Dp doesn’t like my new hair style

My exh would say this exact thing and I stupidly would keep my hair long. As soon as I left him I got my hair chopped into a bob. Please do what makes you feel confident and happy, don’t let him dictate things like this as it won’t end with just your hair.

Love this 😂

Tell him to fuck off and worry about his own hair instead of yours. My ex did the same thing when I cut my hair short he kept asking me if I was going to grow it back out so I kept having it cut short just to spite him he’s an ex for many reason not just because of my hair. I grew it back out of after we split up.

Haha. I don't have a husband, wife, or partner of any sort.

I have my hair however I like it. I cut it myself. I shaved it off at Christmas and everyone complimented me. It's now grown out to long short (I know what I mean) and I'm loving playing with bands, grips and colours.

Do you live to look attractive to your husband? What if your Husband's fantasy woman is say Salma Hayek - too gorgeous for words, yet you look like Katie Price. Or vice versa. Are you going try and model yourself on what your husband finds attractive. Or, are you going to be confident enough in yourself, to be yourself.
How many men with the most beautiful wives have had affairs, and likewise wives too, regardless of looks?

You can only ever be yourself whether in a relationship or not. The moment you change to please your husband is the moment you have lost yourself.

If you're being is to look good for what your husband wants (and no saying that you want it too because that doesn't tally with the OP) then good luck to you.

I shall be me 😁

Ps what would you achieve by telling your husband that you don't like his new hairstyle and it makes him less attractive to you? I'd hope he'd tell you to sod off and not take a dent to his confidence and live to please you.

I think all men generally prefer longer hair, I wouldn’t sweat it.

If you like the new style keep it, I’m sure there’s the odd thing you don’t like about his style etc but it doesn’t particularly matter overall.

I wouldn’t let it influence your self esteem.

Of course you what you like - i had a short hair cut when i met my husband - think shaved sides, spiky front. I mean - i liked it then - and i worked in a very hot country so worked for me, when we started dating he asked if i ever grew my hair long and i said no, how country meant short hair. When i moved to England 2 years later - i grew it out, i have it down to my bum now, and i love it, he does to and prefers it so ive kept it that way. You dont have to do what he likes - but he can have a preference.

DH doesn’t like my pink highlights I have had for years…but I do, so guess what colour my hair is.

I read some survey years ago that said that men generally like women's hair to stay how it was when they met.

The theory is that even men who don't profess to have 'a type', will have strong residual attraction to the person's physical appearance when they were 'falling in love' in that early lust stage. For men who do 'have a type' its even stronger.

So if he likes blondes with long blonde hair, that's his type, and that's how you looked when you got together he will want you to stay that way.

If he's more relaxed but you had long blonde hair when you got together, he will get those same nostaglic lustful vibes associated with that time - a bit the same way that some aftershave can have the same effect on a woman - if it reminds you of the hot exbf who always wore it.

Women are the same but notice it less because men rarely have radical changes to their hair length or colour by choice. Beards or facial hair are a better comparator for women

It's no different from finding a man less attractive because he grows a beard or gets fat.

He's entitled not to like it. You are entitled to have your hair how you like. Just how he's entitled to grow a beard or shave it off and you are entitled not to like it.

Question is how strongly do both people feel about it and why ( for the one who doesn't like the change: genuine issue/affect on attraction or just general grumbling or control issueand and for the one who has made the change: whether they love it or could live with out it or whether they will feel upset/controlled) nad whether it's something you are prepared to compromise on or not.

Haha he was clearly cut from the same cloth! 🤣

Did you date Rod Stewart?

Tbf beards have much bigger impact than short or.long hair. Kissing that 🤢

What's pointless is thinking everyone likes everything. OP might want him to like it, but he doesn't, and that's within his right.

What a pointless comment. The op wants him to like it. That’s the whole point of the thread 😂

@Bumpingaround

oh come on now!! Don't be all normal & reasonable, it's just not the MN WAY!!

( it's good to know there are some 'ordinary/normal people left!!)

He doesn't need to like it, because no-one likes everything/everyone has preferences.

If you like it, nothing else matters.

@twentysevendresses what a tosser. You’re well rid!

I was recently dumped by a man I'd been dating for 8 months because he didn't like my hair change!

I was 'long blond' when we met...then a few weeks ago I had it cut (not short, just 'shorter') and went back to my natural 'strawberry blond'. It genuinely never occurred to me to tell him what I was getting done to my hair, however, he immediately told me that I'd 'shifted the goalposts of our relationship' as he 'only dated women with long blond hair'!!! WTF 🤣🤦‍♀️

His loss 🤷‍♀️

I still remember my own try with a chin length bob with horror. To be fair I only got it because I was growing out a hideous fringe and didn't want to weaken and get the fringe recut. Having a square jaw and hair with a tendency to frizz, it was a very unfortunate look.

🤣🤣🤣

On another note, he'll get used to it and it'll grow back. Hopefully he knows how hair works.

Byt why r u so upset about his stupid reaction to this point op? It's your hair, your style. He must've liked your style given you're together. Be more confident! A bob sounds lovely.

I give you my exDH, who actually preferred short hair. Not all men are the same you know.

I wouldn't care in the slight.
It's my hair, only I have to like it!

Yeah. I'm still attracted to the person I love when his hair is a different length.

I actually really like this! Very 1950s, he should wear it with doc martens and jeans (and brylcreemed hair 😁)

Kudos to him to wearing something a bit quirky and with a bit of colour in it, that’s a very attractive trait in a man