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Partner telling me to eat healthily- fuming

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dreamer24 · 11/08/2024 16:29

I went for a run today. It's 23 degrees where I am, it's hot and it's not the best weather for running. I managed 3.2 miles but then had to stop as I'd ran out of water and what little water I had left in my bottle was warm given the heat.

I texted my partner when I'd finished (he was at a soft play with our toddler) to say I'd struggled but managed 3 miles, and that I felt a little dizzy and was craving water and salt (presumably because I'd sweated so much I'd lost a lot of salt). I said I might drive past McDonalds on the way home to grab some chips (just chips, nothing else) as I needed to replace the salt. He replied, "you need to eat healthily".

So... I saw red. This is a man who is overweight and who I watched sit on the sofa at lunch time and eat a Greggs cream cake. I didn't do this - I had a half a sandwich and a banana then went for a run. This is, by the way, my 3rd run of this week and I also plan to go to the gym tomorrow morning to do a weights class.

For context, I am a size 10 (BMI is 22.5 ish). So I am not even overweight but I want to tone up a bit and to get back my pre baby level of fitness, hence making this effort

Am I right to feel really annoyed by what feels like judgement for what I've chosen to eat post run, when I'm making an effort here and he is not? If he was the picture of health and fitness then maybe I'd accept that comment a bit more but ... seriously?! You eat a cake for lunch then tell me, post 3 mile run, to "eat healthily" 😵‍💫

Or am I overreacting or am I right to feel annoyed at this judgement? 🤔

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JMSA · 17/08/2024 18:37

An overreaction on your part.

Potsnpotz · 17/08/2024 18:35

Off topic but I used to order McDonald’s quite regularly when I lived in London, loved the fries, milkshake and chicken burgers - but then two years ago I moved to a town where the one McDonald’s is disgusting - always serves stone cold food and has a very low review rating online so I know it’s not just me 😆

I rarely have them now as I only go to mcds if I’m in another city. Think the last time I had one was about 18 months ago

Noshowlomo · 17/08/2024 13:45

Just had a mcds fries after shopping and thought of you OP. Delicious and v salty 😊

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dreamer24 · 16/08/2024 21:17

Munsontherun · 16/08/2024 20:36

Yeah I’m calling BS, as a runner you know about vitamin and salt replacement in the for of tablets and drinks, you don’t go to McD’s for chips to “replace” yoir salt content.

yes he’s a twat that can get away with eating a cream cake for his lunch but you cannot according to you, you can’t punish him for that even though you’re trying to be healthy.

Do I? Ok, thanks for telling me what I know and don't know 👍🏻🤣

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Prawncow · 16/08/2024 21:01

‘Yeah I’m calling BS, as a runner you know about vitamin and salt replacement in the for of tablets and drinks’

That’s why you add olives to a martini. I’m sure I read that in Runner’s World.

Munsontherun · 16/08/2024 20:36

Yeah I’m calling BS, as a runner you know about vitamin and salt replacement in the for of tablets and drinks, you don’t go to McD’s for chips to “replace” yoir salt content.

yes he’s a twat that can get away with eating a cream cake for his lunch but you cannot according to you, you can’t punish him for that even though you’re trying to be healthy.

ItsAlrightDarling · 16/08/2024 12:21

She had a small fries 😁

Jo7890123 · 16/08/2024 12:19

Protlean · 16/08/2024 09:46

A better macro split though for recovery. There isn't anything wrong with having fries if you want them, but to tell someone about it using a rubbish excuse (when no excuse is needed) and then moaning they say something you don't want to hear is odd.

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And actually, mc d regular fries are 445 calories, Asda chicken salad sandwich is 388 calories, so it depends a lot on the sandwich, but certainly not always the case that the fries are less calorific!

Protlean · 16/08/2024 09:46

Noshowlomo · 16/08/2024 08:45

A sandwich from Asda would have been more calories than the mcds fries though..
God people have some messed up views on food and exercise on this thread.

A better macro split though for recovery. There isn't anything wrong with having fries if you want them, but to tell someone about it using a rubbish excuse (when no excuse is needed) and then moaning they say something you don't want to hear is odd.

Noshowlomo · 16/08/2024 08:45

A sandwich from Asda would have been more calories than the mcds fries though..
God people have some messed up views on food and exercise on this thread.

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dreamer24 · 15/08/2024 18:22

Desenia86 · 15/08/2024 11:55

Chips from McDonald are terrible !!! You could have had anything else to “ replenish the salts (?)” unless you were in a field with only one McDonald in there you could have popped in one of those 24/7 and got yourself a getorade … a sandwich from Asda … chips from McDonald’s is crap quality and not for the calories … it’s processed stuff that you can eat once in a while not as a post run snack … and you know that this is why you got so mad . Cause everyone else here thought he was right . It’s the equivalent of saying I went for an icecream sundae cause my sugar level was low …

Also not true.

One of my (many) previous replies explains why his response grated on me, should you care to read it. I'm not typing it again - it was a carefully considered reply to a previous poster about why, on reflection, I felt I had got so upset about his response. And it has blot all to do with "knowing he was right".

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dreamer24 · 15/08/2024 18:20

BitOutOfPractice · 15/08/2024 14:36

example: I ran today and was Hot. I’m currently eating chocolate. Because I want to. Not because I’m pretending I need it for energy / to replenish sugar after my run. It’s just what I’m eating.

