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To think you ought to tidy to a reasonable basic standard before people come to view your house?

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LeapingUpstream · 12/08/2024 10:30

Trying to settle a debate with DH. I'm not talking about making it look show-home perfect, I'm talking about making it look like a reasonably tidy and welcoming, albeit lived-in home.

YANBU: A basic level of cleanliness/ tidiness is both expected and kind of important to actually selling the place.

YABU: No, it's fine to let people look round whatever state it's in, even if the master bedroom floor is mostly invisible. (And therefore leaving it in said state for your heavily pregnant and not-very-well wife who can't currently bend over to deal with, having done nothing about it all weekend, despite saying you would, is totally acceptable. And she's being the unreasonable one for thinking it ought to be tidy and for being stressed and upset that it isn't.)

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Shantayyoustaysashayaway · 16/08/2024 21:48

We went to look at a house the day after England had played the world Cup final. Appointment was 11.30am so not early. Lady of the house answered the door, showed us around downstairs then when we got upstairs her partner was laid on top of the bed watching TV & smoking & was hung over from the night before!
Another house we looked at had a downstairs loo but you couldn't see the toilet or sink & the room was jam packed with crap!

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Maddy70 · 14/08/2024 16:11

An untidy dirty house would probably put me off so yes i would

AllTheChaos · 14/08/2024 16:10

Danbury · 14/08/2024 13:12

I will regularly tidy the house by imagining what I would want it to look like if the house was about to be viewed.

That is such a good approach! I have to constantly fight hoarding tendencies (grew up v poor and still tend to think “but what if I need it?”). I will try to remember and use this approach.

Danbury · 14/08/2024 13:12

I will regularly tidy the house by imagining what I would want it to look like if the house was about to be viewed.

pollymere · 14/08/2024 13:02

IKEA bag in the car. Whack everything in it. Pay the kids to fill them. Done.

Firethehorse · 14/08/2024 11:51

Two things would really annoy me here - one he wants to sell more than you but can’t be arsed to help make that happen and two the rude and dismissive way he spoke to you.
I would personally cancel the viewing until such a time the property appeared saleable.

AllTheChaos · 14/08/2024 10:23

I can see past mess etc to see the potential in a house, but got stung once buying a messy house where it turned out the chaos was hiding all kinds of issues (damp being just one of them). Some things the survey picked up on, but the surveyor couldn’t get in to some places to make checks, and it ended up being v expensive to fix the problems he hadn’t seen. After that I wouldn’t risk offering on a house that was not tidy and clean, or if I did it would v low to reflect the perceived risks.

Icanttakethisanymore · 14/08/2024 10:19

Of course it needs to be tidy, unless he's not bothered about maximising your sale price. People can lack imagination - you need to show them the lifestyle they can achieve living in your house.

AllTheChaos · 14/08/2024 10:13

BaronessBomburst · 12/08/2024 12:57

My 14 yo is still like this. Just yesterday he was asked to help by sweeping up the fallen berries at the side of the house. He swept them up beautifully but then had a pile of large red berries to pelt at the fence.
Which now needs jet washing.
And I'm not prepared to let him loose on that.......

I feel I should apologise for how much I laughed at this! Mine is exactly the same!

toxic44 · 14/08/2024 08:34

Would you eat at a restaurant if you saw them serving meals on dirty plates?
Clean and tidy is easier to sell than dirty and messy. It's also a question of showing respect for the potential buyer.

TheOracleofNothing · 13/08/2024 20:12

Yanbu. I would offer less for a messy house as it implies a storage problem and lack of maintenance. Ours were always presented immaculately..... As long as you didn't look in the shed or even the car, which I filled with bags of washing on more than one occasion! See if you can clear quickly and hoover rather than sort properly if you're not well.

Pres122 · 13/08/2024 19:33

Mine was cleaned to within an inch of its life!! I had 5 viewings in one day, and I even put my laundry basket in my car and took it to work 😂 a laundry basket would make it looked lived in! 😂 it worked, we got 4 out of the 5 offers. If you make it look it’s best then at least you know you did everything you could.

onegreyhair · 13/08/2024 18:31

Yes you absolutely must tidy and clean the house before viewings - assuming that you do want to sell.

