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To get “girls” stuff when I search for “boys”

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Cocobeau · 12/08/2024 07:27

This is so fucking annoying.

I get this problem on so many websites. I specifically select the “boys” category and then results show a load of clothes clearly aimed for girls.

This example is from M&S. My exact actions;

Kids tab > 3 for 2 on kids Clothing > Boys (the options are view all, view boys or view girls.

These are the very first results that display. It’s clearly all designed with girls in mind. I get you’re allowed to dress your boy in pink and animal print, but I’d prefer not to for now. He can wear what he wants when he’s old enough to choose.

You might say this is a fly in the system but I have also frequently had this problem previously on Next and H&M.

I messaged Next once about it as I thought it was a glitch on the app. Their response was to tell me to use the web version, which had the same issue.

This is very much first world problems but it’s soooo bloody annoying!

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Heronwatcher · 12/08/2024 09:31

…only on Mumsnet does every parent dress their boys in girls clothes, which is odd because I don't remember seeing many - if any - little boys wondering around in dresses.

And this is just obtuse- it’s not just a choice between dinosaurs/ superheroes and frilly dresses, my kids and the vast majority of people I know’s kids did and do wear stripes, plain colours, tops with dogs/ cats/ hedgehogs/ Harry Potter on, chino shorts, hoodies, jeans, joggers, funky leggings and many more clothes which look equally good on both sexes. Most girls I know over the age of 6/7 prefer not to wear dresses for day to day anyway. Loads of this stuff in next, H&M, Boden (second hand on eBay), polarn o pyret and indeed M&S before you also accuse us all of only shopping in boutiques for the woke…

Luuise · 12/08/2024 09:28

After multiple people have now shown you, I think your search must have been wrong and was left on all. Because none of us have got the same results as you. I've never found the problem you're having, I think maybe you're not searching correctly.

HotCrossBunplease · 12/08/2024 09:27

https://www.marksandspencer.com/pure-cotton-dinosaur-t-shirt-2-8-yrs-/p/clp60689025#intid=pid_pg1pip33g2r4c1|prodflag_3%20for%202

starts at 2 years but will prob shrink in wash anyway.

CatamaranViper · 12/08/2024 09:26

I don't really have skin in this game anymore because the only thing DS wears these days are football/rugby/basketball strips which are unisex. That said, we do still buy the occasional non-sports-strip outfit for him and it drives me mad that shops seems to have a huge section of pinks and purples, then a section of navy blue and khaki green. What about any other colour?

DS loves bright green and yellow but it's really hard to find things he'll actually wear in a physical shop. It's also the OTT-nes of the clothes too. The pink stuff is often 99% sparkly/frilly/twee and the blue stuff is 99% minecraft/xbox/trucks. I was neither!

I was a nice range of multi-coloured clothes or clothes with, I dunno, jokes on or a picture of an axolotl or some modern art style paint splatters.

Before his sports clothes craze, I would happily let DS chose whatever he wanted in the shops from whatever section. We've had many colour changing sequin tops and lilac hoodies, along with loads of navy and grey stuff. But it's all just so dull!

Heronwatcher · 12/08/2024 09:25

Oh and finally, yes his drawers are full of fucking dinosaurs because people who design clothing aimed at boys lack imagination.

Oh the irony!

HotCrossBunplease · 12/08/2024 09:24

It’s not a glitch though. Many people have shown you how to search and filter and nobody else is seeing girls’ clothes.

I just checked Next and their site is fine too. I have a boy myself so I am always filtering out dresses and frills and it’s really never a problem.

Tulipsareredvioletsarebue · 12/08/2024 09:24

This should have started eh "I'm absolutely fuming!".
Just scroll the stuff?
Breaking news, when searching for whatever item u get shown many other items, always, the search rarely leads me to a number of holy grails that would be exactly what I imagined in my mind.

Cocobeau · 12/08/2024 09:21

Haha, it's enjoyable seeing you all getting your knickers (or boxer shorts) in a twist because only on Mumsnet does every parent dress their boys in girls clothes, which is odd because I don't remember seeing many - if any - little boys wondering around in dresses. Must be the same parents that insist they take their kids to the park every day in the pouring rain. I never see many of them either.

I don't have time to reply to each person as I'm busy scrolling through thousands of girls clothes so I can find a dinosaur t-shirt and a jumper with a football on it.

For those asking why I don't let my son choose (and ignore my original post mentioning this) - he's 20 months old. If I showed him the pink top or the blue one, he'd point at the lampshade.

I'm also not trying to insist it's some far fetched practice to get us all to be gender neutral or whatever expression you want to use. I just don't see the point of having a whole section dedictated to "boys" stuff, for those of us who prefer to use that option and then fill it with pink dresses (yes, if you scroll down a bit there are pink dresses).

I can accept this might just be an annoying glitch in the particular instance, but it's not an isolated thing as I & other people have mentioned.

Oh and finally, yes his drawers are full of fucking dinosaurs because people who design clothing aimed at boys lack imagination.