Ffs. I was not pretending anything. I had a craving, I had a theory about that craving - whether it's scientifically correct or not I don't know. But those things are true nonetheless. I do not usually crave chips post run - in fact I usually can't eat post run at all for at least a good hour as I just have no appetite! So this salt craving stood out to me as it was unusual. I don't know what so difficult about that to understand.

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dreamer24 · 15/08/2024 18:17

EPN · 15/08/2024 16:58

Maybe he didn't mean it like that maybe he was typing quick cos he was in the soft play and he was worried that you were dizzy ans thought you needed something more nourishing than 🍟. Maybe it was just misplaced concern that came across wrong. My husband says I misinterpret every sentence he utters.... ha ha ha..... or maybe they just all twats 😂

🤣 maybe they are just twats, indeed.

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dreamer24 · 15/08/2024 18:13

BitOutOfPractice · 15/08/2024 17:32

I don't think anyone could give two hoots about the nutritional value of chips v gatorade. My objection was her implying that she neeeeeeded chips for pseudo-medical reasons. That's where the rub is.

I don't think I said I neeeeeeeded chips for pseudo medical reasons, did I.

I said I was craving salt post run, and had a significant craving for salty chips. I assumed that was my body's way of indicating that it was lower on salt after my run than it would have liked to have been, and my theory was that this was possibly related to having sweated a lot more than usual due to the hotter than usual temperature.

I did not say I neeeeeeeeded chips. I said I felt I needed salt. And for some reason, that manifested in my mind and body as a specific craving for salty chips. And my mind then reasoned that the fastest way to obtain said chips without getting out of my car as a sweaty mess, was to go via McDonalds drive thru.

Now, I have acknowledged that my science may not have been accurate - it was after all just a theory. My body didn't say out loud to me "you are salt deficient, replace it now please". I assumed / theorised that from the craving I was having.

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ItsAlrightDarling · 15/08/2024 17:45

BitOutOfPractice · 15/08/2024 17:43

Well @ItsAlrightDarling I committed the heinous MN crime of reading the OP's posts and skimming the rest, so I missed the gatorade posts.

I expected a lot of people to diagnose that so many people on MN have "disordered eating" on MN and I wasn't wrong there either.

Absolutely fine to miss them, just pointing out that some people could indeed give two hoots about the nutritional value of chips vs Gatorade 😊

BitOutOfPractice · 15/08/2024 17:43

Well @ItsAlrightDarling I committed the heinous MN crime of reading the OP's posts and skimming the rest, so I missed the gatorade posts.

I expected a lot of people to diagnose that so many people on MN have "disordered eating" on MN and I wasn't wrong there either.

ItsAlrightDarling · 15/08/2024 17:41

BitOutOfPractice · 15/08/2024 17:32

I don't think anyone could give two hoots about the nutritional value of chips v gatorade. My objection was her implying that she neeeeeeded chips for pseudo-medical reasons. That's where the rub is.

Except the people who said ‘you should have got Gatorade instead of chips because chips are unhealthy’, obviously

BitOutOfPractice · 15/08/2024 17:32

I don't think anyone could give two hoots about the nutritional value of chips v gatorade. My objection was her implying that she neeeeeeded chips for pseudo-medical reasons. That's where the rub is.

xsquared · 15/08/2024 17:23

Chips/fries as a post run snack is fine.

I've been to a lot of races where a bag of crisps also well as a bar of chocolate has been included in the finishers goody bag. Not a single banana in sight!

EPN · 15/08/2024 16:58

Maybe he didn't mean it like that maybe he was typing quick cos he was in the soft play and he was worried that you were dizzy ans thought you needed something more nourishing than 🍟. Maybe it was just misplaced concern that came across wrong. My husband says I misinterpret every sentence he utters.... ha ha ha..... or maybe they just all twats 😂

DadJoke · 15/08/2024 16:08

If I went for a run then had a bag of chips on the way home, my DP would laugh, especially if I said "it's for the salt."

That said, you are right to be mildly annoyed at the hypocrisy if this not typical, and set high dudgeon to 10 if it's happened before.

PresidentBarklett · 15/08/2024 16:03

The disordered 'all or nothing' thinking on this thread is breath-taking. As is the natural assumption that people only exercise to lose weight. It says a great deal about us as a society.

ItsAlrightDarling · 15/08/2024 14:42

piccolorhinoceros · 15/08/2024 14:38

I was just thinking the same thing! So a crappy neon blue drink with essentially no nutritional value and full of sugar is okay, but a box of chips that OP will enjoy and will actually satisfy her hunger/craving is bad? It's far better to just eat the chips, at least they have fat and a little protein and minimal sugar. A Gatorade is just empty calories. A little bit of what you fancy does you good, as they say.

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The idea that Gatorade is a nutritionally superior option is hilarious.

piccolorhinoceros · 15/08/2024 14:38

ItsAlrightDarling · 15/08/2024 14:32

So many bizarre, uninformed and unhealthy attitudes to food and exercise on this thread.

I was just thinking the same thing! So a crappy neon blue drink with essentially no nutritional value and full of sugar is okay, but a box of chips that OP will enjoy and will actually satisfy her hunger/craving is bad? It's far better to just eat the chips, at least they have fat and a little protein and minimal sugar. A Gatorade is just empty calories. A little bit of what you fancy does you good, as they say.

ChuckMater · 15/08/2024 14:36

I'd give him some credit and say he's trying to be supportive. You'd be better having electrolyte drink and protein rather than chips but each to their own.