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Delivery driver came into house uninvited

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midcenturymodernmess · 12/08/2024 14:27

I just had quite an unnerving experience – I work from home and am at home on my own. Eating lunch downstairs and all of a sudden my dog starts going crazy and I hear the front door opening. It turns out a delivery driver decided to let himself through our front gate without ringing the bell (which is really obvious) and open our front door without knocking to deliver a parcel... I've never had this happen before and am really shaken up by it. I normally have the front door locked when I'm home alone but had been going in and out and obviously didn't lock it when I came back in with stuff in my arms last. Why on earth would a delivery driver come into someone's house uninvited?! Why not just leave the parcel outside the front door or the front gate (as is often done)? He then kept trying to take photos of the parcel as I was asking him to leave and obviously quite upset. Am I over reacting or is this really out of line?

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polkadotpixie · 12/08/2024 21:27

I live in a pretty safe village and my door is usually unlocked during the time I'm there, I still don't expect people to just stroll in!

I'm surprised they do it tbh, my dog is ancient and the driver would probably have left by the time he'd ambled over to the door but there could be anything waiting for them inside!

Americano75 · 12/08/2024 19:29

There was a similar thread to this recently when it was the postie letting themselves in and the OP got mostly roasted for objecting. I don't give a shit if the door is unlocked, you do not just walk in to someone's home uninvited.

mondaytosunday · 12/08/2024 19:04

I was surprised when visiting my sister in a major US city that the postie would open her door and put the post or parcels down - I guess theft is the issue with leaving in the doorstep but he didn't ring the bell or knock, and she said it was a regular thing!
I've never had a delivery guy open my door (well they can't as it locks automatically) and you can only open it with a key.
Report him for sure.

NPET · 12/08/2024 18:56

Thank goodness you had the dog there.

DreamW3aver · 12/08/2024 18:53

midcenturymodernmess · 12/08/2024 14:34

Maybe it's more common than I thought? I get parcels regularly and have never had this happen... I wanted to post before reporting it in case I was over reacting. I think I will still report as even if it is happening I don't think it should be. Who just walks into someone's home?!

Who owns this ? All the delivery people on all the other threads about this 😁

Have you got a diagram like the poster lost week, we really next to see one to visualise

polkadotpixie · 12/08/2024 18:50

An Amazon delivery driver did this to me a few weeks ago, just opened my front door and walked in to deposit the parcel in my hallway

I was watching TV with my 5 year old at the time and jumped up as fast as my 7 months pregnant legs would carry me to ask what was going on! He seemed shocked that I was shocked if anything

PeloMom · 12/08/2024 17:21

I agree it’s weird for the driver to walk inside the house or even open any of the house doors without specific instructions. I’d raise it with the delivery company. The pictures - I understand- companies lose a lot of money from people claiming they didn’t get their package.
also- Schlage locks- ours locks automatically after 30 seconds of closing the door.

Mercurial123 · 12/08/2024 17:17

penguinonmybag · 12/08/2024 16:43

You live in London and you don't have a front door that automatically locks when it closes? are you mad?

(from a fellow Londoner!)

Agree 💯. See it as a warning and take your security more seriously.

FranceIsWhereItsAt · 12/08/2024 17:13

I voted you as BU but only because you didn't lock your door. These days you're open to all sorts if you forget to lock your door, so get it changed to one that locks when the door closes.

Having said that, the delivery guy was mad to even try it, particularly as he must have heard your dog start barking. There's no way I'd try and venture into anyone's house, if I heard dogs barking. We actually have our 'Ring' doorbell set up so that it sets off dogs barking on my phone, my DH saw the lady come to deliver our post the other day, he watched her for a moment to see if he needed to go to the door, and saw her leap back the minute she heard the dogs barking on my phone, so clearly she wouldn't have considered trying the door.

Menstum · 12/08/2024 17:04

@midcenturymodernmess

Report the driver obviously- you can't just walk into someone's house. Blimey I hate to think how I'd react, I know I'd be bloody angry.

