Dp doesn’t like my new hair style

Yes to hairy men ❤DP has a glorious beard and while he’s stunning without it (he didn’t have it when i met him), i’d be sad if he shaved it.

If he asked me which I preferred, I’d tell him, but ultimately it’s his choice.

@Sourgrapes2 did you ask him for his opinion, or did he just volunteer it?

I'd rather someone told the truth than lie. I hate liars even if they think they're being nice, it's just fake and patronising.

Did you ask him what he thought? If so then it's definitely best not to ask questions you don't want an honest answer to. If you didn't then it would have been better if he just didn't say anything or just said it's nice but he prefers it longer.

Oh come on. If she op came on posting that her dh was now some 30st man that she no longer finds attractive nobody would be telling her his the same man.

People are attracted to what they are attracted too. Now he might come to love her new hair or he might not. His allowed a preference without it making him shallow.

You going to tell me you never rejected a date because of something about their appearance? I doubt it.

I once had my hair cut into a shorter bob and instantly knew I'd fucked up, DH didn't like it either so felt like shit about it. However, if I'd loved it and thought it looked good on me I think I wouldn't have given two shits what he thought. Do you like it OP?

It's your hair, you're entitled to have it exactly as you like.
He's really shallow. You're still the same person.

I think folks think they are just oh so droll with this nonsense, if a woman posted and said my husband grew a full beard and I just don’t like it, so I politely said I prefer you clean shaven and he responded by telling me he would rather shag salma hayak , most of the responses would be is he often that much of a Immature wanker.

Your allowed to have your hair how you want just as his allowed to prefer long hair or even a bald head.

As long as nobody is forcing the other to only do their preferred it’s just life.

I like dh without a beard, he can grow one if he wishes I won’t stop him. Though I wouldn’t be as keen on kissing him as I hate beards but it’s his body.

Ignore him.

My DH once said he'd prefer me with longer hair. I told him I'd prefer Pedro Pascal.

Eh? Slovenly is an odd word, particularly when I expressly said people should be clean and tidy…

Love it when someone comes on crowing their attraction transcends the physical 😂

How long was it previously?

I had waist length hair when I met DH. A few years later I had it cut down to shoulder length - he also said he preferred it longer. Roll on another 10 years, I had it bobbed - been like that for 20 years now and HE still says he preferred it longer! I say, I preferred it when he wasn't bald 🤣

lol bless him. 😆

It's tricky and I think the being hypocritical about this is from the history of how objectified women are.
I do agree it's wrong to try and control someones appearance both male and female. You can't criticise a mans hair/beard/dress sense and not expect some back. I think we are allowed opinions when attraction is involved.
But it does somehow feel different as a woman. Because of how we are constantly analysed by men and society. The oppression and control we have been under. A man saying he wants long hair, thinner etc just brings all those feelings up, at a time when women want to do whatever the fuck they want.

I mean, context and tone is also important. I've had haircuts where partners have said they prefer it a different way. It's never been done in a way that makes me feel unattractive or that I need to change it, however,

This.

Its not a good idea to comment negatively about something that's a done deal and can't be changed back, but generally speaking I don't have a problem with people who's relationship involves physical attraction to voice an opinion on what is more or less attractive to them about their partners presentation. As to what you do about it, depends entirely on how important him liking your hairstyle is to you.

I've asked DP not to cut her hair any shorter than it is now, as I don't find short hair attractive. (It's already a lot shorter than it was when I met her)

I don't think there's anything wrong with that particularly. I'm not telling her she can't cut it, just that I'm less likely to fancy her as much if she does.

It works both ways as well. I'd prefer to have a full beard, but DP isn't a fan, and prefers me with a goatee. Personally, I'd quite like DP to keep finding me attractive, so I stick to the goatee. I could change it if I wanted to, but I'd have to accept that I'd probably end up having sex with DP less.

I am confused.

Are yiu saying the people you know dress how they think you would like them to, to show you respect?

But they look slovenly?

Grow up.

It’s why everyone looks so absolutely slovenly these days I guess.

to be fair, my husband likes my hair longer and so i wont cut it, its preferences at the end of the day, i don't like it when he HAS hair as he looks better when he shaves it off, obviously i would still love him but its just my personal preference, again i hated a shirt he had so he got rid of it and wears the one i love and i wear the dress that he loves. isnt that compromising in a relationship, obviously if he loved the shirt i would have been ok with it but he didnt mind not wearing it so he didnt

@Sourgrapes2 has he even got hair?????