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Walking into neighbours garden

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hippopandamouse · 10/08/2024 22:50

Random one I know haha!

We live in between 2 of my family members. Our cat had a litter of kittens and one of them is being rehomed by my auntie next door. Every single time they have friends over they are lining the fence with them and staring into our garden to show them the kittens, fine - kittens are great!

However last week they had a huge piss up and after I’d put my 3DC to bed I came down to round up the animals and noticed my dog was stood staring in through their garden gate. Refused to come in when called (very unusual for her) I then realised why as my auntie briskly walked back into my garden holding one of the kittens.

She was a little taken aback to see me stood in the doorway and said “Oh I was just borrowing one of your kittens to show everyone!” I let it go and locked up.

Today same situation but different friend selection! I just so happened to be walking into the kitchen at 9pm and see her marching down towards our gate. She only noticed noticed us as the kids were making a racket. She looks at me and says “Oh!…I was just going to borrow the black and white kitten as C is really taken by him”

I know they’re family but there is no way in a million years she’d tolerate someone walking into her garden and helping themselves to something even if the intention was to return it. Am I being unreasonable to think this is just rude? I wouldn’t dream of doing that to anyone. Not the end of the world I know it’s just niggling at me.

My dad is the other side of us and whenever he’s not in both of his siblings (other lives a mile from us) and their family use his garden as a footpath but will never do it when he’s home.

My aunties DC is getting married and when my dad isn’t in she goes into his garden and takes rose petals from his bushes to make confetti. I know as she’s told me but hasn’t asked my dad if this is okay!

They also use his driveway to park their cars but again only if he’s not there.

Maybe I’m just being silly but I’m feeling a bit uncomfortable 😣

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Fraaahnces · 11/08/2024 00:06

Maybe use your words and talk to her about it.

Franjipanl8r · 11/08/2024 00:03

Honestlynotsure · 10/08/2024 23:25

This whole thread just screams 'tell me you live on a council estate without telling me you live on a council estate' 😄😄😄

A council house with a council house either side for her dad and her aunty!!??

TheMaddHugger · 11/08/2024 00:02

TheMaddHugger · 10/08/2024 23:59

Kitten Tax MUST be PAID

come on OP Pay up. Were is the a pics

how did i post yesterday ?????????? when i posted 3 minutes ago 👀

Tumbleweed101 · 11/08/2024 00:00

Doesn't sound like a typical neighbour set up if they are all your family. Boundaries are probably much more blurred than with unrelated neighbours, especially if you are remote. Can't you just be blunt and say the kittens need to stay where mum is for now?

TheMaddHugger · 10/08/2024 23:59

Kitten Tax MUST be PAID

come on OP Pay up. Were is the a pics

Toastandbutterand · 10/08/2024 23:52

I would imagine she's really excited about her kitten and it'll stop as soon as she has it in her home.

I'd just say that the kittens and mother are getting upset by it and you need to keep kitten in or they won't get properly taught by their mother and itll take longer til neighbour can take the kitten home.

Well done on rehoming a cat and taking the responsibility.

Klippityklopp · 10/08/2024 23:48

Honestlynotsure · 10/08/2024 23:25

This whole thread just screams 'tell me you live on a council estate without telling me you live on a council estate' 😄😄😄

You've made yourself look a bit of a tit there @Honestlynotsure.
Thinking you were being funny with the added Smile but not only were you being judgemental you were also wrong

CherryBlossom321 · 10/08/2024 23:41

Personally, I’d be moving, but I imagine you won’t want to do that. So the other option is to have boundaries. “Hi auntie, there seems to have been some confusion or misunderstanding on your part. You can’t walk into our garden uninvited and help yourself to the kittens. Please don’t do it again.”
Any resistance or argument just repeat, “You can’t walk into our garden without permission” ad verbatim.

Barrenfieldoffucks · 10/08/2024 23:41

I would assume some sort of family farm set up

Saz12 · 10/08/2024 23:40

Family are yr neighbours, AND you live in arse end of nowhere? Of course youll have issues w privacy. What eas discussed before you all ended up l8ving beside each other?

TheMaddHugger · 10/08/2024 23:38

Barrenfieldoffucks · 10/08/2024 23:31

God, between this and the 'wrong windows' thread it is really obvious where all the knobbers are hanging out tonight.

You're not unreasonable, obviously OP. Not sure why you're getting such odd responses.

wrong windows?

link please🌻

Myfluffyblanket · 10/08/2024 23:37

Honestlynotsure · 10/08/2024 23:25

This whole thread just screams 'tell me you live on a council estate without telling me you live on a council estate' 😄😄😄

Tell us your reading and comprehension skills are rubbish without telling us your reading and comprehension skills are rubbish .

InWalksBarberalla · 10/08/2024 23:36

I couldn't be living so close to family. They clearly aren't concerned with normal neighbour boundaries. Also as you let it go one time they probably figure you aren't going to make a fuss. Can you move??

DreamTheMoors · 10/08/2024 23:35

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TheDandyLion · 10/08/2024 23:34

Why are the kittens outside?

NotbloodyGivingupYet · 10/08/2024 23:31

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Barrenfieldoffucks · 10/08/2024 23:31

God, between this and the 'wrong windows' thread it is really obvious where all the knobbers are hanging out tonight.

You're not unreasonable, obviously OP. Not sure why you're getting such odd responses.

Silvers11 · 10/08/2024 23:29

Honestlynotsure · 10/08/2024 23:25

This whole thread just screams 'tell me you live on a council estate without telling me you live on a council estate' 😄😄😄

And you worked that out how?? Not what the OP says

maplelatte · 10/08/2024 23:29

This living situation would drive me nuts, OP, and I can't really see it improving as they all sound quite entitled. How are they when you're firm with them, with anything?

hippopandamouse · 10/08/2024 23:28

Honestlynotsure · 10/08/2024 23:25

This whole thread just screams 'tell me you live on a council estate without telling me you live on a council estate' 😄😄😄

I have a grand total of 2 neighbours and surrounding by fields 😂

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maplelatte · 10/08/2024 23:27

Honestlynotsure · 10/08/2024 23:25

This whole thread just screams 'tell me you live on a council estate without telling me you live on a council estate' 😄😄😄

OP has said she lives in the middle of nowhere, not on an estate?

Honestlynotsure · 10/08/2024 23:25

This whole thread just screams 'tell me you live on a council estate without telling me you live on a council estate' 😄😄😄

Cobblersorchard · 10/08/2024 23:23

Kittens should not be outside! We live very rurally and ours didn’t set a foot outside until they were 8 months old and absolutely never at night.

hippopandamouse · 10/08/2024 23:20

Overtheatlantic · 10/08/2024 22:54

Could it be that your family are horrified that you allowed your cat to have kittens??🐱

She was already pregnant when we took her on and has now been spayed!

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hippopandamouse · 10/08/2024 23:19

GrumpyPanda · 10/08/2024 22:57

My advice would be to take up topless sunbathing.

My favourite answer haha!😜

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