Neighbours Autistic daughter

But they don't work. As an adult who is also visually impaired, I have to rely on my poor hearing. (which is better than my vision)

Oh and the decent ones are expensive

Because she's upset about the noise and headphones are a good way to block noise out? I would have thought it was quite obvious really!

Except no one is suggesting institutions as a solution for jackhammer users and non disabled screamers.

From my experience that's usually temporary

I don’t understand why everyone thinks this is a disability issue. It isn’t. It’s a noise issue. It’s just decibels. If someone was making noise with a jackhammer or from screaming it’s the same issue.

@Tricho because she doesn't like the noise?

The "new" neighbours could be a lot worse, be careful what you wish for.

Hopefully they'll tell you that people with disabilities exist and neither is an option for you.

It's life and you can't choose who your neighbours are.

Or they'll move you and your neighbours will be a lot worse, or they'll move much worse neighbours next to where you live now? We can hope for that maybe?

Blows my mind that this is always the first response. Why should she have to walk round with headphones on

Some babies and young children scream for hours at night. Do we suggest institutions for them because of the disturbance they create.

This issue isn’t about autism, it’s about unreasonable noise in a residential setting. People’s personal circumstances are their own business, but everyone living in a residential setting must be able to live peacefully and must be considerate of others in respect to noise. If one neighbour cannot reduce noise levels to a reasonable level then a solution must be found that works for everyone.

"No. Reasonable noise is. This isn't your average noise is it."

Because it is made by a disabled person?

Noise is part of living in the community

No. Reasonable noise is. This isn't your average noise is it.

I'm not going to be mean -- but realistically I think the HA/council will do nothing because there's not going to be any options. Since the child has a disability, if they do offer a swap it's more likely to be you; they can't force the disabled person to move.

As for medication: they have tried using antipsychotics such as risperidone when behaviour is violent. There's serious drawbacks to this approach. There isn't any medication that can control a meltdown as the trigger is often environmental or behavioural.

Institutionalisation is not an option and as people have posted secure beds are like hens' teeth, reserved for children who absolutely cannot be handled at home. Even placements for children where the family is not capable of looking after them anymore aren't easy to find. Relying on family has been the easy option for disabled children and young people.

"That sounds really hard OP and it’s not fair on you. If the daughter can’t be controlled then she needs to be housed at a residential home or school and not in the community sadly."

No a house rather than a flat would be suitable. This week we have had to put up with the noise from one neighbours DIY and their son spending hours kicking a football against the garden wall, another neighbour's cutting his lawn with a power driven lawn mower every couple of days, someone else's dog loud yapping every time it goes in the garden and their toddlers frequent shrieking. And lots of shrieking from children in paddling pools and bouncing on trampolines.

Noise is part of living in the community.

You grow the fuck up. There's absolutely no reason why OP has to live in misery because of someone else's child.

Of course she's complaining about her mental health, because it's suffering. The girl and her mother are not related to the OP and she's not in the slightest way responsible for them.

To be honest them being reported will probably help them in the long run.

Don’t be so ridiculous! You’re a vile human being for suggesting it’s acceptable for the OP to live with noise levels that drive them to despair. OP is entitled to reasonable peace and quiet in her own home. If her neighbours are not capable of living in a flat without disturbing those living around them then they should be moved somewhere more reasonable whether that be a detached property or residential home. Would you think it acceptable if the noise level drove people to suicidal? I expect you would wouldn’t you as you seem to think only the feelings of the neighbours matter in this situation. That’s just not how life works.

Wow. Why is it OPs burden to carry? Or the next neighbour or the one after that? It's not her child. This is a seriously unhinged comment.

And you should be locked up for spouting hateful, archaic views that surmount to the advocacy of eugenics. Absolute vile “human being” you are.

Actually, OP is disgusting and deserves everything they get. Hope that helps.

You’re a downright nasty person.

Complaining about YOUR mental health? What about the young girl’s mental health? What about her mother’s mental health? And then now their neighbour is being vile towards them.

If you’re suffering that badly then call the Samaritans, 116 123. Get some therapy. Grow the fuck up. Move out if you have such a problem with it. It’s not their burden to carry.

The mother chose to have a child, OP didn't, and yet is living as if she's a parent with the noise impacting her life.

My sympathy lies with @Ashellwithin as noises like that - the thumping and crashing alone, never mind the vocalisations- would drive me absolutely insane.

No one is saying it isn't, but it doesn't mean it also should take over an innocent neighbours life as well. What would you suggest is a practical solution? Even if OP moves, it is going to cause issues for the next person

It’s tiring dealing with an autistic kid too. It’s also tiring dealing with judgy comments about why you’re out walking at midnight.

Why, on every single thread such as these, do people suggest noise cancelling headphones as some kind of magic cure for unbearable noise?

I have run the ENTIRE gamut, including buying incredibly expensive Sony headphones that cost the better part of £400.

There is no such thing as completely noise cancelling headphones: the very good ones damp the sound to a minimum, but they don't completely stop or remove it.

Also, wearing such headphones can be quite discombobulated, as you're essentially cancelling out one of your senses: being unable to hear ANY sound, as a hearing person, feels strange.