Partner telling me to eat healthily- fuming

I don't know why you told him about your planned trip to McDonald's. It almost feels as if it was asking for a comment back. I would have bought and kept sctum and mentioned later if the opportunity came up. You can eat what you like but chips after something healthy seems a bit contrasting (btw I had a cookie when I came back from mine this morning so I'm no angel! 😅).

You need to eat healthily to feel better maybe?

I mean if there’s McD likely there was a convenience store too where you could get Gatorade or something like that with electrolytes (and cold) to rehydrate you. Fries when hot and dehydrated make no sense.

@theduchessofspork to be fair I did have electrolytes because it was a match, I knew it would be fast paced and it was incredibly hot so I put one of the tablets in my water (took 1.5l)

After drinking the coke and sitting in the shade for a while I felt fine to drive home

Why is everyone saying " 3 miles is nothing" " I can do more" bla bla bla
I would do anything to be able to run ONE mile.
Last year I had to learn to WALK again!!
It's all relative - everything is an achievement when you are reaching your goals!
All the OP wanted was an acknowledgement off her partner!

we are in agreement

This thread is wild.

OP: I'm annoyed with my DH for making this comment.

MN: You shouldn't bother trying to improve your fitness if you're going to consume anything more than water and fresh air.

I'm not sure why you are annoyed. You are a healthy weight and taking steps to improve your fitness so I wonder if you are feeling a bit insecure about yourself to feel so annoyed about your husbands unwanted remarks or whether he has form for undermining you? I wouldn't react to his comment unless this is part of a pattern, he is clearly not an expert on healthy living. If he has form for subtly putting you down I'd talk to him about it and tell him to cut it out.

Ignore the sanctimonious nonsense on here. Keep going with your fitness plan and enjoying an occasional treat. If I was to offer any advice from personal experience it would be to avoid running in the heat, the run is harder and you feel disappointed with yourself afterwards which isn't a great motivator. Over 3 miles is a great achievement so ignore anyone making out it's nothing.

Don't tell people things unless you're happy for them to judge you on it.

You'll have to let him know that the mumsnet saints say he should just lick a carrot

Nope, but that's mainly because DH has just gone out and got a maccy d's for a cheats tea. I haven't been for a run today or ever

I get you OP, he could have just said 'cool' or 'OK, see you later' or (in the case of my DH) 'I'll have a fillet of fish, chips and a milkshake'

Eat your chips. Mr Monkey did a 20k run today and has just messaged me to say he has had a roast dinner and three pints of beer - and he is marathon training. 🤣

I’ve NRTFT but god, don’t tell anyone on here you had Mcd’s at all..do you not know it’s the work of the devil?!! (Well, according to MN)

YANBU. Unless, as someone said before, you have been asking for help and support with your weight and fitness journey and he’s commented based on that.

Maybe it wasn’t the ‘best’ choice but FFS, the odd packet of fries isn’t going to harm you. I know what you mean about craving things, and especially when you feel dizzy, I imagine it seems even more ‘urgent’.

I hope you had the fries and enjoyed them!

And I'm not creating a narrative
I'm literally saying what happened
Yesterday I did a 45 min spin class and was fine but for whatever reason my body wasn't happy with me after netball
Possibly period related, possibly overheated due to medication, possibly that I'm on meds for allergy to exercise

Next time I'll just pass out, I'm sure that's safer than drinking the one can of full sugar coke I've had this year

You come on - no one needs electrolytes after playing a casual game of netball

What people do need in life is little treats - if you like coke the occasional can after exercise on on a warm day makes life a pleasure

So you know what caused it then do you?

You know for a fact that it wasnt, for example, related to blood sugar in which case coke would be perfect?

Isn't it? Bloody hell, I couldn't run 3 miles if I was on fire. I tried couch to 5k and thought I was going to die when it got to the longer bits. And I never thought I was that unfit, walk everywhere as I don't drive and am not in the slightest bit overweight, but man, I can't run. Walked 9 miles today up steep cliff paths, the lot, but two minutes running leaves me at death's flippin' door!

@TheShiningCarpet I do take care of myself by exercising and eating lots of fruit and veg
I had high zero tablets in my water but it wasn't enough and I wasn't feeling safe enough to drive as I felt faint
My options were nothing or a can of coke that someone offered me

I would assume it's partly this - it does sound very much like the greeting card with the Rubenesque beautiful woman explaining to her admirers that she jogs to the cake shop every day.

However if you make a big deal of how "good" or similar you are to be exercising and make it clear he is obligated to pick up the childcare over and above his 50% of non work, not n shared hours because exercising isn't leisure time but something noble and sacred, I can understand him being a bit peed off at your message to him at soft play hell, and replying somewhat archly.

It's more often dads who do this (assume that exercise falls into the same category as work where the other parent being obliged to do over and above their share of solo childcare is concerned because both work and exercise are the same "get out of childcare without questions" tickets. I'm sure there are a few women who do it too (fatty other parent is not allowed to be anything but supportive despite a big imbalance in childcare outside working hours because of hours running, cycling, at the gym etc. because exercising is different to other hobbies or socialising).

OP, your partner is putting you down so that he can fee better about himself.
Ignore him or humour him, whatever is the least stressful for you.
Most of all carry on running/exercising!

Yeah because a reply saying 'I had a can of coke' would make so much sense without explaining why

It’s just chit chat. I say a lot of things to my husband that aren’t strictly ‘necessary’.

im not - I'm saying you can just enjoy it without creating a back story as to why it was essential (or if its really a health thing, make the better health choice)

of course but no need to recreate a narrative where its absolutely needed to address wooziness after 45 mins movement