To be worried about boyfriend’s work ethic?

Don't take on a large hairy pet unless you can afford to feed it

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I'd throw this one back. He sounds entitled and lazy with zero self awareness

But let me tell you, paying customers will, on average, be way pickier than a boss. How is he going to deal with that?

Very true. When you work for yourself the customer becomes your boss.

Now, to be fair, some people are entrepreneurs at heart. Trouble with this guy is that either he's really unlucky and has actually managed to find several bad bosses in a row. Or, more likely, he just can't tolerate any other opinions or being told there's room for improvement.

But let me tell you, paying customers will, on average, be way pickier than a boss. How is he going to deal with that?

I've read on here several times about women dating a man with a job and when he moves in he packs in the job to cocklodge off his GF. Don't let him move in.

He is a lazy skiver. It won't work as you have a responsible attitude. You can't spend the rest of your life with this shirker.

Everyone is telling you the same thing @Duplofez . They can't all be wrong.

Your own instincts are warning you too.

Listen to them and run for the hills.

What will he do when you have young children? Take to his bed for two weeks with a 'cold' and leave you to it? I take it you will be paying for the wedding? How does he earn enough to live if he never goes to work?

Workshy is profoundly unnattractive, not to mention the financial implications of you supporting his sloth. The common denominator in all the jobs he hates, poor performance, bad bosses and time off sick is HIM. Can you not see that?

But as long as he cooks dinner and runs you a bath right? Almost worth your bar being on the floor. Why do some women do this to themselves? More fool you.

but told me he hated the job prior to that aswell. For all of these jobs, he’s said he’s just had awful bosses who were unfairly critical of him

The common denominator here is your workshy boyfriend.

Everything you write about him raises another red flag.

Please don't just "settle". You will never be happy.

It's not difficult to go to work and make it through the day in some sort of responsible manner. If this is how he treats people who pay him than he LL walk all over anyone who doesn't.

You are right to be very concerned and thinking ahead. I can just see you bearing the entire financial and mental load if you have kids- don't do it op!
This is NOT the man who will make a good partner or father.

I was being sarcastic as well. Obviously.

Sounds like you're on different pages really.

Apart from that though, that's the kind of behaviour that's likely to get him a warning or his P45 - not exactly someone you want to rely on if you have a child and/ or a mortgage.

Have a think before you commit yourself..

Yep, married one of those, had kids - "you never make real money working for someone else," he said - ok, he did used to work, but the thing was he had absolutely no idea of how to make money out of it. I had to tell him after a while that the household was no longer going to subsidise the business, because we had bills to pay and my salary wasn't amazing enough to cover them along with his losses. 20 years later (when we were in the process of divorcing) he actually got a low paid job, for about 5 minutes, but I had to pay for afterschool childcare for the youngest DC so was again worse off than if he hadn't worked at all. It took a quarter of a century for me to wise up. You have had the warning in advance. Don't take on a large hairy pet unless you can afford to feed it.

I married this guy. Thankfully we had no children together. A complete lack of resilience does not make a good partner. You’ll be expected to handle every unpleasant or difficult decision or situation.

My exH couldn’t cope with any kind of negative or even neutral feedback. He had multiple jobs too, even though he was well qualified. He just had no ability to take responsibility for himself.

Personally, I find laziness and a lack of ambition very unattractive but he had the gift of the gab and I married him too soon. Don’t be like me.

I think it's important to try and match your goals, motivations & work ethics carefully. It does become a problem down the road if you don't (ask me how I know haha). If your career is important to you and this is already a concern, YANBU to be worried about it.

My best friend was with someone like this. Thankfully they never married, though they did have two kids. In the 14 years they were together I think he had about 10 or 11 jobs, all of which he hated, then he started his own business as a personal trainer borrowing a lot of money from my friend's parents in order to re-train (which he never paid back). Once he'd qualified the whole thing lasted about 8 months, with him moaning about not being able to get enough clients, even though he only made himself available for hours that suited him (eg hardly any evenings). So he gave that up as well and then set up a floor-sanding business that he also gave up after a few months after getting complaints from people about not turning up when he said he would. My friend eventually left him due to the stress of it all, and the debts that he racked up, as he wanted the nice lifestyle but was never prepared to work for it. He still only works part-time (he is now a carer and says he can't get enough hours - really?!?) and relies on UC/housing benefit to top up his income.

I had a friend like this, always leaving jobs saying she was bullied or she was taking masses of time off for an assortment of ailments. The bottom line was that she hated working and really didn't see wny she should have to bother. She was always on the cadge due to not having a regular income, I got sick of it and ended the friendship. Guess what i am saying is that you are seeing a pattern here and it does not bode well for your future. I would cut and run now

Sorry I agree with everyone else. He won't change and I would be seriously thinking about whether I should end it. Please don't move in with him or have children with him. You will live to regret it

Well obviously I was being sarcastic hence the eye roll.

Too many women have been conditioned to place 'romantic gestures' like buying flowers or running a bath as higher than the stuff that actually matters. When it's very easy to turn a tap on or nip to the shop. But women forgive all manner of terrible behaviour for easy gestures that in actual fact mean absolutely nothing..

Poor work ethic and laziness is a massive turn off for me even if he’s does run a bath and cook. Get rid, you will be carrying him if you stay with him. He will be out of a job soon anyway so that will give in an insight of a future with him.

I dumped my ex for this reason. Run.

Given that she will be paying the water and electric bills, it's the very least he can do.

But he runs her a bath so it's all okay 🙄

You have every right to be worried OP. People's attitude/ commitment/work ethic rarely changes. I have had jobs that I didn't like but went to work; that's how it is.
And we all know/have known people who will avail of any opportunity to be off work, irrespective of the ailment and it's perceived seriousness.
Wishing you the strength to say goodbye