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HotCrossBunplease · 12/08/2024 09:16

Instead of going into sale first and selecting boys, it’s better to go to boys first then select All Boys’ clothing or the type you want, THEN sale. There is a big 3 for 2 banner at the top:

The search logic in sale items is never going to be as reliable as it is so dynamic.

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Namechangedagain20 · 12/08/2024 09:15

It’s the way you’re searching. Either go to 3 for 2 on all kids then slide across to find the ‘boys clothing’ tab or go to all boys clothing then click on the ‘3 for 2’ but highlighted in yellow.

The way you’ve done it has just taken you to all the clothes on the 3 for 2 offer, you can see there’s no filter on.

HotCrossBunplease · 12/08/2024 09:12

Then this. No option to choose boys before seeing all the 3 for 2.

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NotSmallButFunSize · 12/08/2024 09:12

Octarion · 12/08/2024 07:50

It’s because one of the colour options is boy appropriate. Like that lilac hoody also comes in beige, you can see a boy wearing the beige option in the background of the photo.

What is 'inappropriate' about lilac for a boy? Why do they just get shitty old beige?!

My friend's son would be all over the lilac and good for him!

orion678 · 12/08/2024 09:12

Fluufer · 12/08/2024 08:08

I find it annoying as well. Yes clothes are just clothes, but most people aren't dressing their boys in pink leggings are they?

My son regularly wears pink trousers (both leggings and joggers, though recently his preference is for joggers). He also dressed himself in a blue tshirt and red sparkly skirt on Friday (he and my daughter did a clothing swap for fun). He looked adorable.

HotCrossBunplease · 12/08/2024 09:11

I’m not seeing the options that you describe.
This is what I see (starting at mobile site home page)

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leopardski · 12/08/2024 09:10

berksandbeyond · 12/08/2024 08:33

You say kids can wear what they like - have you asked your boys what clothes they’d like to wear? You’ll say ‘they won’t wear pink’ but what you mean is that you won’t buy it. In case their willies fall off? At least be honest 😂

My boys have some pink shorts this summer that they’ve hardly had off! Willies have stayed intact.

TwinklyAmberOrca · 12/08/2024 09:09

Because most clothes don't need a gender and are suitable for both.

It's only when puberty hits that some clothes have a different fit e.g. trousers with wider hips and smaller waist for girls.

NowImNotDoingIt · 12/08/2024 09:08

If you go on the website in 3 for 2 and filter by boys these are the results.

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Catza · 12/08/2024 09:08

Fluufer · 12/08/2024 08:08

I find it annoying as well. Yes clothes are just clothes, but most people aren't dressing their boys in pink leggings are they?

But they are happy to dress girls in blue ones. a bit of a double standard, isn't it? When I was growing up, I had a lot of navy clothes. The colour looked good on me, pink didn't. I am still quite irritated by pink colour and can't even paint my nails in pink. I also mostly wore trousers and jeans and only had two dresses both of which I absolutely hated to wear. Nobody questioned my mum but god forbid you put a pink shirt on a boy!

5128gap · 12/08/2024 09:05

They're signalling that they don't collude with gender norms. They are using the boys and girls categories because sizing and shape can sometimes differ, but making the point that they as a company believe that any style and colour is suitable for either sex.

Catza · 12/08/2024 09:03

Cocobeau · 12/08/2024 07:48

Did you follow the steps I described? No, I haven’t added any filters on that page because I followed the websites own link to view “boys”. You’d kind of assume they would have already done the filtering for you, or else there’d be no point in them linking to boys and girl separately

I just followed the exact steps you described and all clothes I see is definitely unisex - graphic Ts and pastel trackies. Can't see any frilly tops and leopard leggings at all. You must have gone quite far down the rabbit hole to pull the screenshot.

LittleYellowCloth · 12/08/2024 09:00

CableCar · 12/08/2024 08:26

YANBU, I find it annoying too. Clarks are brilliant because you do get the traditional boys and traditional girls school shoes... But hate websites like smiggle, Smyth's also where it's so hard to find gender based toys!!! You have to go by colour or category, which doesn't help me find what I want! They should bring it back and if you don't want to use it you don't have to, but at least it's there for the people who do want to!

Public service announcement: unless the toys are operated by the genitals (in which case they are NOT toys for children) ALL toys are suitable for ALL children. As are all careers, all clothes and all opportunities. Don’t shrink the possibilities your child has on offer.

PerfectTravelTote · 12/08/2024 08:54

Girls and boys clothes are sized differently, particularly as the get older. Eg the sleeves are longer in the boys.

mondaytosunday · 12/08/2024 08:53

Never had this problem. Search for boy get boy stuff. Just did it now with M&S and while there are some girls in the pics it's because those particular items are unisex. Most of it is clearly boy clothes.

Screamingabdabz · 12/08/2024 08:49

This would irritate the hell out of me too op. I’m not sure I understand what the problem is with gendered clothing.