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to report this to the police, even though I am technically implicating myself?

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Imperrysmum · 10/08/2024 15:27

My local park is locked overnight and isn’t opened until 6am. It’s a huge park but in one area part of the fence is missing so I squeeze through and go into the park to walk my dog at 4am (he is an XL bully so I like to go the park when nobody is about)

The last few mornings when I have been walking round by the pond there have been a couple of men sitting on the benches next to the pond “feeding the ducks”. I noticed they have black bin liners next to them too. I’m pretty sure I recognise these men from working in a takeaway restaurant.

I am concerned they are trying to catch ducks. I hope i’m wrong, but I just can’t see why two adult men would sit feeding the ducks at 4am?! Especially as the park is officially closed and they have bin liners next to them.

AIBU to report this to the police, even though I’ll be implicating myself too?

OP posts:
Tulipsareredvioletsarebue · 12/08/2024 09:57

GripeOfTheDay · 12/08/2024 09:45

Nope, just like many other dear readers of Mums net, getting a little bored of the extreme responses to people posting, in some cases genuine concerns, for others just something they found amusing and thought they'd share.

It would be nice if posters could take their finger off the launch button and think before responding.

Original poster has been questioned on:

Why she has a xl bully
Why she's on the park/playground at time of the morning
Possible being racist as she suspects they're poaching

And I could go on and on and on.....

But back to basics here, rather than firing allegations around freely, it would be nice if deat readers could be a bit supportive of other Mums please as it is meant to be a space for people to share without judgement.

So pious panties off pls

But this posted has a dog, not a baby- so why would I be supportive of a 'mum'- since it has notghing to do with maternity, more with curtain twitching and gossiping about... two dudes sitting in a park by a pond. OP has no proof they are poaching, it's all based on a fact she recognises them from a local takeaway = they are suspicious, unlike her, who walks a dog in the same park where she should not have been.
I had a neighbour who tried to report to police a 'suspiciously looking Middle Eastern guy' for sitting in a parked car as she thought he was osberving houses on the street. Turns out he was waiting for his mother to take her to hospital.
OP needs to get her finger off the launch button, not people who question her motivation for reporting the men.

ns87 · 12/08/2024 09:52

I would be more suspicious of you, with a dangerous dog.

NarnianQueen · 12/08/2024 09:51

Do people really think that land that doesn't belong to them counts as "private property" and therefore their dogs will be exempt from dangerous dog laws when they're there? 😆

As for the rest of the thread, the binoculars shot makes me think you're trolling, op. But I agree it's not that unlikely that free meat may be a temptation to someone running a takeaway, not sure why everyone this that's such a crazy idea!

FinalInstructionstotheAudience · 12/08/2024 09:50

6079SmithW · 12/08/2024 08:34

Any update @Imperrysmum ??
I’m with you - sounds like they’re definitely trying to steal ducks.
This happened where I used to live, there was a small river running behind a takeaway.

Yes, of course it did
Clearly they have moved on from ats, which was the racist trope of the 70s
This post was a barely-disguised racist pop

FuriosFancyShirt · 12/08/2024 09:49

I’d rather see a couple of blokes sat feeding ducks than a weirdo walking a highly dangerous dog at 4am in the morning. Please keep us updated otherwise we’ll assume your dog has killed you

GripeOfTheDay · 12/08/2024 09:45

Tulipsareredvioletsarebue · 12/08/2024 09:20

Did I hit a soft spot?
But absolutely, i feel like I have a higher moral ground over someone who sneaks into an closed park with a dangerous dog and accuses people of snatching ducks for their business just because they may or may not work in a local takeaway, that comment already screamed racism and classism at the very best.

Edited

Nope, just like many other dear readers of Mums net, getting a little bored of the extreme responses to people posting, in some cases genuine concerns, for others just something they found amusing and thought they'd share.

It would be nice if posters could take their finger off the launch button and think before responding.

Original poster has been questioned on:

Why she has a xl bully
Why she's on the park/playground at time of the morning
Possible being racist as she suspects they're poaching

And I could go on and on and on.....

But back to basics here, rather than firing allegations around freely, it would be nice if deat readers could be a bit supportive of other Mums please as it is meant to be a space for people to share without judgement.

So pious panties off pls

Frasers · 12/08/2024 09:40

Can’t believe what I’m reading or gnat the op is hiding out in bushes. 😂

Noodlehen · 12/08/2024 09:32

Have you been arrested for skulking in the bushes of a locked park OP?

Tulipsareredvioletsarebue · 12/08/2024 09:20

GripeOfTheDay · 12/08/2024 09:07

Yes Tulip..

Whatever makes you feel you've got the moral high ground.

Whatever!!

Did I hit a soft spot?
But absolutely, i feel like I have a higher moral ground over someone who sneaks into an closed park with a dangerous dog and accuses people of snatching ducks for their business just because they may or may not work in a local takeaway, that comment already screamed racism and classism at the very best.

