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To think the Co op should not allow this?

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KimberleyClark · 12/08/2024 17:18

Just been to my small local Co op for a few things and chuggers just inside the door. It was so intimidating. Right there in my face as I walked in. Ignored them as they tried to engage with me as I waked in, they tried again as I walked out and called have a nice day as I left. I do give to various charities but I do hate this.

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Fizbosshoes · 12/08/2024 18:53

They're usually outside my station, in their dozens, it's like running a gauntlet.
I've no idea how much engagement they get because people are either a) rushing for their train or b) trying to get to work. I never speak to them.

They often say they just want a moment of my time....except they don't, they want all my details. They don't want a moment of my time to discuss how fabulous Sifan Hassan is or how epic the pole vault final was at the Olympics!

corlan · 12/08/2024 18:51

I think I went to far with the chugger who asked me if I am against knife crime. I told him that actually, I'm all for it and there's nothing I like better on a Saturday than going out and shanking a few people.

Itisjustmyopinion · 12/08/2024 18:49

tobee · 12/08/2024 18:39

It especially annoys me when you know that they chug for any charity going, not people who volunteer specifically for a cause they give any hoots about. Angry

This! They get paid very well to be a nuisance

I usually just ignore them, don’t say anything to them, just completely ignore them. But I had one chase me up the street once and I said to him are you getting paid for this? When he stuttered yes, I said well that’s not very charitable is it and he didn’t follow me when I walked away

Definitely going to use some of the come backs noted here if any annoy me again

parkrun500club · 12/08/2024 18:49

KrisAkabusi · 12/08/2024 17:50

Just say "No thanks" and keep walking. You don't have to stop, you don't have to engage in conversation and you certainly don't have to justify yourself. It's only a problem if you let it be a problem.

Agree.

They tend to hang around railway stations as well. So irritating. Shelter were at Waterloo today. Fortunately they'd found other victims to hassle.

DelurkingAJ · 12/08/2024 18:48

I smile and tell them that I give to charity through my work payroll as they match donations. (Was true at my former employer). They gape and I walk on by.

I agree it is beyond annoying.

NotA6FigureSalary · 12/08/2024 18:46

Agreed.

Breast Cancer Now are the worst for it round here (Edinburgh)

Cheeky chappy type blokes in their 20s failing to read the room.

Tesco chucked them out so now they're in the Co-op here. I presume the stores are getting backhanders from the agencies who pay these charity muggers.

listsandbudgets · 12/08/2024 18:46

I saw one last week who stood in my way as i tried to get into a shop and told me how pleasant I looked - I just stonily walked past.

Next he waylaid a couple - lady said they had no cash and he said "It's ok we're not taking any cash today we wanted to talk to you about an exciting new way of raising money for charity" ... bet it involved their bank details!

I do think this is a free market for fraudsters though - pretend to represent a supposed charity and collect direct debit details. it could be sometime before people realised that it wasn't a chairty

sleekcat · 12/08/2024 18:45

I just tell them immediately that I don't do direct debits and they don't say anything else. They're very annoying though.

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 12/08/2024 18:44

"I don't give to beggars" is my stock response if they don't accept a civil"No, thank you".

Scarfitwere · 12/08/2024 18:44

"I'm sorry I have a policy not to donate to charities who employ people to do what you're doing, as its morally questionable and preys on the vulnerable." Then walk on. Agree it shouldn't even be a thing though in a grocery shop.

EI12 · 12/08/2024 18:44

Oh, the shopping experience in our shopping centre - first you are accosted by chuggers, then in Tesco there are people with leaflets telling you what to buy for a food bank, and finally at self checkout you are asked if you want to round up 25.99 to 30 pounds for charity or suchlike (idiotic request) and if you proceed to the manned checkout, there are always kiddies with their teachers - can we help you pack? With a begging bowl for the dance class or suchlike. Kiddies I can't say no to, but chuggers - no way. There are some really entitled chuggers too - they are 20 years of age and say - do you know how difficult it is for the young people to get a council flat? (Shelter). I kid you not - not 'how difficult it is for our ex servicemen to sleep rough' but literally 'do you know how difficult it is to get a council flat'? I tell them either to live with their parents or buy one, what is the problem? Or there is another one of my favourite 'adopt an elephant/hippo/donkey. I always say earnestly 'I am sorry I have a very small flat'. They continue, quite seriously, to tell me that you don't get to keep the animal, it is just a direct debit to feed them or whatever, at which point I look at them earnestly and say 'so, you are scamming me, right, saying adopt it and pay for it and don't give it to me?'

taxguru · 12/08/2024 18:44

Yes, they've been doing it at our local small Co Op too! Very annoying. I tend to hang around and wait for another customer to leave just in front of me so they can accost someone else and leave me alone!

