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Call the police?? Worried about stranger

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prawncocktail2 · 12/08/2024 21:25

Not sure if I’m being overly cautious but wouldn’t want to risk not reporting it?

I regularly go over the bridge that runs over j29a of the m1. Very high bridge that looks over the motorway. Just gone past and there’s a young lad maybe 16/17 sat on the pavement with his legs up, elbows on his knees and covering his face with his hands. He looks like he’s stressed. He’s dressed all black with his head up. I just feel uneasy that he’s sat on the pavement like that so close to the bridge? What would you do?

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prawncocktail2 · 12/08/2024 21:45

Hopefully he’s ok

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prawncocktail2 · 12/08/2024 21:45

MilkyCappuchino · 12/08/2024 21:43

well, he clearly wasnt well, alone at night on a bridge

Yes you’re right. He was just hunched over with his hood up sat on the pavement up there

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Nicknacky · 12/08/2024 21:44

prawncocktail2 · 12/08/2024 21:44

I agree. I was home quickly after seeing him so called just after I put this up, I just couldn’t find anywhere to pull in. I just wondered in my mind if he was having a bit of a think up there watching cars go by but you just never know. Thanks everyone

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PoopedAndScooped · 12/08/2024 21:44

Christ sake!!!!!

Why didnt you call 999 straight away

Instead of ‘Oh i will wait till i get to my destination and then ask on mumsnet’

The mind Boggles !!!!!

iateallthebiscuits · 12/08/2024 21:44

Well done for calling them and thank you for caring x

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prawncocktail2 · 12/08/2024 21:44

Nicknacky · 12/08/2024 21:41

What would you have done if mumsnet wasn’t around to ask? In future, pretend it doesn’t exist and trust your instincts. You wasted valuable time going home then posting here. You might think that’s harsh, but it’s true.

I agree. I was home quickly after seeing him so called just after I put this up, I just couldn’t find anywhere to pull in. I just wondered in my mind if he was having a bit of a think up there watching cars go by but you just never know. Thanks everyone

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MilkyCappuchino · 12/08/2024 21:43

well, he clearly wasnt well, alone at night on a bridge

maverickfox · 12/08/2024 21:41

Absolutely not a waste of a call. As pp said, you may well have saved his life.

Nicknacky · 12/08/2024 21:41

What would you have done if mumsnet wasn’t around to ask? In future, pretend it doesn’t exist and trust your instincts. You wasted valuable time going home then posting here. You might think that’s harsh, but it’s true.

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prawncocktail2 · 12/08/2024 21:39

Just worried they’ll think I’ve wasted a call, of course it’s not a waste if he needs help, but in case he’s moved on. But like PP said, it’s better that someone goes to see if he’s there than not and something happening. He only looked young :(

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mytuppennyworth · 12/08/2024 21:39

prawncocktail2 · 12/08/2024 21:36

I’ve rang it in. They’re attending as an emergency

well done

Durdledore · 12/08/2024 21:38

Thank you for calling them

Mummyratbag · 12/08/2024 21:38

Well done you may have saved a life

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prawncocktail2 · 12/08/2024 21:37

Not sure if he’s still there but I’m not able to get there and check right now but police will be checking to see if he’s still there and ok

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prawncocktail2 · 12/08/2024 21:36

I’ve rang it in. They’re attending as an emergency

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Shitlord · 12/08/2024 21:36

Do it please. They can do a welfare check. Might be a budding civil engineer thinking about the bridge's structure or just contemplating getting out of Derbyshire but better safe than sorry xx

Wordsmithery · 12/08/2024 21:34

Go and talk to him until police arrive. You caring could make all the difference

tsmainsqueeze · 12/08/2024 21:32

Absolutely ring 999 , i would want someone to do this if it were my son and i wouldn't hesitate if i saw someone in the same situation.

Honestlynotsure · 12/08/2024 21:31

FFS CALL 999 NOW!

Mummyratbag · 12/08/2024 21:31

Also police would far rather a wasted trip (not wasted really) than have to deal with the harrowing potential consequences.

Gonk123 · 12/08/2024 21:29

Could you not stop and ask? Or were you on the motorway?
I would def ring for help if not - 999 for sure, always better to be safe, it’s not a prank call is it. Hopefully they will go and see that he is no longer there with a bit of luck. Or they will find him and help him …either way you’ve done nothing wrong.

baggieAnn · 12/08/2024 21:29

I called 101 for a very similar thing last week and I wasn’t the first to call. Several police turned up quickly and it was taken seriously

Namenamchange · 12/08/2024 21:29

call the police and go back and talk to him

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prawncocktail2 · 12/08/2024 21:29

I was driving and there wasn’t really anywhere to pull in but I have now got to where I was going and it’s not far away at all so presume he’s still there . I just thought I’d ask because I know he could just be sat there but I’m rather be safe than sorry. A few other motorists noticed I think and were looking

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mytuppennyworth · 12/08/2024 21:28

I also vote police, better unnecessary callout than a missed opportunity to prevent a jump

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