Partner telling me to eat healthily- fuming

People can do both. All or Nothing thinking is very unhelpful.

This thread is infuriating! As is the constant one-upmanship of posters. Some of you may well be able to run the length of the uk in 40 degree heat, on a single lick of ice in the morning but many of us are not.

The OP is allowed to go for a run even though she has children, she is also allowed to not feel well after running when it's hot outside (23 is hot to some people, me included), she's allowed to feel dizzy and 3 miles isn't a short run to a lot people. She is also allowed to eat Mcdonalds chips if she wants to.

This thread wasn't about any of the above, it was about her partners comment about eating healthily when it the same text she mentioned being dizzy and unwell... on top of him polishing off a cream cake for lunch which he had also offered to her!

Yes OP your partners comment was unreasonable and he should have asked if you were okay. It would have irritated me as well. I'm glad you've talked and sorted things out! Next time I suggest you get a Big Mac Meal just to make sure you have enough protein, carbs and sugar too 😉

I would have gone straight home and had a pinch of sea salt in a glass of water. Fried chips covered in table salt isn't going to give your body what it needs. Fair enough if you just fancy it.

23° isn't exactly hot, but then I would sweat buckets trying to run in 10° 🤣. I think a lucozade would have been far better than Mcd's chips tho! Why has his comment triggered you so much? Is he just being supportive and meant it in a 'nice way' or is he always making digs? If it was just a one off comment and was about you undoing all the good from your 3 mile run then just laugh it off and make sure you've got proper hydration with you next time.

He probably wondered why you’d render your run pointless 🤷‍♀️

I get it @dreamer24 it wasn't a jokey, "that's healthy!" 🤣
Or saying "I thought you were trying to be healthy?!" 😆
He just said You need to eat healthily! He was telling you like a command or instructing you what to do.

I think there's been a lot of knobs on this thread saying you shouldn't need water and saying three miles is nothing. Ignore the tedious twats!
These kind of people are the ones who put people off getting fit, running or going to the gym because they make others feel ashamed or embarrassed.

I have been struggling to work and walk about in this heat and sweating like a disgusting sweaty thing just doing normal things so I am very impressed with your running and you should feel really proud of yourself!
I hope you enjoyed your chips!

23 degrees is quite warm for the UK I suppose but most people could do a short run without any water. I did 7km on Sunday evening, 38 degrees, sip of water before setting off and finish the bottle (330ml) when I got back to the car.

Are you sure its not that you just don't like your husband generally? Sounds like you think you are better than the, junk-food judging soft-playing, cake-eating, lard-arse?

YABU, you need to run at least 13 miles to earn a McDonalds! ;)

I wouldn't take the piss for the rest of the day. That's completely unreasonable. I'd take the piss FOR EVER MORE!

OP saying you need McDonalds to replace salt when you are dehydrated after a run is such bullshit it's untrue.

And if you don't want his comments, don't stealth boast to him tell him the minutiae of your exercise and diet regime, which is undoubtedly as dull AF. And I say that as a regular exerciser.

In this case you would gone in and picked up a sachet of salt only though surely?

OP, if you’d posted “I went for a run, felt knackered and really fancied some chips afterwards.” I can guarantee you’d have got completely different responses here. But it’s the ridiculous tying yourself in knots to justify the chips as a health decision due to feeling faint and dizzy and needing to replenish salts (??) why people (including your husband!) are taking the piss. If you want chips, just bloody have chips! You don’t need to replenish salts after a 3k run (I’m not undermining that run but regardless off fitness levels it isn’t long enough for you to be depleted in anything).
You do seem humourless and uptight. And also really nasty/fat shaming your husband (stuffing cream cakes in and banging on about how you’re a size 10? Gross).

If someone told me they’d struggled on their run and felt dizzy, I would them to eat something good rather than chips as well. Didn’t he mean it in that way? That you were clearly unwell and struggling and needed something good?

Well, the good news is, there are a lot of people who can be meaner than your DH about what you had for lunch, you going for a run, when you went, the distance, the taking water and then the getting chips ... And most of them are on this thread! Absolutely crazy.

So anyway, good on you for stepping up the fitness. I'm glad it brought about a conversation about how you've been feeling.

He was out of line, honestly. You should return the favour to him.

Also, the amount of people on here saying chips after a run is funny or counter productive… you can have chips and desserts etc in your diet and still be in a calorie deficit and within daily intake recommendations of salt and fat etc. Especially if you’re exercising. Dieting and eating healthy is all about balance, you don’t have to become a marathon running rabbit to be healthy

yikes that’s awful! How nasty of them and clearly lacking self awareness. I do agree that some men who are not in the best shape themselves are too quick to criticise women for not being size 10. It’s part of misogyny. Well done on putting him in his place.

