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Stolen Bottle of Champagne

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NameChangeAndLifeChange · 10/08/2024 15:30

A bottle of champagne, worth about £70, has been stolen from the office.

Our manager said that if it's not replaced then the four staff members will need to pay for it between us.

I've got an idea who may have taken it but I can't be 100% sure.

I'm simply not prepared to pay for it. Why should I? Everyone else thinks we should!

Apparently I may get a written warning for not contributing (whilst that thief walks free)!!!

OP posts:
GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 10/08/2024 17:34

The manager could have taken it and now forcing you to pay again. I wouldn't pay.

CountessWindyBottom · 10/08/2024 17:33

What a bully your boss is @NameChangeAndLifeChange.

I simply don't understand the justification of asking you to replenish the cost of a gift that belonged to you all in the first place? Why on earth should any of you be out of pocket.

When was the champagne gifted? Was it there a while or was it gifted on a Thursday for example and by Friday it was gone? Could someone have come back to the office after a few drinks and decided to take it then?

Given that your boss is making such a big deal of it, my assumption would be that it was him that snaffled it and is acting the bully to draw attention away from himself. There's no way I'd pay!

EsioTrotlove · 10/08/2024 17:32

If it was a gift to you and your fellow employees, then technically you are the victim of a crime if it was stolen by someone other than the gift recipients. If it was taken by one of the gift recipients, then they are only a thief in regards to that part of the champagne that isn't their share. The theft is not from your employer, it from a group of people working in your office. Therefore it does not come under your boss's authority, and certainly does not permit him to take sanctions against anyone that affect their employment status or salary. I'd be telling him you will be calling the police yourself and consulting HR/ACAS if he wants to persist down this foolish course of action.

loupiots · 10/08/2024 17:31

Well, he can't do that. If you have no HR team, where's the written warning going to appear from?

Get written proof of what's he asking for - on the face of it, it seems illegal?

Phone ACAS for advice and see if it would be grounds to take him to a tribunal!

Wetherspoons · 10/08/2024 17:31

OP, please don't leave- make your boss sack you over the champagne bottle then you can get them done for unfair dismissal and be the biggest winner.

best scenario imo

NameChangeAndLifeChange · 10/08/2024 17:27

surreygirl1987 · 10/08/2024 16:42

This is insane. OP, I'm with you. If I didn't desperately need the job, I'd be prepared to walk over this. Some things are worth drawing a line over and this is just abysmal.

I'm in a fortunate position that I don't need this job so would take HUGE pleasure in telling him where to stick his bottle of champagne!!!

He thinks he has us all over a barrel, so the look on his face would be worth it!

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JabbaTheBeachHut · 10/08/2024 17:25

Don't tell him to stick his job.

Let him sack you and then take him to a tribunal.

Wishihadanalgorithm · 10/08/2024 17:22

The question I would ask is, how do you know the boss hasn’t stolen it?

I would say this to them and see what happens.

You could actually have a lot of fun with this. I would also contact ACAS.

OneCoolPearlOP · 10/08/2024 17:18

YANBU OP! Report report report.
The most ridiculous thing about this is that none of your colleagues are out of pocket. The champagne was a gift. No sane person would ask people to pay for it, you might as well keep your money and individually buy yourselves glasses of wine lol
Bet the manager took it.

OpheliaBaws · 10/08/2024 17:14

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azlazee1 · 10/08/2024 17:10

I would speak to the boss, tell them you had no part in taking the bottle and your're not willing to contribute.

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 10/08/2024 17:10

Last and only time it happened to me as a team we got read the riot act.
It was a bit more serious as it was stock going missing.
The boss gave us a talking to a few times.
I was Saturday staff (remember them?) and the boss let three go and blamed us.
Went in a week later, new boss.
Yep, it was the boss who was light-fingered.
I was at a school careers day years later and she was giving a talk on how to be a good employee.
Don’t know how I kept a straight face!

FinalInstructionstotheAudience · 10/08/2024 17:08

That's coercion, and if you resign as a result of this, you can take him to a tribunal for unfair dismissal.
Suggest you give the citizen's advice bureau a ring on monday

Twinklefloss · 10/08/2024 17:06

I’ll give you some free legal advice (not that you need to be a qualified solicitor to figure this out as many other posters have surmised); your boss simply can’t demand payment or otherwise garnish your wages to pay for your “share” . I think offering to support a police investigation is a good way to call his bluff.

SinnerBoy · 10/08/2024 17:04

needsomewarmsunshine · Today 16:54

I wonder if manager has swiped it for some reason and now needs to replace it?

We're of a similarly cynical mindset!

TonTonMacoute · 10/08/2024 17:03

Fuck that for a game of soldiers. Boss needs to grow up.

needsomewarmsunshine · 10/08/2024 16:54

I wonder if manager has swiped it for some reason and now needs to replace it?

SacreBleugh · 10/08/2024 16:53

Sethera · 10/08/2024 16:51

"I'll co-operate fully and freely with any criminal prosecution you might want to pursue, but I won't be contributing to replace this item"

Exactly this. This is actually outrageous OP. He's essentially blackmailing his employees because they are worried for their jobs. I would take this very seriously.

PhilosophicalCheeseSandwich · 10/08/2024 16:51

There's no way I'd contribute. Why is the manager more bothered about replacing an ultimately worthless shared gift than finding out who the dishonest employee is? Is there someone higher up than this manager you can talk to?

Sethera · 10/08/2024 16:51

"I'll co-operate fully and freely with any criminal prosecution you might want to pursue, but I won't be contributing to replace this item"

Tibbytab · 10/08/2024 16:51

on a much smaller scale, some good kept going missing at my work. Management said it was either me or two other colleagues as we were the only ones who had stayed late and the finger was pointed at all 3 of us. Like you, I was innocent and it turns out to be one of the colleagues - I was so surprised. No idea how they found out… maybe she admitted it

DeathByResponsibilities · 10/08/2024 16:50

Not the point but, is the cash he's demanding even going to be used to buy a replacement?
I agree with you op, I wouldn't be accepting a group punishment for something I haven't done, especially when if everyone on the team is under suspicion then this manager is not above suspicion so should be chipping in also.

Ridiculous when no one is actually out of pocket anyway.

CalicoPusscat · 10/08/2024 16:44

As frustrated as he might be, he needs to let this one go and next time lock it up.

It was a gift.

Allthislovelygreen · 10/08/2024 16:44

The boss stole it.

I'd bet my house on it!

Thelittleweasel · 10/08/2024 16:43

@NameChangeAndLifeChange

I would advise you ["Namechange"] to call the police [101 rather than 999 probably] and simply say that there has been a theft and - at this stage - ask what can be done. The bully should - of course - have done that already.

It will bring it out into the open