GripeOfTheDay · 12/08/2024 09:07

Tulipsareredvioletsarebue · 11/08/2024 20:23

Nice casual racism bit, with takeaway workers as potential duck stealers just because they sit by the like. A new low.

Yes Tulip..

Whatever makes you feel you've got the moral high ground.

Whatever!!

6079SmithW · 12/08/2024 08:34

Any update @Imperrysmum ??
I’m with you - sounds like they’re definitely trying to steal ducks.
This happened where I used to live, there was a small river running behind a takeaway.

Cityandmakeup · 12/08/2024 08:24

Butchyrestingface · 10/08/2024 15:32

Imagine what they think of you walking a restricted breed associated with multiple deaths round the park on your lonesome at 4am. 😀

This!

openforall · 12/08/2024 08:23

I would be more inclined to assume they're off loading waste ? Oil maybe

Lavenderblue11 · 12/08/2024 07:17

Cas112 · 10/08/2024 15:33

Potentially stealing ducks.. this has really made me laugh 😂

I honestly don't think your report will get taken seriously. Even if it is happening or not

This could be a real thing. There have been restaurant/takeaway owners near me who have been caught stealing sheep from the fields and illegally slaughtering them on the floor of a car wash. I don't know why you think it's funny?

Sloelydoesit · 12/08/2024 02:13

I'm sure someone has pointed this out but wild ducks don't make great eating and there is a finite supply.
There is an easier way to get food

JoBrandsCleaner · 12/08/2024 00:43

At least they’re not hanging about streets with a high population of cats, with a butterfly net 😺

MRSRUDEBOX · 12/08/2024 00:11

Any update on your findings OP?

Fedupofcommodes · 12/08/2024 00:09

@nonmerci That would mean you'd have to be one of the people lurking around the park too. 😀

Delta41 · 11/08/2024 23:57

If it’s these 2 guys, definitely call the police.
Rabbit, duck, varmint. They just don’t care.
Otherwise, probably let it go. I can’t imagine there’s a massive market for Mallard. If you feel like going all Miss Marple maybe steak (ahem) out the local butcher. I think Mallard contraband might fetch about a quid these days. Unless of course they’re stealing to order for Joey Tribiani.

to report this to the police, even though I am technically implicating myself?
Sunshine9218 · 11/08/2024 23:49

Ask them if they are catching ducks in a jokey way and see what they say!

Or make some other joke about the bin bags

Elliebeli · 11/08/2024 23:22

Notamum12345577 · 10/08/2024 15:51

They are probably wondering why an adult is walking a dog at 4am 😁

Well when you see a big scary dog walking /running around off the lead- you can understand why. Not rocket science

CRD67 · 11/08/2024 22:56

Pixiedust88 · 11/08/2024 21:34

Not all XL bullies are vicious. Some are the dopiest dogs ever. It is not the breed that is the issue it is the owner and how they are raised. People are a nasty breed with a terrible reputation but I don’t see anyone complaining that we need to be restricted or anything. If OP is a responsible dog owner and stays within the law when taking the dog out why shouldn’t they walk it at 4am to avoid judgment. Dogs can pick up on peoples reactions to them and it can make them defensive or nervous. As a dog lover myself I agree that some breeds are dangerous but OP if your dog is friendly I’d happily fuss it if I bumped into you

So XL Bully owners are disproportionately irresponsible then and the breed attracts arseholes does it? Maybe so but it's also the breed. Half of all of Britain's XL Bully dogs descend from one inbred animal from the US named Killer Kimbo', genealogy created a shallow gene pool of unstable fighting beasts responsible for 70 per cent of dog attacks in Britain.

Pixiedust88 · 11/08/2024 21:34

CRD67 · 11/08/2024 18:13

FFS you cannot be real. It's common sense for people to keep themselves and their kids away from XL Bullies. A nasty breed with a terrible reputation and rightly so

Not all XL bullies are vicious. Some are the dopiest dogs ever. It is not the breed that is the issue it is the owner and how they are raised. People are a nasty breed with a terrible reputation but I don’t see anyone complaining that we need to be restricted or anything. If OP is a responsible dog owner and stays within the law when taking the dog out why shouldn’t they walk it at 4am to avoid judgment. Dogs can pick up on peoples reactions to them and it can make them defensive or nervous. As a dog lover myself I agree that some breeds are dangerous but OP if your dog is friendly I’d happily fuss it if I bumped into you

Boopbeepbeepboop · 11/08/2024 20:56

No return form the OP? A non event then?

Suchasonganddance · 11/08/2024 20:36

Have you ever tried to catch a mallard?

For some reason my small garden pond attracts them. It’s not uncommon for a duck to arrive with fishing line tangled round its leg - almost impossible to catch and help them. I would be more concerned that the men were feeding them waste food that is totally unsuitable for ducks - eg bread.

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