

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Talipesmum · 12/08/2024 21:49

This is your DB’s fault far more than hers. Yes I think you can say something - say something specific though at the time of an incident, preemptively if possible, not “your DD is very wasteful”. So at the buffet you’d have to watch her and say “oh, just two of those each, they’re to go around everyone” etc.

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SurpriseOzzy · 12/08/2024 21:47

I don’t want to shame her and feel her mum and dad should be telling her. They’re all very well off and this sort of waste just seems normal. We’ve had a fair amount of hand me downs which are barely worn. Or even boxes of trainers shoes/toys unopened. There seems to be no value attached to things, like it comes easy.

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Moonshine5 · 12/08/2024 21:45

Of course you can

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