SIL just makes me cringe

She does sound a bit attention seeking and possibly annoying but I can relate to that because it can stem from having low self esteem and wanting people to like you. I cringe at myself sometimes too :( If you give her a chance and try to get to know her on a deeper level, she might surprise you. Am sure she must have some good points.

M. Night Shyamalan, I see you.

I haven't heard this old mn saying in a while so here you go:

Smile and nod op, smile and nod

🤣🤣

This is life. Some people are a bit irritating. It's not a real problem. Just give her photo a thumbs up and move on like everyone else. If it's your biggest family issue then be happy you've hit the jackpot.

I would feel the same about this infantile lemon. She sounds diagnosable.

Sounds like you’re jealous of her relationship with your DH! 😬

Inviting his sister into his bedroom?! I hope not 🤣

It sounds like you just don't like her and now analyse and criticise her every action. She just sounds quite bubbly and affectionate towards her siblings if anything!

Yeah, no matter how much you dripfeed, I still think you're the one who looks bad, not your SIL.

Apart from her wearing off the shoulder tops in Summer, I mean that's terrible and obviously a hanging offence 🙄

She sounds very similar to my actual sister - be grateful that she’s one step removed from you! My sister has always been a bit cringey and dramatic. For me the annoying thing with the social media posts are how over the top about how amazing we all are, when she doesn’t seem to like any of us very much in real life 😂. Things like, we’ll go out for lunch with mum, she’ll spend the whole time ignoring us or being snappy and rude, and then put up a photo with something like, “So grateful for special family times ❤️ so blessed”.

Honestly, I just scroll on. If she sends something cringey to the family chat, I sometimes thumbs up it and sometimes do a swerve, e.g. if she sends a photo of her with a duckface pose in the sunshine I’ll say something like, “oh that reminds me, we’re thinking of booking a holiday to X next year, has anyone been?” Dodges the obvious desire of hers for everyone to validate how she looks in the photo without looking like I’m trying to be a bitch.

I get what people are saying about her sounding fun, and my sister definitely can be a lot of fun - she just seems to have the mental age of a 17 year old. A lot of fun, but also a lot of hard work.

Seems reasonable. On the other hand just ignore her. She's your SIL not your pal.

I think you make her nervous.

I wonder why?

I think you’re lucky she wants to be your friend.
You don’t sound like someone I’d like to be friends with.
She may not know how to behave around you.

She sounds a lot, but I think she’s overcompensating after her divorce. She’s obviously not over it yet and feels a bit damaged.

I can't think why your husband is sharing details about your sex life with his sister. Surely you've addressed that?

Just be civil when you meet and leave it at that. You sound like you don't like her tbh. I wouldn't like the flirting with the waiter but re her comments on social media I'd just like her pics if I saw them and move on. I have a cousin the same, he's all "Hey Big Cuz how you doing? love you!" etc I just reply something like "Enjoying the sunshine" or "Battling the wind, rain and work haha". We rarely meet and it's seems a bit false- he's in another country. But it keeps the peace and I hardly think of him tbh.

Crikey, I wish I had little enough going on that I had time to wind myself up over stuff like this!

Preach.

Yes, also agree I’d prefer a night out with the SIL too!! She sounds a lot less drama.

I don’t know why you are so bothered. The older generation of my family post endless nonsense on Facebook, bare shouldered selfies and all. We all “like” them because it’s polite, kind and takes 2 seconds to make them feel good. In return, we get lots of compliments and comments on our family WhatsApp on the million photos and videos of the kids which make us feel happy.

You are just two different people but at least she is making an effort!

Yep! Surely bad mouthing your family would be at the very top of the list as to why you don't like her (although not sure about making you "cringe").

The bit about your sex life I find quite hard to believe tbh - I just can't imagine a grown woman referencing her brother's sex life at all, let alone to his wife!

So do I because I don't take selfies, but it wouldn't make me not like a friend.

She sounds amazing compared to mine - want to swap?

She does sound annoying. I find grown adults who post endless selfies on social media really cringey.

I do get it.

I have a super annoying SIL that is very different from me, a bit of drama queen, know it all and generally believes that the family revolve around her. She drives me insane a lot of the time with her nonsense but after several decades I try to remember her positives, she's industrious, brave, tenacious and genuinely cares about her family and friends. She's a wonderful aunt too (although my kids are also irritated by her behaviour at times!!). She will always annoy me so I know that I can only spend so long with her but I also recognise that she is a good person and I can enjoy her company in that limited time frame!!!!