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Partner telling me to eat healthily- fuming

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dreamer24 · 11/08/2024 16:29

I went for a run today. It's 23 degrees where I am, it's hot and it's not the best weather for running. I managed 3.2 miles but then had to stop as I'd ran out of water and what little water I had left in my bottle was warm given the heat.

I texted my partner when I'd finished (he was at a soft play with our toddler) to say I'd struggled but managed 3 miles, and that I felt a little dizzy and was craving water and salt (presumably because I'd sweated so much I'd lost a lot of salt). I said I might drive past McDonalds on the way home to grab some chips (just chips, nothing else) as I needed to replace the salt. He replied, "you need to eat healthily".

So... I saw red. This is a man who is overweight and who I watched sit on the sofa at lunch time and eat a Greggs cream cake. I didn't do this - I had a half a sandwich and a banana then went for a run. This is, by the way, my 3rd run of this week and I also plan to go to the gym tomorrow morning to do a weights class.

For context, I am a size 10 (BMI is 22.5 ish). So I am not even overweight but I want to tone up a bit and to get back my pre baby level of fitness, hence making this effort

Am I right to feel really annoyed by what feels like judgement for what I've chosen to eat post run, when I'm making an effort here and he is not? If he was the picture of health and fitness then maybe I'd accept that comment a bit more but ... seriously?! You eat a cake for lunch then tell me, post 3 mile run, to "eat healthily" 😵‍💫

Or am I overreacting or am I right to feel annoyed at this judgement? 🤔

OP posts:
spikeandbuffy24 · 12/08/2024 22:11

Middleagedspreadisreal · 12/08/2024 22:05

A quarter teaspoon of salt in water would have replaced some electrolytes. The fat on fried chips could damage arteries, run or not.

One portion? OP hasn't said how often she eats them or what other foods her diet is

the diet stuff I see on here isn't relevant to anything I see in RL. I would say the majority of people eat some chips every so often whether it's at home or McDonald's or a chip portion on a trip to the beach

Mama0nion · 12/08/2024 22:07

BananaSpanner · 11/08/2024 16:51

It’s still quite funny. Cmon OP lighten up a bit.

This.

Middleagedspreadisreal · 12/08/2024 22:05

A quarter teaspoon of salt in water would have replaced some electrolytes. The fat on fried chips could damage arteries, run or not.

dreamer24 · 12/08/2024 21:31

@beautifuldaytosavelives
Also this made me laugh out loud: You’ve had some good advice, you’ve endured some petty bragging from the endurance runners who do 1000 miles on the dew from a leaf

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dreamer24 · 12/08/2024 21:30

beautifuldaytosavelives · 12/08/2024 20:37

OP, well done for getting back into fitness. You’ve run further than some people, less than others. You can probably objectively accept that you haven’t set any records and you do come across as a little defensive. However, you’ve got out there and done it, it was a bit tough and you didn’t need what appeared to be criticism from DH. But who’s made him your coach? You are doing it for you. He can eat his cream cakes. You’ve had some good advice, you’ve endured some petty bragging from the endurance runners who do 1000 miles on the dew from a leaf, but the important thing is you put your trainers on again tomorrow.

Ah thank you! Lovely reply x

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dreamer24 · 12/08/2024 21:29

@FootieMama
Nope, not once did I ever say I thought chips were healthy - I'm not an idiot 😂

I said I was having a very specific craving for them, which I thought might be because I was low on salt due to the amount of sweating I'd done. Whether or not my science is correct, I do not know, and I have repeatedly said that and been corrected on the science part throughout this thread.

But I do not accept that anywhere on this thread (or IRL for that matter) I have stated I believed McDonalds chips are healthy. Nowhere. But don't let the truth get in the way of a narrative you'd like to push, will you. 😉

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DisabledDemon · 12/08/2024 21:29

It was clumsy of him and I daresay, from someone who'd just necked a cake, it felt unfair.

I agree, chips are not really the way to go when you're trying to tone up - although once in a while is hardly a crime. Perhaps, the next time you want a little 'treat', don't tell him?

FootieMama · 12/08/2024 21:15

spikeandbuffy24 · 12/08/2024 20:36

Why? You're not undoing everything you've done, that's saying you should only bother to exercise if you don't eat fried food or eat well Confused so if you eat fried food you shouldn't exercise because there's no point?

I exercise for the fun, the heart and lungs fitness, for bone density, for helping myself in older age, for mental health. Not for weight loss or even necessarily fitness
But eating fried food even after exercise doesn't take away fitness or the rest of it

It's not the case for the OP. Eating chips for rehidratation is absurd. She wants to get fit. I guess cardio fitness so eating salt and and chips is one the worst things you can consume for your heart health. I will ar rubbish food but I don't lie to myself saying that will do me any good. That's probably what triggered her partner comment because she tried to justify why she was eating chips. As if it was a bit healthy. It definitely isn't .

beautifuldaytosavelives · 12/08/2024 20:37

OP, well done for getting back into fitness. You’ve run further than some people, less than others. You can probably objectively accept that you haven’t set any records and you do come across as a little defensive. However, you’ve got out there and done it, it was a bit tough and you didn’t need what appeared to be criticism from DH. But who’s made him your coach? You are doing it for you. He can eat his cream cakes. You’ve had some good advice, you’ve endured some petty bragging from the endurance runners who do 1000 miles on the dew from a leaf, but the important thing is you put your trainers on again tomorrow.

spikeandbuffy24 · 12/08/2024 20:36

FootieMama · 12/08/2024 19:10

What you expected to hear? Why did you explain why you need to eat chips for the salt? Makes no sense.
It's kind of whats the point of going for a run and undo all the good it did by eating fried food?
Not about calories only. Chips are very unhealthy

Why? You're not undoing everything you've done, that's saying you should only bother to exercise if you don't eat fried food or eat well Confused so if you eat fried food you shouldn't exercise because there's no point?

