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FFS how does exH keep getting girlfriends?!

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RealHousewivesOfTaunton · 10/08/2024 17:49

The man has more red flags than a Chinese flag-waving competition.
🚩 Four children by three different women, two of whom he has no relationship with.
🚩 Two acrimonious divorces.
🚩 Two non-molestation orders to stop him harassing two of the mothers.
🚩 Convictions for drug-driving and driving without insurance.
🚩 A history of alcohol problems.
🚩 Can't seem to hold down a job and is financially incontinent.
🚩 Moves in with his sisters when he's between girlfriends because he doesn't believe "the man of the house" should have to cook, clean or do the laundry, even when he's the only one in it.

And yet, he's just moved in with yet another woman with her own children and a professional job. Why?! What could possibly be attractive about him as a LT relationship prospect? I can't imagine for a second that he's sharpened up his skills in the bedroom. The mind boggles.

FWIW I was wife #1, so didn't have any of the above history as a guide when I made the extremely poor decision to marry him.

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User135644 · 11/08/2024 09:47

Maybe the women are as bad as he is.

Like attracts like.

Frasers · 10/08/2024 22:49

I mean this gently but why do you care?

Bobloblaw84 · 10/08/2024 22:34

Why do you care?

FluentRubyDog · 10/08/2024 22:25

CliantheLang · 10/08/2024 21:18

You mean except for the fact that Trump's on good terms with his ex and he's been with his currant wife for over 20 years. And that all his children and grandchildren love and support him (see video). Yeah, exactly the same.

Off topic but I've always found it advisable not to derive my view of the world from media outlets that use the term "her penis" unironically.

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WalkingaroundJardine · 10/08/2024 22:11

If I was his script writer helping him get another woman, I’d spin it like this:

”I was so young, wild and unruly back then (rueful, wry smile into the distance). And my mum, wives and girlfriends didn’t know what to do with me - I was out of control. I feel sad that they all became angry, jealous and stopped me seeing my kids. Not that I blame them. But you’re different Stacey. You get me and understand me in a way they never did. I am older and wiser now - I’ve learned from my past mistakes and I’m not the same man anymore. I have finally met the woman I was meant to be with. I am glad I met you now and not back then…..”

I did put it in a corny way but I do think many women are attracted to that kind of narrative.

Choochoo21 · 10/08/2024 21:44

Some women are desperate.

And some men know how to prey on these types of women.

I’m thankful for things like MN where some women ask for advice before moving a strange man in with their kids (unfortunately not enough though).

CliantheLang · 10/08/2024 21:18

LlynTegid · 10/08/2024 19:56

If it wasn't for the motoring crimes I'd wonder if you were talking about Donald Trump or Boris Johnson.

You mean except for the fact that Trump's on good terms with his ex and he's been with his currant wife for over 20 years. And that all his children and grandchildren love and support him (see video). Yeah, exactly the same.

Off topic but I've always found it advisable not to derive my view of the world from media outlets that use the term "her penis" unironically.

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BoundaryGirl3939 · 10/08/2024 21:18

He must be ridiculously charming?

Scentedjasmin · 10/08/2024 21:10

I love the way that you describe him so eloquently. I would love to read your review on Prick Advisor.

PaminaMozart · 10/08/2024 21:07

RealHousewivesOfTaunton · 10/08/2024 18:59

@DonKedik similar lack of doing:

That photo goes a long way to explain why AT hates women as much as he does... 🌶

Travellingwithkidsintoe · 10/08/2024 20:52

SummerTimeIsTheBest · 10/08/2024 17:50

He sounds awful!

What’s financially incontinent?

Pisses money up the wall

5128gap · 10/08/2024 20:48

He is good looking/has superficial charm/wit/good company/presents as caring and supportive initially, and/or, is gravitating to women who have low bars/low self esteem/limited options/character flaws of their own that mean they struggle to do better.

FluentRubyDog · 10/08/2024 20:45

RealHousewivesOfTaunton · 10/08/2024 17:49

The man has more red flags than a Chinese flag-waving competition.
🚩 Four children by three different women, two of whom he has no relationship with.
🚩 Two acrimonious divorces.
🚩 Two non-molestation orders to stop him harassing two of the mothers.
🚩 Convictions for drug-driving and driving without insurance.
🚩 A history of alcohol problems.
🚩 Can't seem to hold down a job and is financially incontinent.
🚩 Moves in with his sisters when he's between girlfriends because he doesn't believe "the man of the house" should have to cook, clean or do the laundry, even when he's the only one in it.

