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To get “girls” stuff when I search for “boys”

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Cocobeau · 12/08/2024 07:27

This is so fucking annoying.

I get this problem on so many websites. I specifically select the “boys” category and then results show a load of clothes clearly aimed for girls.

This example is from M&S. My exact actions;

Kids tab > 3 for 2 on kids Clothing > Boys (the options are view all, view boys or view girls.

These are the very first results that display. It’s clearly all designed with girls in mind. I get you’re allowed to dress your boy in pink and animal print, but I’d prefer not to for now. He can wear what he wants when he’s old enough to choose.

You might say this is a fly in the system but I have also frequently had this problem previously on Next and H&M.

I messaged Next once about it as I thought it was a glitch on the app. Their response was to tell me to use the web version, which had the same issue.

This is very much first world problems but it’s soooo bloody annoying!

To get “girls” stuff when I search for “boys”
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Luuise · 12/08/2024 08:47

I only get your screen when I click 3 for 2 of kids clothes. There has been no mention of boy/girl at this point for me. Then when I filter boys I get the second picture.

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To get “girls” stuff when I search for “boys”
godmum56 · 12/08/2024 08:43

Fluufer · 12/08/2024 08:28

And kids can wear what they like, but if I'm browsing clothes for my boys I'm not going to buy pink, nor would most parents. I would shop elsewhere if the whole site was unisex, because I can't be bothered to wade through butterflies to find things my children will wear.

hello?? the 1950's want their mindset back

berksandbeyond · 12/08/2024 08:37

Sunshine9218 · 12/08/2024 08:34

Mmmm what are gender-based toys because I can't think of any?! This is a very old fashioned way to think

I agree with you

To get “girls” stuff when I search for “boys”
berksandbeyond · 12/08/2024 08:36

Fluufer · 12/08/2024 08:34

You know I had never thought of asking my children what they like? Thanks for that revolutionary idea!

Wait til the teen years when your boys / their friends start wondering if they’re REALLY boys because they didn’t fit the stereotype of cars and football, and then you’ll maybe realise why it’s healthier if they’re just.. clothes

Mintyhotchocolate · 12/08/2024 08:35

Fluufer · 12/08/2024 08:28

And kids can wear what they like, but if I'm browsing clothes for my boys I'm not going to buy pink, nor would most parents. I would shop elsewhere if the whole site was unisex, because I can't be bothered to wade through butterflies to find things my children will wear.

Why not though? My DH has a lilac sort of colour polo shirt, DS1 (12) has a hoodie with a pink tie dye effect on it and DS2 (4) has various pink leggings and tops with pink/hearts/rainbows on as that’s what he likes. If I’d have just looked in ‘traditional’ boy sections he wouldn’t have found those things - it doesn’t take long to go through a website of clothes in the right size once you’ve filtered to the price, size and item you want.

Sunshine9218 · 12/08/2024 08:34

CableCar · 12/08/2024 08:26

YANBU, I find it annoying too. Clarks are brilliant because you do get the traditional boys and traditional girls school shoes... But hate websites like smiggle, Smyth's also where it's so hard to find gender based toys!!! You have to go by colour or category, which doesn't help me find what I want! They should bring it back and if you don't want to use it you don't have to, but at least it's there for the people who do want to!

Mmmm what are gender-based toys because I can't think of any?! This is a very old fashioned way to think

Fluufer · 12/08/2024 08:34

berksandbeyond · 12/08/2024 08:33

You say kids can wear what they like - have you asked your boys what clothes they’d like to wear? You’ll say ‘they won’t wear pink’ but what you mean is that you won’t buy it. In case their willies fall off? At least be honest 😂

You know I had never thought of asking my children what they like? Thanks for that revolutionary idea!

berksandbeyond · 12/08/2024 08:34

Fluufer · 12/08/2024 08:32

Great. And if your boys want to wear butterflies, don't use the filters.

And if your boys only want to wear blue, filter by blue.

Works both ways mate!

Sunshine9218 · 12/08/2024 08:33

Don't think they should have either, just kids clothes. It especially bugs me when they make pink dinosaur stuff for girls, if they like dinosaurs just put them in the 'boy' coloured stuff

berksandbeyond · 12/08/2024 08:33

You say kids can wear what they like - have you asked your boys what clothes they’d like to wear? You’ll say ‘they won’t wear pink’ but what you mean is that you won’t buy it. In case their willies fall off? At least be honest 😂

Fluufer · 12/08/2024 08:32

berksandbeyond · 12/08/2024 08:31

Butterflies would be extinct if there were no male butterflies you know.
And dinosaurs would have gone extinct a lot earlier if there had been no female dinosaurs.

Great. And if your boys want to wear butterflies, don't use the filters.

berksandbeyond · 12/08/2024 08:31

Fluufer · 12/08/2024 08:28

And kids can wear what they like, but if I'm browsing clothes for my boys I'm not going to buy pink, nor would most parents. I would shop elsewhere if the whole site was unisex, because I can't be bothered to wade through butterflies to find things my children will wear.

