FFS how does exH keep getting girlfriends?!

They really are.

I haven’t heard from my friend since so I suspect he’s explained me away as crazy and she’s believed him.

These men 100% know who to target. My sister was vulnerable when she met him (younger and was recovering from an eating disorder). My friend is newly divorced after her husband cheated.

Neither of these women would give ex-bil the time of day when they are feeling strong but it seems both have been sucked in whilst they are vulnerable.

Classic hobosexual. Goes from woman to woman, moves in with his sisters when he has nowhere else to go.
They are very charming and manipulative and know exactly what to say to impress a woman. They rewrite their own history and/or spin a line about how they've had problems with drugs/alcohol in the past but are clean now. Not seeing there children is always because the mother is nasty. Everyone is nasty to men like this and they do a whole "poor me" spiel.
They often prey on women who are vulnerable in some way - low self-esteem/recovering after an abusive relationship etc.
They fall in fast, make all the right moves and noises, then along comes the "accommodation emergency" where there's an issue where they are living eg. nasty landlord wants to evict them/fell out with housemates (no fault of his own of course)/living with parents or in this case sisters who finally get pissed off with him not paying his way/contributing/doing chores. This results in the man wangling his way in with the new girlfriend as he'll otherwise be homeless. Lots of emotional manipulation and so on, it'll only be for a while till I get back on my feet. And there you have it, the hobosexual has moved in.
The next stage is full on cocklodger. The accommodation emergency is followed by an "employment emergency" eg. loses job (no fault of his own)/bullied by manager or workmates and has to quit/too depressed to work etc.

The problem with them is that they are so convincing at first and promise the world.
My ex is like that. I was taken in by him at first. I was in a very emotionally unstable state as my mother had just died. Within 3 months he had moved himself in and then the drinking started. It took a long time to wake up to this and get rid of him.
After I got rid of him he went back to his parents. Soon after that he'd taken up with another woman in the village, one week after her husband of 10 years left her out of the blue. He later left her, not sure why, moved back in with his parents and in no time at all he'd taken up with yet another woman in the village who'd just moved here after a messy divorce in which all her friends (who were also mutual friends of her husband) abandoned her. My ex was straight in there....

If it wasn't for the motoring crimes I'd wonder if you were talking about Donald Trump or Boris Johnson.

I hate those kind of answers.
I would if I was she, and I bet you would too.

I love Prick Advisor!
There are actually FB groups dedicated to warning women about pricks. I see somebody has already mentioned that.
There are also websites which out cheaters and abusers.

Am I meant to regonise the man in the photo?
He is revolting with no penis whatsoever.

🤔very confused.
Move on OP

He must be very charming, love bomb, and target empathetic women with saviour complex

Prick Advisor!

😂

My ex husband was constantly and continuously abusing me and our children while living with a lady who was a psychiatrist.
I have since got to know her, she is lovely. But she believed all his lies as she was vulnerable herself. That was until he turned on her and her children.
People's want to be loved and needed is so great that they often just don't/carn't see the red flags.

@notameangirlhun That’s really sinister. If someone’s a convincing liar and maybe lies to some friends, or they cover for them if they meet you, it’s so hard to know. We all like to think we’re good judges of character but con men are convincing.

Low standards on both sides. The women he is getting may have low self esteem and perhaps not much going for them, so they're willing to accept this loser, at least initially. However, you notice they are not willing to stay with him long, which tells you they are not as pathetic as him.
My asshole ex found a girlfriend very quickly. I'm told she is somebody who is willing to accept him because all the other men she's had were even worse. I find that depressing and feel a bit sorry for her. Otoh, she knew what she was getting so it's on her. Anyway, not my circus, not my monkeys. You need to think of it that way. Your ex will continue to live his loser's life just as he always has, but it's got nothing to do with you now. You're free of him, so don't let him take up too much space in your head.

Let him get on with it he`s not your problem now.

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@RealHousewivesOfTaunton I've never seen that pic before but he looks about as well endowed as a Ken doll.

Does he seek vulnerable women or women with low self esteem?

Because some women are desperate, and just ‘settle’. The pool of available men out there is pretty small. Also some women have a history of getting with unsuitable men - their spidery senses are none existent. The fact that he keeps having to move on with someone else sounds like the women realise further into the relationship how crap he is, so I suppose it’s just he gives off a good first impression.

Man sues 50 women over posts made about him on “Are We Dating The Same Guy?” Facebook groups : r/OnlineDating (reddit.com)

This has happened. I think it's a brilliant idea but the guys weren't too happy!

@ARichtGoodDram

😂😂😂I'd loved to have seen her face!!

Are they a lot younger by any chance OP?

@C1N1C

you could try reading her posts!!

she was young, only 20, didn't live with him before they married, admits he had the chat etc.

not the same as wife 68, lots of kids with different woman & being told what he's like, knows drink/drive issues etc

its just not comparable.its really not.

Well he’s your ex so weren’t you his girlfriend once? 🤔

I was wondering the same. Presumably he's 'getting' these girlfriends the same way he got her?

But 'getting' is the easy part. It doesn't sound like he manages to keep any of these women.

Give thanks that you eventually dodged a bullet. Be grateful that he is no longer your problem. Enjoy that your life is (hopefully) better and more true than this terrible person who leaves wrecked lives in his wake. Live your life and rock on.

The pool is very small once you get older and have kids. Most of
the men have left their other families ( unlike women who keep the kids but just lose the man) so there's always baggage.
keep them all at arms length until the kids have left home

My friend has just married someone who has been married 3 times before. He seems lovely and they are very happy but you have to think one of them has some issues somewhere.

Clare's Law does allow the Police to disclose things that didn't make it to court, incidents that resulted in no charges etc.

And there are 2 restraining orders - they will be disclosed.

As she's got kids, I'd let the Police know and leave it up to them.

Abusive and/or manipulative men are often very very good at selling themselves and telling a story.

My ex's latest GF approached me in the supermarket a few weeks ago to say that 'they' were sick of me preventing him seeing our girls and they'd be at my door 'very soon' and I better let them see the girls. She was openly gobsmacked when I pointed out that the girls are university age adults and don't live in my house any more...