When we sold our house after 35 years there was a lot of 'stuff' and we put much of it in storage (without actually doing any decluttering first which was rather stupid). Viewers must have thought we lived a very minimal clutter free life.

Mess and clutter is horrid and distracting. Shove it in those big blue Ikea bags and put in garage. Or in the car. Or those big plastic storage boxes you can buy and stack and pretend its ready for moving. We did the whole fluffy white towels in the bathroom, expensive soap, flowers etc (towels were whipped away after viewing and nobody was allowed to use them - I've still got them 10 years later, unused!). Lights on in dark rooms, windows open if weather suitable to banish any smells. Floors clean and hoovered, beds made.

Dog and me went off in the car with all the stuff while the viewing took place. Sometimes it was touch and go if I'd get the car loaded up in time though.

EmilieDuChatelet · 13/08/2024 18:22

Hire help to get the sorting out and to get the big tidy up done. Then have the on the viewing day hiding places for regularly needed bits and bobs - a car boot is a great temporary store.
You can't have an untidy rooms when you want to sell, it sets up too many questions about lack of care and viewers have to look harder for the space. I'd also say to keep the garden neat if at all possible. It's a slog, but necessary. Good luck with your sale.

Washingupdone · 13/08/2024 18:20

It depends on how fast you want to sell your home. People need to imagine how they would live which, if being distracted by the state of the place and wondering what was hidden, maybe too hard.

greenpinkskies · 13/08/2024 18:20

LeapingUpstream · 12/08/2024 10:37

Ha. No. Has in fact been putting off selling his car for about a year now as he can't get his act together to get it cleaned and ready. But apparently I'm being unreasonable for thinking I need to tidy up the house a bit for viewings. Thankfully most of it's fine, but our bedroom is a total shit tip.

How lazy is that..

Merryoldgoat · 13/08/2024 18:13

There were poo stains in the loo of one house I viewed. Utterly bonkers no one there thought to chuck some bleach down.

Leedsfan247 · 13/08/2024 18:11

Why wouldn’t you want to present your home in the best possible way??

Talkinrubbishagain · 13/08/2024 18:10

I wouldn’t buy a house that’s in a mess. My thoughts would be that if the sellers are that uncaring then what is hidden that they’ve left unattended ( damp, windows,roof etc).

longlocks · 13/08/2024 17:58

The same goes for estate agents photos. The seller knew when the photos were going to be taken. So no washing on the line, draped over radiators etc.

Sunnyxyz · 13/08/2024 17:55

What I would do is get a cleaner in to help me for 3-4!hours and give him your partner the bill

SuziQuinto · 13/08/2024 14:36

I think there's a difference between "mess", "pigsty" and "squalor"😂

GasPanic · 13/08/2024 11:02

sayanythingelse · 12/08/2024 16:32

I'm not an estate agent but I'm in an industry where I'm often visiting homes that are up for sale or just sold and I never fail to be amazed by some people.
I went in one recently that was for sale and it had mouldy plates of food everywhere, dirty underwear hanging around and generally stank. I don't expect houses to be pristine for me but I think it's polite to at least have a quick once over.

A messy house is a red flag for me when looking to buy. I think if people can't be bothered to tidy, then they probably can't be bothered to do maintenance to the home either.

If they live in a pigsty and can't be bothered to clean the place up to live in themselves, why would it surprise you that they couldn't be bothered to clean it for anyone else ?

Some people live in squalor and they just don't care about it or what anyone else thinks about it.

It's the obvious conclusion to draw.

Moveoverdarlin · 12/08/2024 22:14

Personally I would make it look showroom perfect. I went OTT. I put all the shit in my car before viewings. I filled the plastic laundry baskets with shoes, post, any other crap that was lying around. Moved the kitchen bin in to the garage, moved the microwave, put air fryer away. Bought fresh flowers for the dining table, another vase in front of the fireplace. Sweep patio. If you want to sell it, I would go to town.