Butterflies would be extinct if there were no male butterflies you know.
And dinosaurs would have gone extinct a lot earlier if there had been no female dinosaurs.

Fluufer · 12/08/2024 08:28

berksandbeyond · 12/08/2024 08:19

yet you wouldn’t bat an eyelid at a girl in blue right? Maybe this is the nonsense that needs to stop. All colours for all kids

And kids can wear what they like, but if I'm browsing clothes for my boys I'm not going to buy pink, nor would most parents. I would shop elsewhere if the whole site was unisex, because I can't be bothered to wade through butterflies to find things my children will wear.

CableCar · 12/08/2024 08:26

YANBU, I find it annoying too. Clarks are brilliant because you do get the traditional boys and traditional girls school shoes... But hate websites like smiggle, Smyth's also where it's so hard to find gender based toys!!! You have to go by colour or category, which doesn't help me find what I want! They should bring it back and if you don't want to use it you don't have to, but at least it's there for the people who do want to!

Tandora · 12/08/2024 08:20

Borninabarn32 · 12/08/2024 07:33

🤨 hoodies and leggings require a vagina? I hadn't realised.

We're past the bullshit era of boys only being allowed to wear blue dinosaurs and diggers and girls only being allowed to wear pink, sparkle and unicorns.

You have to search through clothes you don't like to find clothes you do like, that's just shopping.

You have to search through clothes you don't like to find clothes you do like, that's just shopping.

😂😂😂👆🏻

berksandbeyond · 12/08/2024 08:19

Fluufer · 12/08/2024 08:08

I find it annoying as well. Yes clothes are just clothes, but most people aren't dressing their boys in pink leggings are they?

yet you wouldn’t bat an eyelid at a girl in blue right? Maybe this is the nonsense that needs to stop. All colours for all kids

SocksShmocks · 12/08/2024 08:11

Define for me clearly then - are are boy clothes that can’t also be worn by girls? The ones that have dinosaurs, super heroes and footballs on? The shorts that go past the bum?

Men’s and women’s body shapes are different. Young children’s aren’t. You can filter for blue and beige trousers if that’s what you want.

purpleme12 · 12/08/2024 08:11

I do have this problem on mini Boden sometimes. I filter girls but there's quite a few boys stuff that pops up in there. May happen on other sites too but can't remember now which ones.
It is annoying.
I know some people aren't bothered but my child does want to wear the clothes in the girls section

ChannelyourinnerElsa · 12/08/2024 08:10

Cocobeau · 12/08/2024 07:48

Did you follow the steps I described? No, I haven’t added any filters on that page because I followed the websites own link to view “boys”. You’d kind of assume they would have already done the filtering for you, or else there’d be no point in them linking to boys and girl separately

Yes. Those steps.

It’s simply a website issue not a gender stereotype one.

you selected boys, but then went back “up” a level by going to a deal/sale section, which is the same search level as it’s a “category”, but isn’t massively well laid out to indicate such, because of course they are driving traffic to the sale, so the option appears more frequently.

all you had to do was hit filter.

it’s a search issue, not a woke gender stereotyping non conformity problem. Filter the results and you get what you want.

Heronwatcher · 12/08/2024 08:10

FGS, if you can’t tick the blinking box for some ideological reason just look for blue shorts kids or whatever. This seems to be a slight glitch in the website rather than anything else.

FWIW I agree that it’s better just to have a “kids” section at younger ages, my tween girl 100% does not want to be wearing crop tops and arse skimming shorts but the alternative is to go round a section in a shop which is very obviously designed for boys and I am sure there are many others who feel this way. M&S do a great unisex and accessible range so I am all for their approach.

Shibr · 12/08/2024 08:10

If you have hang ups about a boy or girl wearing a certain colour (absolutely bonkers in my opinion), then I think that’s your issue and not sure why everyone else has to follow your whims.

Fluufer · 12/08/2024 08:08

I find it annoying as well. Yes clothes are just clothes, but most people aren't dressing their boys in pink leggings are they?

ttcat37 · 12/08/2024 08:07

Same at John Lewis, I agree it’s really irritating. I have a boy, I want boys’ clothes. If I wanted him to wear things that were unisex or girls’ I’d tick those boxes, but I’m ticking boys’ and it’s giving me pink girly stuff.

Porridgeislife · 12/08/2024 08:05

They’re just clothes. Someone at M&S thinks these are unisex options. You’re under no obligation to buy them.

I’m totally fed up of retailers offering my daughter bike shorts instead of actual shorts, so being able to see the cargo shorts and similar styles is useful to me.

LockedOutNow · 12/08/2024 08:04

anon2022anon · 12/08/2024 07:31

Actually I think it's pretty good that finally large retailers are cottoning on to the fact that their idea of what colours each gender should wear is probably contributing to the issue, and trying to fix it (if that's what they're doing).

If those clothes aren't the type of boys clothes you're looking for, maybe try searching for a colour you prefer instead.

I am a mum who gets mad that my daughter doesn't get offered a pair of red or yellow shorts beyond her bum if we look in the 'girls' section, so I'll be very happy if gendering clothes is over and done with.

This. My son would happily wear several things from that screenshot.