To think people at work shouldn't ask 'what happened to your hand?'

A.k.a being nosey

AKA being paranoid and assuming everyone has your low standard, because you would not show concern and interest because you are just nosey.

Meanwhile normal nice people are different.

It's just natural curiosity.

You may as well expect people to stop talking about the weather.

It's humans being humans.

I was very ill with blood poisoning recently. It was very obvious I had been very ill, I was yellow where I wasn't covered in bruises or bandages from the pustules.

Not one single person asked what was wrong with me and I felt a bit neglected tbh. Noone can ever win.

When my friend broke her arm she told everyone it was due to excessive masterbation 🤣

A.k.a being nosey

I had this when I had my tenosynivitis corrected. I had a massive surgical size wrapping around my hand and wrist for three days and was then told to reduce the bandage but to keep the stitches and dressing covered. When asked I took great delight in seeing the grossed out looks on peoples faces and the wish that they never asked when I told them and that I was awake for the whole procedure and even watched the surgeon doing it and seeing how my tendons work. Just invent something gross so people wish they never asked

They are only showing an interest.

They are not helping though... they are being nosey.
OP is wearing a bandage and treating her infection herself.

Humans are social, if we weren’t we would get nowhere. What would happen if you fell in the street, would you want people to walk round you or hold out a helping hand?

I totally agree. I had skin cancer removed from my forehand a good few years ago so had a bloody see through plastic bandage and stitches. Had to do the school run and a dad on the gate who had never spoken to me before went on and on about my head. What had I done? Did the other person look worse? No seriously what had I done and he wouldn't drop it. In the end another mother whose Dc was in my dc class told him why and to drop it.

This would annoy me too OP, so YANBU.

In this hot weather, I have been wearing short sleeves, which means my self harm scars are on show. I get fed up with people asking about it... and I do see and hear people nudging each other to look at my arms too.

I would hazard a guess that you easily offend most people although you probably don't notice.

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@wombat15 I'd hazard a guess you're very difficult to talk about anything to and very easily offended

Why do you use a walking stick out of interest?

If we all went around terrified of offending, we'd never talk to anyone and it would be a lot crappier than simply having to say 'my skin flared up'.

It is more likely to be but it might not be as in this case.

I'd agree with that.
Same with wheelchairs you'd never ask anyone in a wheelchair what happened.

A bandage on a hand is more likely to be a daft injury than anything else.

I am sure the people who ask me why I have a walking stick would also argue that they are not enquiring about a medical condition either but they are in effect. It is nosy and unnecessary. There are plenty of other things to talk about .

Are you planning to spend your life alone, no friends no partner ? I can't imagine how silent your life must be.

@wombat15 don't be so ridiculous! Asking about medical conditions hardly! Enquiring what's happened.

I'm sure your work colleagues have as little interaction with you as possible, if you're that touchy.

Is what's for dinner tonight, asking about any dietary needs? So therefore potentially a medical question?

People ask out of politeness, they actually couldn't give a shiny shit.

About a month ago my hubby was doing some garden stuff for a friend who is elderly and disabled.

I advised him to not raise the chainsaw above waist height as it's amazing how much pressure is put on the chest to raise your arms and it could slip and slice his head/face, chest etc.

What did he do? He raised the saw above head height to reach some branches, the saw slipped and sliced his left hand! Great big open wound, loads of blood! His whole hand swelled bigly!

His friend drove him to hospital fast where is was sewn up and he had a couple of appointments at our local surgery. Thankfully the saw blade was ''less aggressive'' than normal chainsaws so it was quite a straight cut, not really jagged and also thankfully it didn't slice any veins, bones etc, it was more of a deep flesh cut.

Amazingly it's all almost healed now, all swelling is off and there's barely any sign of it!

People were ALWAYS asking him what happened to his hand and he fully admitted he was a silly arse and didn't listen to his mrs!

They are showing nosiness. If they are work colleagues I amsure there are plenty of things they could talk about that don't include asking someone about their medical conditions.

YABU. Chill out, they're showing concern, you sound a right misery.

Yes, I may tell someone to fuck off one day.

I don't think it is completely different. Either can be due to a medical condition. I use a walking stick and the constant questions have actually put me off going out. It's easy for people to say you can lie but lying doesn't come easily to me and I shouldn't have to.

Goodness...it's just natural OP! I'd ask what you'd done to your hand if you were a colleague. People are generally caring in nature...they will be asking because they care, not because they're nosy bastards.

I can understand you feeling sensitive due to the nature of your condition, but a bandaged hand, to most people, would indicate an injury due to an accident, which is why they are asking.

You can of course just lie if you're uncomfortable, and say you cut your hand with the bread knife, but you can't seriously believe that nobody should ask 🤷‍♀️