And yet, he's just moved in with yet another woman with her own children and a professional job. Why?! What could possibly be attractive about him as a LT relationship prospect? I can't imagine for a second that he's sharpened up his skills in the bedroom. The mind boggles.

FWIW I was wife #1, so didn't have any of the above history as a guide when I made the extremely poor decision to marry him.

Were you married to Trump?

Sorry, couldn't help myself 🤭

shuggles · 10/08/2024 20:45

@RealHousewivesOfTaunton FWIW I was wife #1, so didn't have any of the above history as a guide when I made the extremely poor decision to marry him.

Well you were the first wife, so that means you will know the answer to your own question.

What was attractive about this man that compelled you to approach him and initiate a romantic relationship?

Theunamedcat · 10/08/2024 20:27

My ex is getting remarried third times a charm I guess? He got with this one while on police bail for raping her friend someone sent a letter to her place of work telling her his past crimes and her place of work suggested she got a disclosure done on him so she left the job and moved away with him she works full time to support him so he pays no child support apparently this and the lack of relationship with his children is all my fault lord knows what bullshit he spouts at them but the fact is his children are inconvenient for him

She doesn't realise taking him away from his children is doing them a favour they are free from his toxic behaviour for now

Honestly they both seem as bad as each other like meets like

TeaGinandFags · 10/08/2024 20:27

ChristmasFluff · 10/08/2024 19:17

Clare's Law does allow the Police to disclose things that didn't make it to court, incidents that resulted in no charges etc.

And there are 2 restraining orders - they will be disclosed.

As she's got kids, I'd let the Police know and leave it up to them.

If you have some contact details for her, you can make a third party Clare's Law application for her.

Then, you are well within your rights to gently request that she winds her neck in.

Addendum

Additionally, you can inform her that she's little more than a flying monkey, who you can guarantee will be royally shat upon by him in due course.

Perhaps you can kindly offer to report her for harassment. See how brave she really is. Mention it when you make the application.

KathrynWheel · 10/08/2024 20:25

4 children and counting caught up in all of this. They are the losers here.

Teanbiscuits33 · 10/08/2024 20:25

I once knew someone who kept getting GF’s who were single mums with their own houses and moving in within a week. Because he didn’t want to be homeless each time he became single he’d go for a certain type, and it worked every single time. The same types of women with similar backgrounds, been abused and desperate to be loved. They know who will fall for it. It’s pathetic really, on both sides.

RealHousewivesOfTaunton · 10/08/2024 20:24

Prick Advisor 😂Please set it up. I would read with popcorn.

The dongless wonder in the photo is Andrew Tate. Another prince among men.

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JennyJenny8675309 · 10/08/2024 20:20

SummerTimeIsTheBest · 10/08/2024 17:50

He sounds awful!

What’s financially incontinent?

I think it means shitting your income away!

bonzaitree · 10/08/2024 20:13

Men like this seem to be able to sniff out their next victim.

BedisBliss · 10/08/2024 20:09

SummerTimeIsTheBest · 10/08/2024 17:50

He sounds awful!

What’s financially incontinent?

I think financially incontinent is one of the best phrases ever!

XChrome · 10/08/2024 20:03

RealHousewivesOfTaunton · 10/08/2024 17:54

I'd love not to but newest gf/victim has decided to make it her business to tell me how awful I am and how I should be parenting my own children Hmm

Why does this bitch have any means to contact you though? Block her number. They obviously deserve each other, so just let them get on with being a pair of cunts and be glad he's not your problem anymore.

Omlettes · 10/08/2024 20:02

MissConductUS · 10/08/2024 19:12

Those women are telling themselves “I can fix him.”.

It’s the triumph of hope over experience.

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Teanbiscuits33 · 10/08/2024 20:01

RealHousewivesOfTaunton · 10/08/2024 18:59

@DonKedik similar lack of doing:

Hmm, this person just this minute popped up at random on my TikTok fyp! 😂 it’s watching! 😂

FFS how does exH keep getting girlfriends?!
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