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To think the Co op should not allow this?

217 replies

KimberleyClark · 12/08/2024 17:18

Just been to my small local Co op for a few things and chuggers just inside the door. It was so intimidating. Right there in my face as I walked in. Ignored them as they tried to engage with me as I waked in, they tried again as I walked out and called have a nice day as I left. I do give to various charities but I do hate this.

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WagonWheel1234 · 12/08/2024 18:20

My DH has a great solution for dealing with chuggers... just yell "You can't speak to me, I'm under 18". DH is very much NOT under 18 but for some reason they're always struck dumb by this 😂

AgileGreenSeal · 12/08/2024 18:19

It bugs me too. I just smile brightly and say “No, thank you” as soon as the opening gambit starts. And keep walking.

rainbowunicorn · 12/08/2024 18:17

I avoid my local coop during the day now because of this. I only go either early morning before work or in the evening. Saturdays are the worst. One Saturday when I had no choice but to go in. I had the big issue woman who has been there for years and stands right in the middle of the door way, a local group bag packing for god knows what and then on the way out a table for some charity or other trying to get a donation and sell me raffle tickets. I just want to do my shop in peace.

Wahine24 · 12/08/2024 18:17

Complain to the manager/ shift supervisor every time.
Or if you see them in the doorway go elsewhere if lots of people did this it would soon stop as it would affect the footfall & therefore profits

Daisylookslost · 12/08/2024 18:16

It is preying on the vulnerable isn’t it? That’s not a way I’ve thought of it before but I think it’s true in a way. I keep on walking and if costed say no thanks. I don’t find this remotely difficult. But those who are vulnerable might 😟

MeowCatPleaseMeowBack · 12/08/2024 18:16

KrisAkabusi · 12/08/2024 17:50

Just say "No thanks" and keep walking. You don't have to stop, you don't have to engage in conversation and you certainly don't have to justify yourself. It's only a problem if you let it be a problem.

Last time I did this, the chugger shouted after me about how he didn't want a chat anyway. Twat.

muddyford · 12/08/2024 18:13

ComealongMartha · 12/08/2024 18:02

We had save the children in Waitrose recently. I made my best manic face and said that I hate children.

I've said this!

Sethera · 12/08/2024 18:13

KrisAkabusi · 12/08/2024 17:50

Just say "No thanks" and keep walking. You don't have to stop, you don't have to engage in conversation and you certainly don't have to justify yourself. It's only a problem if you let it be a problem.

This is what I do and it seems to work.

GetDownkeith · 12/08/2024 18:11

itsmylife7 · 12/08/2024 17:21

It's so bloody annoying.... you look friendly....my reply is...looks are deceiving and walk off.

I have answered well I’m not to that one too. They are just so obtrusive.

MattSmithsBowTie · 12/08/2024 18:09

I agree, it shouldn’t be allowed, I expect the only people they get to sign up are those who are vulnerable in some way and can’t say no/don’t know what they’re signing up for. If people wanted to give £10 month to charity they would without the need for chuggers.

blacksax · 12/08/2024 18:08

I don't mind if charities are collecting with their tins outside the store entrance (Lifeboats, British Legion etc) or if a charity has a small table inside the store, but I would not be happy with chuggers accosting me like that while I'm actually inside a supermarket. I would be pissed off. Very pissed off indeed.

Bananalanacake · 12/08/2024 18:07

I give them my best glower and say 'only if you're campaigning to bring back the death penalty ' and I keep walking fast.

LittleBitAlexisLaLaLaLaLa · 12/08/2024 18:06

We had chuggers in the doorway of the shop I work in for a while. Not every day thank god, and I think people complained to head office as they haven’t been around for a while. The homeless who set up just outside the door and to the side are much better behaved, never seen any of them actively beg or anything and they’re far less fake sounding and annoying when they engage you in conversation.

AtmosAtmos · 12/08/2024 18:04

ComealongMartha · 12/08/2024 18:02

We had save the children in Waitrose recently. I made my best manic face and said that I hate children.

Brilliant 😂

Gingertam · 12/08/2024 18:03

I also hate that Co-op allow this. They block the entrance at my nearest one. I just carry on walking now and go to the Tesco Express which is further along. You're not getting my custom on the days you use chuggers! As PP said I also never give to charities who use chuggers. Despise them.

ComealongMartha · 12/08/2024 18:03

elliejjtiny · 12/08/2024 18:00

I had this at the hospital while I was trying to quickly get some food and get back on the ward before ds came back from theatre. I quickly explained that I had to get back to the ward quickly and they just said it wouldn't take long.

That’s awful! I’m really shocked that they were allowed to do this.

ComealongMartha · 12/08/2024 18:02

We had save the children in Waitrose recently. I made my best manic face and said that I hate children.

AtmosAtmos · 12/08/2024 18:02

I don’t like it, even if I wanted to set up (I don’t) I wouldn’t be giving my details out in the Asda doorway.

Maybe shops do it as part of social responsibility- can add to the yearly report for shareholders that they partner with X charity. They aren’t actually inconvenienced at all. They must have looked at how pissed off shoppers get and that it isn’t enough to stop them coming through the door.

invisiblecat · 12/08/2024 18:02

Email their head office and complain. They should not be allowing that to happen inside the store.

tulippa · 12/08/2024 18:01

I'm sure this would actively put people off shopping in those stores so not sure why they allow it.

I walk briskly past looking straight ahead to avoid eye contact. If anyone tries to engage me (doesn't matter what they say) I clearly and assertively say 'no thanks' and carry on walking. The trick is to keep moving.

elliejjtiny · 12/08/2024 18:00

I had this at the hospital while I was trying to quickly get some food and get back on the ward before ds came back from theatre. I quickly explained that I had to get back to the ward quickly and they just said it wouldn't take long.

stripedstripes · 12/08/2024 17:59

I refuse to give to charities that use chuggers

MidnightPatrol · 12/08/2024 17:59

My local Waitrose has one of these EVERY DAY.

I hate it - don’t need to be guilt tripped every time I buy anything.

Gruttenberg · 12/08/2024 17:55

Justwantosay · 12/08/2024 17:48

There are usually some in my local shopping centre. I hate the way they walk in front of you so as to stop you in your tracks. One guy was working for the Cat Protection society and he stood in front of me and said "hello madam, do you like cats?"

I've never enjoyed saying the word "No" so much 😄

I had the same yesterday outside Asda but it was dogs, and I said exactly the same as you! 😂

PreciousMahoney · 12/08/2024 17:53

These posts have just reminded me a few weeks ago my husband and I went into the Range.

Young guy and girl approached us inside showing us photos of labradors, naming them and launching into a spiel about guide dogs for the blind. My husband got his wallet out to give them a donation and they said oh no we can't accept one off donations. We just said sorry we aren't signing up for a direct debit and while they weren't downright rude, there was a lot of eye rolling and sighing.

Had forgotten this till today and agree it shouldn't be happening inside the shop.