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 12/08/2024 17:04

Some people round our way thank them for it as other wise the parcel either goes back to depo or is stolen. Definitely would have scared me too!

Skyrainlight · 12/08/2024 16:56

I would report it, it's insane to come into someone's house without permission.

JKnight09 · 12/08/2024 16:49

I had a delivery driver tell me off just after we moved in for locking my door. Apparently the last person who lived here always left it unlocked so he could put the parcel in the hall without knocking. I pointed out to him that the last person who lived here didn't have 6 stone of German shepherd as a pet and that as a responsible owner I would continue to make sure my front door was locked for his safety and mine.

Fartooold · 12/08/2024 16:47

Yes, I'd report that. And I say that as someone whose postman let's himself in and makes breakfast.
What happened to you makes no sense, report.

penguinonmybag · 12/08/2024 16:43

You live in London and you don't have a front door that automatically locks when it closes? are you mad?

(from a fellow Londoner!)

frockandcrocs · 12/08/2024 16:41

I had this happen a while ago, I got to the bottom of the stairs as he was opening the door- he then dropped the parcel and left. It was weird and unnerving, and I've always locked the door when I'm home alone since (I never used to as I tend to go out to the front garden a fair bit).

jannier · 12/08/2024 16:38

Complain to the delivery company they can access the photos to back you up

GodspeedJune · 12/08/2024 15:13

Report it to his company at the very least.

midcenturymodernmess · 12/08/2024 15:10

CleanShirt · 12/08/2024 15:04

Didn't I read this just a few days ago?

I've just looked up that thread and it's pretty much exactly what happened (although the other poster wasn't aware until she saw the parcel on the dining table) Maybe it's becoming more common..? Surely there should be clear guidelines by delivery companies to all drivers that you don't just walk into a house uninvited..

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midcenturymodernmess · 12/08/2024 15:09

ricestardust · 12/08/2024 14:59

Idk. It's uber weird in a big city. It's socially normal in a small village, where you know most everyone. The beyond unreasonable part was him lingering when you looked distressed (and told him so). But, it's all unreasonable if you live in a city/town.

So... he's obviously not a known regular courier and shouldn't have presumed to barge in. It would be different if you lived in a village and he was your friendly local postie whom you already knew, etc.

I'm in London and it wasn't one of the regular delivery guys (and even the ones I do know and see every week and have conversations with would never just open the door – if I'm not home, they either leave the parcel by the front gate or by the door). I've never experienced this in over a decade of living in London...

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CleanShirt · 12/08/2024 15:04

Didn't I read this just a few days ago?

ClockworkDisaster · 12/08/2024 15:03

My delivery drivers regularly open my conservatory door to put the parcel in there - however I put that in the instructions when I order something. The regular delivery drivers are well aware of this and just put the parcel inside without bothering me. It states on the instructions that the conservatory is unlocked. I’ve never had anyone as much as try the handle to the next door into my kitchen though. That would be very rude.

ricestardust · 12/08/2024 14:59

Idk. It's uber weird in a big city. It's socially normal in a small village, where you know most everyone. The beyond unreasonable part was him lingering when you looked distressed (and told him so). But, it's all unreasonable if you live in a city/town.

So... he's obviously not a known regular courier and shouldn't have presumed to barge in. It would be different if you lived in a village and he was your friendly local postie whom you already knew, etc.

midcenturymodernmess · 12/08/2024 14:51

lovemycbf · 12/08/2024 14:48

I'd be majorly pissed off at that but also I must say lock your door. I'm always shocked people don't lock the front door just from a safety point of view

I normally do keep it locked - and will definitely be more aware of it in the future. I mean obviously a delivery driver shouldn't just walk into someone's home – but it could also be anyone coming in. lesson learned..

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lovemycbf · 12/08/2024 14:48

I'd be majorly pissed off at that but also I must say lock your door. I'm always shocked people don't lock the front door just from a safety point of view

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