I think it's fair enough at large stores as you can avoid them more easily, but it's very poor form that they do it in smaller stores where it's much harder to avoid them.

strangeandfamiliar · 12/08/2024 18:43

It really is a menace. Some of them can be quite intimidating, and they do seem to target women. DH rarely gets approached, although teenage DD and I are often targets. Not a way to revive footfall in our dying high streets; no wonder so many people prefer to shop online.

MSLRT · 12/08/2024 18:43

I’ve seen it too. And while I just say I’m not interested I feel really bad for the vulnerable older people I see them signing up.

LaraThot · 12/08/2024 18:42

Nothing unusual is it? I like the ones that sit there with a face of thunder and just say the cause and nothing else, literally heard one say in a monotonous voice "kids with cancer"

DancingFerret · 12/08/2024 18:41

If I have the time, ask them at length all about their charity - in French. I've yet to find one who understands, and I make a point of gesticulating and demanding their attention as many possible targets walk by, usually with a grin and sometimes a thumbs-up.

tobee · 12/08/2024 18:41

Sam0207 · 12/08/2024 18:37

We have hordes of them in our pedestrianised town centre.

One young man takes great delight in standing in front of my mobility scooter and when I say a polite no thanks starts to "dance" around me - as in are you going this way or that way.

Saw him earlier and sped up towards him till he jumped out of the way.

Good! He's obviously a tosser.

MeridianB · 12/08/2024 18:40

Chuggers seemed to disappear for a while but now they are back.

And don’t get me started on the awful ‘donate £1 to charity?’ options on card machines in some shops and service stations. Not even naming the alleged ‘charity’.

Darkfire · 12/08/2024 18:40

I had this at ASDA a few weeks ago, electricity company just outside the door and animal charity just inside - so irritating

ruffler45 · 12/08/2024 18:40

You do know that a lot of these people are "collecting" on a fee/commission basis, so they can be annoyingly persistent with the hard sell..

Nadeed · 12/08/2024 18:39

Fartooold · 12/08/2024 17:23

IF they are outside, on the pavement, not co ops responsibility.
I hate it too OP, there is a (lovely) young man outside my Aldi I feel.guilty about every day, my other supermarkets nearby are Tesco and Asda - both regularly have charity people using emotive language i.e. " do you love animals?"
I bloody hate it - and they have been given permission 😔

Edited

Just say - no I hate animals

Delphiniumandlupins · 12/08/2024 18:39

Whotoldyouthat · 12/08/2024 18:36

It’s the charity bag packers offering to pack your bags at the end of the tills I hate too. I like to pack my own shopping and it kind of feels forced upon when they are there. If I have change I will usually put some coins in the bucket but I don’t always carry money and then feel guilty about it!

I’ve never heard of the term chugger before. Is this the type of person that chases you to sign up to regular charity donations or just anyone collecting money in a tin/ bucket? I will donate to the ones that don’t hassle me if I do have change.

Chugger = charity mugger

I would mean a person paid to recruit donations, generally direct debit. Not can rattlers/bag packers who are volunteers

feathermucker · 12/08/2024 18:39

I hate this with a passion. I don't want to engage so I walk straight past them. That's if they haven't stepped right in front of me first. Without fail, there's a smart ass comment or a sarcastic wish to have a good day.

tobee · 12/08/2024 18:39

It especially annoys me when you know that they chug for any charity going, not people who volunteer specifically for a cause they give any hoots about. Angry

Sam0207 · 12/08/2024 18:37

We have hordes of them in our pedestrianised town centre.

One young man takes great delight in standing in front of my mobility scooter and when I say a polite no thanks starts to "dance" around me - as in are you going this way or that way.

Saw him earlier and sped up towards him till he jumped out of the way.