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Dp doesn’t like my new hair style

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Sourgrapes2 · 12/08/2024 05:19

Had it cut shorter yesterday after seeing a bob style that I liked. He pulled a face and didn’t seem very pleased, said he likes ‘long hair better’. Now I’m feeling like I’m now unattractive to him. What would you do?

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Bestyearever2024 · 12/08/2024 06:28

Hes entitled to his opinion

Today - give him your opinion about something related to his appearance, that you dont like

Icanttakethisanymore · 12/08/2024 06:25

PainintheProverbial · 12/08/2024 06:17

If you can’t tell your spouse that you are not keen on their haircut, your marriage has bigger issues.

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If my partner came back with a new hair style they clearly liked and I preferred if before, I personally wouldn’t choose to say at that moment (unasked) that I didn’t like it. That would feel a bit unnecessarily unkind when they are clearly enjoying it. I don’t think that is odd or unhealthy. I might mention later in conversation if hairstyles came up. Hsvjng said that, it’s just a hair style, I can’t imagine being particularly bothered one way or another.

Peaceandquietandacuppa · 12/08/2024 06:24

Go for a buzz cut next time

Fraaahnces · 12/08/2024 06:23

I’d be telling him I like Jason Momoa better…

ZiriForGood · 12/08/2024 06:21

You've decided to cut your hair how the way you wanted. Good for you.

He expressed he liked the previous haircut better - ok, that's possible, maybe he really likes long hair, maybe he doesn't like change and when he will have some time to get used to it, he will like this new one as well. Anyway, no big deal.

I just don't see the connection between "he liked previous cut better" and "I'm unattractive for him". Do you consider him unattractive when he puts on his most terrible T-shirt ?

In the ideal case you could say that you know you are attractive for him no matter the haircut (clothes, illness, ...). If not, what would help you to get this confidence?

CosmicDaisyChain · 12/08/2024 06:18

Next time he’s in the shower pull a face then tell him you like them longer.

PainintheProverbial · 12/08/2024 06:18

ilovesooty · 12/08/2024 05:27

Tell him it's not his fucking hair.

Yikes. If my husband responded like that I’d show him the door.

PainintheProverbial · 12/08/2024 06:17

Icanttakethisanymore · 12/08/2024 06:02

He was rude to comment (unless you asked him). However, now that you know he likes it long, you can either choose to grow it back or keep it short if that's what you prefer. It's not complicated, it's just hair.

If you can’t tell your spouse that you are not keen on their haircut, your marriage has bigger issues.

PainintheProverbial · 12/08/2024 06:15

JanglingJack · 12/08/2024 05:21

Tell him to sod off

Why? Don’t you want to look nice for your husband? If he got a haircut I didn’t like, I’d tell him.

ThreeSides · 12/08/2024 06:10

I've told my partner when I haven't liked his hair as much. We're all allowed to have preferences.

fruitbrewhaha · 12/08/2024 06:10

How have you extrapolated that he doesn’t find you attractive anymore? He just said he preferred your hair how it was before. You’re reading too much into it. He’ll probably get used to it.

I wouldn’t think any more about it.

sunsetsandboardwalks · 12/08/2024 06:07

Well, it's your hair and you can do what you like, but he doesn't have to like it.

Like PP said, there are always threads on here about men growing beards or long hair and women saying how much they hate it 🤷‍♀️

Pandasandtigers · 12/08/2024 06:07

It’s up to you how you want your hair but people do have preferences and nothing wrong with that.

I hated it when DH grew a beard, I didn’t find him attractive. He kept it for years though as he does what he likes. I stopped kissing him though and it also affected our sex life.

Icanttakethisanymore · 12/08/2024 06:05

Bumpingaround · 12/08/2024 06:02

I don’t see anything wrong with what he’s said. I love my husband’s hair and would be disappointed if he came home from the barbers with a very short style. I’d tell him I preferred it longer if he asked me, too.

I agree but it's not clear whether she asked him or he spontaneously offered his view. If she asked then he's done nothing wrong, if she didn't ask then he's been a little rude but this feels like a non-issue to me either way.

BeatsAntique · 12/08/2024 06:03

Everyone has preferences, but it’s ultimately up to you how you wear your hair. If you’re happy with it and think it looks nice that’s the main thing.

My DP has a very big beard and moustache and I really don’t like it when he doesn’t have it. Obviously I still love and find him attractive, I just find him more attractive with it.

Icanttakethisanymore · 12/08/2024 06:02

He was rude to comment (unless you asked him). However, now that you know he likes it long, you can either choose to grow it back or keep it short if that's what you prefer. It's not complicated, it's just hair.

Hateam · 12/08/2024 06:02

Sweetmelanin · 12/08/2024 05:29

I don’t know that he’s done anything so wrong. He’s just given his honest opinion.

Speaking as a man, in that situation you lie, lie, lie.

Bumpingaround · 12/08/2024 06:02

I don’t see anything wrong with what he’s said. I love my husband’s hair and would be disappointed if he came home from the barbers with a very short style. I’d tell him I preferred it longer if he asked me, too.

Shoxfordian · 12/08/2024 06:00

Tell him to keep his opinions to himself

coffy11 · 12/08/2024 05:39

Maybe he should grow his hair long if he likes it. He's just rude. I'm sure it looks lovely.

Sweetteaplease · 12/08/2024 05:38

Edingril · 12/08/2024 05:31

This, women complain 'he is growing his hair long, growing a beard, cuts it too short' women have lots of opinions on how men look

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Agree. Most men prefer longer hair. Plenty of women today saying how they don't like beards

dollopz · 12/08/2024 05:35

He’s entitled to his opinion but essentially you need to have your hair how you like it.

Mercurial123 · 12/08/2024 05:32

He doesn't have to like it. How do YOU feel about it? That's what matters.

Edingril · 12/08/2024 05:31

Sweetmelanin · 12/08/2024 05:29

I don’t know that he’s done anything so wrong. He’s just given his honest opinion.

This, women complain 'he is growing his hair long, growing a beard, cuts it too short' women have lots of opinions on how men look

Sweetmelanin · 12/08/2024 05:29

I don’t know that he’s done anything so wrong. He’s just given his honest opinion.