Sil is a very strong character, I’ve been with Dh since I was a teen and felt intimidated by her back then, I don’t anymore, but still try to avoid contact etc, I’m always friendly and civil.
We live abroad and have done for years & years, so luckily I don’t have to encounter her too often. However, when she comes to visit, she always gives me the Spanish Inquisition about if we’d ever return to the U.K., it’s not just pleasant conversation, she’s very intense and a dominant person. She always brings up how much Dd (6) would love living there and how much she misses her, she says Dd has the accent of where were originally from and so on,
Dh recently went back to visit his family and he’s come back with all these plans about wanting to live there, how much more money he can make, how much friendly the people are. We’ve discussed moving back on and off over the years, but for me it would never be to where we came from, but where my family live now (very similar lifestyle-outdoors, beaches, surf, sports etc) It would be of no benefit for Dd to live where I grew up as she’s been completely spoilt with such an amazing outdoors lifestyle, where were originally from there’s no beach, it can be dangerous, it’s depressing and just somewhere there’s no way I’d want to go back to.
He started saying how he’d be closer to his family and how his sister was saying how amazing it would be and to go near my family would be too far away etc. We hadn’t even talked about moving back recently and now all these plans. I said to Dh it’s about what would be best for Dd and how could she go from such an amazing upbringing to that
She’s fed him a load of stuff as usual and it’s causing issues between us now
What would you do?