Partner telling me to eat healthily- fuming

You're a medical secretary 🥴 please stop giving medical advice. I actually am a HCP. You said I work in healthcare and we have a big focus on hyponatraemia (low sodium) at the moment. Dietary sodium does next to nothing to replenish your stores. You need electrolytes to an OP who was talking about craving salt after a run. Dietary sodium is sufficient to replenish stores in this case, and salt is an electrolyte (well, technically two)

Why even text him ? just eat if you want, no drama

also well done, I think 3miles is a lot & I run

I asked dh to stop at the shop and get me cake as I needed the calories after my run the other day. He text back gotcha. Did I need the calories after my run, nope, it was just tongue in cheek, would I have annoyed if dh said 'you need to eat healthier', yup.

Like the OP I'm not even near overweight, I don't run for weightloss, I run for cardiovascular and mental health benefits. It's just a bonus that I can eat cake sometimes and not have to worry about my figure.

The op didn't ask for commentary on what she was eating and just because you go for a run it doesn't mean you have to eat healthily all of the time. And a 3 mile run is better than no run, it all adds up.

Agree with this - and you could interpret his message as genuine concern, after you had said you'd felt dizzy and dehydrated, that you might not feel good at all from eating salty chips. We lose the tone in written rather than spoken words, if he was in the same room, you might have got a v different vibe from him

If your normal communication style is regularly blunt, unnecessary, meaningless 'ok then' / 'good for you', then maybe he was just replying in kind.

You're dizzy after three miles with a bottle of water. That's not normal.

You just had a run, but want chips. Your salt intake BS needs calling out.

He's taking on extra childcare for you to indulge in increasing the amount of running (which you go to and from in the car...)

Maybe be just doesn't care about the specifics of your running and doesn't want to keep hearing about about it.

Has anyone suggested that you have a chip on your shoulder? Eat it quickly before you go home

@piccolorhinoceros that's fine - guess away. I said dietary sodium does next to nothing in hyponatraemia not should absolutely be avoided in normal diets.

I'll go with my years of experience and the years of experience of my colleagues too.

Dietary sodium has its place in a healthy diet at appropriate levels when balanced with everything else.

I have........... more than once! Sometimes I fancy some McDs fries and nowt else.

dreamer24 do you make it clear to him that your exercise is a morally superior activity that he needs to be unquestioningly 110% supportive of by taking on extra childcare?

I only ask because everyone is focusing on the whole health aspect but you are keen to let us know that he's overweight, makes poor food choices and doesn't exercise and that your BMI is 22 and you exercise multiple times per week and cook chicken and vegetables.

I wonder whether perhaps he's a bit pissed off at you being a bit "holier than thou" about your exercise and weight compared to his, whilst expecting him to do extra childcare to support you going the extra mile to look after yourself. If so I can imagine the little snarky remark being a symptom of being pissed off and having held his tongue until now.

This is more often the scenario with dads thinking going to the gym or out cycling for two hours six times per week is sacred and their overweight wife shouldn't say a word about the extra solo childcare, but I'm sure it happens the other way around occasionally...

I mean, we’re all different, but I’d never actively choose a Dioralyte.

Running 3 miles is impressive to me. Kudos. However, "replacing the salt" is a silly excuse. I can understand craving something unhealthy, but to pretend you were actually making a healthy decision is just odd. Maybe that was why your DH responded as he did? I would be puzzled if someone made those choices and told me about them.

Another possibility is that he felt defensive due to his own lack of fitness and the fact that he is overweight. Your reaction to his text seems defensive as well. Could it be a pattern you have fallen into as a couple?

I think I'd just say that he needs to eat healthily EVERY time he eats Greggs etc. when he gets sick of it and asks why you’re doing it, tell him you though that’s what he wanted as he kept offering unasked for advice

Dioralyte are amazing. Ive used them frequently recently during And after covid.

You’re doing great, love, and it’s no wonder you’re fuming. You’re putting the work in—don’t let anyone take that away from you.

😂

That's nearly 12.5 miles, prob used up at least 1300 calories, he NEEDS that roast dinner.
I used to run 42 miles per week, ate loads & still couldnt get my weight back up to 8 stone.

Tell him you aren't taking health advice from a lardarse!

Cheeky bugger.

But she wanted chips.

I think it's a lot too OP when you're starting to run after a break. You seem to have attracted the running bores whose bodies are temples to this thread.

In the real world it's okay to have chips after your run if you fancy them. And he was being patronising and rude.

If the text was literally "you need to eat healthier" it sounds like a rude dig. It's very short and judgemental.

I also find many of the comments criticising the chips + run odd. Maybe you like to run, and maybe you also like chips. Running is excellent for cardio health. You're a normal weight. One portion of chips won't kill you.

Just do you OP and ignore the negative energy from MN and DH.