Op, I haven’t RTFT but you seem to be getting a bit of a hard time here. I lost over 3 stone all the while eating McDonald’s, takeaways, cakes, popcorn etc. I just reduced portions for everything I ate (healthy and unhealthy stuff ) and ate chips and cake say twice a week instead of multiple times a day like I’d been doing before. I went to the gym 3 times a week. After 18 months my fitness had improved massively, my weight reduced and I felt better too. So it’s BS to say there’s no point eating fries after the run. Is it the healthiest option - no. But is it better than sitting on the couch and then going for fries- yes! Something is better than nothing.

But it’s neither here nor there whether someone thinks you made a good food choice or whether they reckons fries is going to suddenly make you overweight overnight or sabotage your entire health journey 🙄

I think the main point that has been derailed is why did your husband gloss over the fact of you feeling unwell and also the achievement you had and go straight to criticise you eating a bag of fries?

If he had said sorry you feel unwell but congrats on the run, perhaps you should just drink some water and fruit juice for energy then make your way back - it would’ve come off as more thoughtful and caring rather than just being critical.

What I don’t understand is why you didn’t immediately say, “you’ve just had a cream cake and sat on the couch, you need to eat healthier and move more too - at least I’m exercising”? Irrespective of his weight the phrase people in glass houses would’ve came to mind!

My partner is very healthy and vegan, and not overweight but even he would’ve said something more encouraging.

My suggestion of what to say to him may come across as blunt, but I prefer to be direct and say something like that to avoid resentment festering and also to set the tone for the relationship. Don’t let him get into the habit of being overly negative and critical of you. I feel some of this thread is driven by you now feeling like you have to justify why you want a bag of chips to him and some posters. No justification needed!

I run and running when it's hot is hard. Well, running is always hard, hot weather makes it harder. After three miles you probably need water more than anything else but if you fancied chips, why not. Have to say I spend most of my time whilst I'm running fantasising about what I'm going to eat later. Thoughts about a boiled egg and toast are the only reason I managed 15k. I literally could see it in my mind.

🤣🤣 getting a bit of a pasting here OP for daring to eat chips after a run. I agree he doesn't get an opinion on this and he's got a bit of a cheek.

And all the runners on here telling you what's best to eat post run - an occasional bag of chips post run is not a terrible thing. I daresay you eat well most of the time.

I'm an ultra runner, we mostly exist on pizza, beer and the suchlike post run 🤣🤣.

I heard on the radio that 42% of 1000 people said they run solely so that they can eat whatever they want. (Used to be in that camp too so I appreciate it!!😅)

Your partner just said a true comment. That is not manspaining
Have the chips of you want to. You are an adult. But it's a weird way of justifying it

It sounds like you don't even like each other. The contempt you feel for him is obvious.
As for the rest, get a life.

The info given here is a bit garbled - dietary sodium and electrolytes are more or less the same thing. Drinking electrolytes means they are dietary technically. Electrolyte drinks are basically just salts. You could make up your own with the right combination of sugar, salt and water- if you could be arsed. After a run you need sugars first - the banana provides that along with potassium (salt). Protein is less necessary as it’s replenishing glycogen stores that will help you recover. A 3 mile run probably doesn’t need much replenishing but you should definitely listen to your body and running in heat, if you are not used to it, takes more out of you than you’d expect.

I think it's telling the partner before getting them and being annoyed he responded, and justifying them by saying about salt- just get them it's not a big deal!

i don’t understand why people are confused at someone wanting to go for a run and wanting to eat chips. She is allowed to do both of these things. And better to go for a run than not go for a run. It’s not all or nothing. And definitely better for you than sitting on the sofa and eating a cream cake, although if someone wants to do that, that’s fine too. Just don’t tell someone else to eat healthy…

Do you know what , you went for a run even though it was warm and muggy , well done for getting up and doing something , and do you know what if you craved some fries afterwards so what go get your fries you’ve early them , and for people saying about him doing extra childcare I find this laughable he’s their father he can pick up some childcare it will not hurt him don’t make a woman feel terrible for doing an activity that benefits her health because poor dad had to watch the kids for an hour , you’re all going off about he’s the father 50/50 in other threads he can watch the kids 50/50 for goodness sake . Also the next time he comments on your food tell him you expect he will be making you both a healthy salad for lunch then and no cream cakes . And yes me and husband also text each mundane stuff we don’t see each other all day due to work so we text stupid stuff like on my way home I will message him was starving when I finished work picked up a chocolate bar to eat on the way home . I’m more worried about you people who don’t text your husbands do you really like them ? .