I exercise for the fun, the heart and lungs fitness, for bone density, for helping myself in older age, for mental health. Not for weight loss or even necessarily fitness
But eating fried food even after exercise doesn't take away fitness or the rest of it

Deebee90 · 12/08/2024 20:02

He’s right though McDonald’s isn’t healthy. Theirs plenty of food that will raise your salt levels then chips. His food choices are his and yours are yours but perhaps since you’ve been on a health kick he made the comment to stop you eating shit and regretting it later when you didn’t need it.

dreamer24 · 12/08/2024 19:47

I calculated that I burned approx 330 cals on that run yesterday. Small McD's chips are 230 cals. So I'm still 100 cals lighter 😁

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TyrannasaurusJex · 12/08/2024 19:43

mynameiscalypso · 11/08/2024 16:39

I would also be quite confused if someone had run a pretty short run and then went for chips after it.

why? better than not going for a run and having chips! maybe they run so that they can have a (very small!) indulgence every now and then!

Neves7 · 12/08/2024 19:39

I went for a sea swim yesterday and then had two McD’s cheeseburgers! My diet is mostly healthy - I’ve lost 5 stone over the past two years and am still steadily losing 1/2 to 1 pound a week.

but I like swimming so I went and I like cheeseburgers so occasionally I have them…

you do you OP

Deboragh · 12/08/2024 19:35

dreamer24 · 11/08/2024 16:36

@Crunchymum
No I'm not a weight bore. I don't talk about it constantly. As I said, I'm not even technically overweight. It's mostly to increase my fitness.

And no he's not controlling about what I eat, it was just in general conversation, telling him I was craving salt so I might pass McDonald's and grab some chips. This is normal conversation for us. But his reply was just like wtf!? It's almost as though he felt the need to mansplain healthy eating to me. Which is embarrassing for a man who ate a cream cake for his lunch isn't it.

You probably did need the salt, also your body might have needed to replace the carbs so chips would be fine.

FootieMama · 12/08/2024 19:13

If you want to replenish electrolyte at mcdonalds an orange juice with a pinch of salt is a better bet.

FootieMama · 12/08/2024 19:10

What you expected to hear? Why did you explain why you need to eat chips for the salt? Makes no sense.
It's kind of whats the point of going for a run and undo all the good it did by eating fried food?
Not about calories only. Chips are very unhealthy

ThePix · 12/08/2024 18:53

mynameiscalypso · 11/08/2024 16:39

I would also be quite confused if someone had run a pretty short run and then went for chips after it.

Agree

ItsAlrightDarling · 12/08/2024 18:44

Suchasonganddance · 12/08/2024 17:44

A ridiculous time of day to run.

There is never a reason to eat a McDonald’s product - just a self indulgent poor food choice.

🙄

Teacherprebaby · 12/08/2024 18:37

dreamer24 · 11/08/2024 16:37

@Mrsttcno1
It's not usually a huge amount that I lose I agree. But in 23 degrees when I'm pushing the pace, I did sweat a lot more than I would typically for this distance.

Just reply with 'healthy eh Mr Gregg's cream cakes for lunch' with a winky face.

dreamer24 · 12/08/2024 18:19

Suchasonganddance · 12/08/2024 17:44

A ridiculous time of day to run.

There is never a reason to eat a McDonald’s product - just a self indulgent poor food choice.

😂🤣😂🤣

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Sunnysundayicecream · 12/08/2024 18:12

I go to running club and once in a while we do a chippy run. Having a run out and chips on the way back. As long as you don't do it after every run you'll be fine! Keep going with the running, you get used to running in the heat, although some runners hate running in extremes of hot/cold. My nemesis is cold weather 🥶, then I become an indoor treadmill runner and freeze during my competitions!

StaunchMomma · 12/08/2024 17:55

IAmAQuitter · 12/08/2024 15:42

Ahh I see.

But that's just their weight going to 'normal' after their overactive thyroid has become stable.

So technically it causes weight gain, but only until that point.

The rest is down to diet/exercise, the same as it is for everyone else.

No, not at all. I didn't lose any weight with Graves. My heart was fast, though, hence the need for the medication.

I am now on Mounjaro and, even with that and hardly eating, I'm losing on average less than a pound a week.

As I said, there are many women on it that have ballooned. As ever, people want it to be put down to 'laziness' etc, but it's not. I've always been a 'bigger' girl, actually, and have only had Graves for about 8 years. I haven't eaten more or moved less since being on it, which is the general report from people who take it, but many see a huge increase in weight that isn't 'returning to normal weight' at all. They are now fat, not their normal weight at all.

It's really disappointing to see someone with a thyroid condition being so ignorant to other conditions and dismissive of the struggles of others.

You can die from the disease. It's not flippant and if we need medication, we NEED it. It's not fair at all to then be dismissed like that when they gain weight on it, a recognised side effect of the drug slowing your metabolism.

Suchasonganddance · 12/08/2024 17:44

A ridiculous time of day to run.

There is never a reason to eat a McDonald’s product - just a self indulgent poor food choice.

IAmAQuitter · 12/08/2024 15:42

StaunchMomma · 12/08/2024 14:51

Carbimazole. All of the Graves Disease groups are full of women who've been thin their whole lives but ballooned on it.

It's the devil, but then it does keep us alive 😂

Ahh I see.

But that's just their weight going to 'normal' after their overactive thyroid has become stable.

So technically it causes weight gain, but only until that point.

The rest is down to diet/exercise, the same as it is for everyone else.

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