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Calling all mums of 13/14 year olds

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MrsCarterS112 · 10/08/2024 19:41

What are your experiences of teen relationships at this age. What should us mums expect?

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MigGril · 10/08/2024 21:39

DS 14 shows no current interest in having a girlfriend or boyfriend (I have asked just in case) He's way more interested in his computer games.

DD didn't have her first boyfriend until she was 15, you could say my kids are both a bit late starters. But they are just both occupied with other things.

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MrsCarterS112 · 10/08/2024 21:35

I mean romantic relationships

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CleverUmberLemur · 10/08/2024 20:56

My DD is 14 and has a boyfriend, they have been out just the two of them twice in 6 months and mostly hang out in a group at school and in the park. He is in her classes at school. She holds his hand and has kissed him on the cheek, she asked me about how you know how to do proper kissing she was quite disgusted that her friend told her you rub tongues together. We had a chat and she decided she isn’t ready for that yet. Bless her.
I also know she has a friend whose boyfriend has just finished his GCSEs and they have done a lot more as have a couple of others but in her friendship group it is mostly still “holding hands in the playground” type stuff.

Comedycook · 10/08/2024 20:49

What do you mean?

GladOliveUser · 10/08/2024 20:47

Mine is 13, no relationship. Some of DC's friends have had gfs and bfs since Y7. I talk to DC about relationships, boundaries and consent. Talking with them and listening to them is the plan as there is so much out of my control.

dbeuowlxb173939 · 10/08/2024 20:32

Relationships between you and teens or relationships between teens?

Rorpethy · 10/08/2024 20:22

Do you mean romantic relationships or the relationship between you and your teens?

ViscountDreams · 10/08/2024 20:21

Ds2 is 14 and has had a girlfriend for about 3 months now. She's lovely, very sweet and polite and they spend a lot of time together but mainly as part of a larger group.

Last week he came home with a bloody big lovebite on his neck 🤢 which warranted some discussions.

Catza · 10/08/2024 20:15

I bloody hope to expect no relationships at this age. Mine (14,5) still says it's gross seeing people in movies kiss and "so cringe" to see them hold hands 😂. I am comfortable with that for another year, then I am going to start thinking she is a bit weird.